Allen v. Farrow:

THE ENABLERS

Where there is incest, there are enablers. Mothers, fathers, siblings, neighbors, therapists, doctors, churches, schools. As the victim is groomed, so is the community. In this episode of Allen v. Farrow (HBO) we see how the community and family is groomed. How we are all groomed by narcissistic, predators, especially, the rich and famous.

This episode focuses on Allen’s sexual relationship with another of Mia’s adopted daughters, Soon-Yi. Within seven months of the shocking discovery of Dylan’s allegation of incest by Woody Allen, he further tears the family apart by a startling revelation about his sexual relationship with Soon-Yi.

Allen, a public relations genius, is able to distract the media, the police, prosecutors, and the public, away from Dylan’s allegations of incest and onto another allegedly consensual relationship with Mia Farrow's other adopted daughter, Soon-Yi. The public, courts, legal system, media, become enablers to Allen’s Hannibal Lector plot to twist the truth.

In this episode, Shari Karney delves into HBO's Docuseries Allen v. Farrow Season 1.

THE SECRET.
The secrets that surround incest and child sexual abuse, especially when it occurs in the family.

Shari Karney is the victim of father-daughter incest. She understands what the child victim feels and the predatory obsession of the perpetrator. She understands Dylan Farrow's confusion, self-blame, sadness, depression, denial, guilt, and trauma. And how trauma compounds trauma. She also understands the mindset of predators, perpetrators, and incest aggressors. How they groom their victim, the community, the public. How the perpetrators can mask as 'caring fathers', excuse their obsessive inappropriate behavior toward the child as 'loving' their child victim too much. How the victim feels confusion, guilt, and pain, both physical and mental. Dylan Farrow, Woody Allen's adopted daughter with Mia Farrow, alleges that Woody Allen sexually abused her when she was 6 years old. She also details Allen's uncomfortable, unrelenting obsession with her.

This episode delves into alleged incest and the shame and secrets surrounding it. We see firsthand, the grooming process that predators use to prepare the family, community, professionals, and even, as a celebrity, the media, for the sexual assault to come. Dylan “He was always ‘hunting’ me.” Neighbors, members of the family, multiple family friends reported Allen was intensely obsessed with Dylan. One time, Dylan remembers in this episode that Allen told her to “suck his thumb.” In time, it became clear that Allen put incredible focus on her. “He didn’t want to see the other kids. He wanted to see only me,” Dylan said. We learn that all victims are groomed. Grooming is subtle, hiding in the shadows, often invisible to victims.

In HBO's Allen v. Farrow, this episode sheds new light on the fact that Connecticut state prosecutor Frank Maco, despite believing there to be grounds to continue, elected not to criminally prosecute Woody Allen for the alleged sexual abuse of Dylan.

While Allen continues to receive accolades in Hollywood and is supported by famous actresses who worked with him, the momentum of the #MeToo movement coupled with Ronan Farrow’s public support emboldens Dylan to go public with her story for the first time. This podcast is about breaking silence when you are ready, and how empowering it is to Roar as One.

In this bonus episode, we discuss that while Mia Farrow tries to shield 7-year-old Dylan from the trauma of repeated questioning about sexual abuse, Allen’s legal and PR team drives a narrative that Mia is a scorned woman and unfit mother who brainwashed her children. What ensues is a harrowing custody battle where Allen tries to get sole custody over Dylan, Moses, and Ronan Farrow.

You get to experience the legal system, its bias towards women and children. People say the system is "broken." We say the system was designed this way to have power and control over women and children. Every mother's nightmare. A custody fight, where she goes to war to save her children, and the alleged perpetrator goes to the nuclear option to win. Win at all costs, no matter the damage.

In this episode, I’m talking to Jenny Coleman who works with perpetrators, sexual abusers and pedophiles in trying to STOP them from abusing again. Stop It Now! is a perpetration prevention program to help and support people who have abused, or are at risk of abusing children...so that they stop and get treatment.

Jenny says, “ We believe in compassionate, respectful support to all...even if that person has harmed someone.”

Some have called, STOP IT!STOPIT NOW! ‘OFFENDER FRIENDLY’. Jenny says, “absolutely not true, but she says, “ I understand how victims of sexual abuse may feel this way.”

STOPITNOW OFFERS A Helpline service created to provide accessible, confidential information, guidance and support to anyone who is worried that a THEY ARE SEXUALLY HARMING A CHILD, or knows someone who is, concerned about their own or someone else’s sexual feelings or behaviors toward children, has survived sexual abuse, or is simply seeking information to keep children safe from harm

Stop it now is a perpetrator, child sexual abuser program.

Jenny Coleman is a member of the Association for the Treatment of Sexual Abusers (ATSA), serving on their prevention committee and is a member of the National Association to Prevent Child Sexual Abuse.

Listeners, Please Note: Shari Karney, the host of Roar with Shari. . . All Things Justice for Women and Survivors is a survivor and a practicing attorney in California representing victims of child sexual abuse, sexual harassment, and sexual assault.

Even though Shari Karney is a licensed practicing attorney in the State of California practicing in the areas of child sexual abuse, sexual assault, sexual harassment, this podcast is intended for informational purposes only, there is no expectation of confidentiality and is not intended nor should it be construed as legal advice. For legal advice, you should seek competent legal counsel. If you’re interested in speaking to Karney’s law practice they can be reached at https://karneyadvocates.com

In this episode, I’m talking to a grandmother who experienced first-hand the devastating impact of child sexual abuse in her family. The financial, emotional, psychological and legal devastation.

It all began when Carol D’Attoma’s six-year-old granddaughter was sexually abused by her father. He was arrested, and Carol’s daughter’s main source of income was gone. The mother of the child (Carol’s daughter) had to sell her home, her car, and re-locate to a less expensive area with more immediate family support.

Her income was not enough to support her four little girls, so Carol and her husband John began a campaign to raise money to help her pay for medical deductibles, co-pays, fresh fruit and vegetables, and assist with her living expenses.

Carol D'Attoma now devotes full time executing her passion for helping families and children victimized by child sexual predators. She is Co-Founder of Sexually Abused Children’s Relief Endeavor known as SACRED.

Sacred has raised $1,082,102 since our inception, granted over $640,000, assisted 340 families and growing and assisted 317 children.

Listeners, Please Note: Shari Karney, the host of Roar with Shari. . . All Things Justice for Women and Survivors is a survivor and a practicing attorney in California representing victims of child sexual abuse, sexual harassment, and sexual assault.

Even though Shari Karney is a licensed practicing attorney in the State of California practicing in the areas of child sexual abuse, sexual assault, sexual harassment, this podcast is intended for informational purposes only, there is no expectation of confidentiality and is not intended nor should it be construed as legal advice. For legal advice, you should seek competent legal counsel. If you’re interested in speaking to Karney’s law practice they can be reached at www.karneyadvocates.com

Please also note that Karney Law is owned by Shari Karney. Karney is the founder of Roar as One. Roar as One is a nonprofit, Karney Law is a law firm and they are otherwise unaffiliated.

In this episode, I’m talking with former Jehovah’s Witness, Mark O'Donnell who rips the lid off the Jehovah’s Witness Secret DATA BASE OF CHILD ABUSE

“It’s like a cult.” says, Mark O’Donnell in the documentary made about the child sexual abuse occurring in the JW, called “Crusaders.” JW makes people fear for their lives and puts them in a box they cannot escape.

Mark is now a heroic whistleblower about the secret child sexual abuse files he alleges were KEPT HIDDEN in Kingdom Halls, in congregations throughout the World

Finding the secret data base was like finding the holy grail.

Mark O’Donnell is all about truth, and how he is turning his pain into purpose.

The dirty little secrets are well kept. According to Attorney Irwin Zalkin, “The problem with Jehovah’s Witness’ the child sexual abuse in that organization is much more prevalent than it is even in the Catholic Church.”

Listen with us today, to Mark O’Donnell’s story of how he turned from being a faithful believer in Jehovah Witness and Watchtower to being disfellowed, shunned banned for making made public Jehovah Witnesses dirty little secret of rampant child sexual abuse and torture among elders, parishioners, and fellows toward the very children the organization claimed to care so much about, and how JW knew and did nothing about it.

Listeners, Please Note: Shari Karney, the host of Roar with Shari. . . All Things Justice for Women and Survivors is a survivor and a practicing attorney in California representing victims of child sexual abuse, sexual harassment, and sexual assault.

Even though Shari Karney is a licensed practicing attorney in the State of California practicing in the areas of child sexual abuse, sexual assault, sexual harassment, this podcast is intended for informational purposes only, there is no expectation of confidentiality and is not intended nor should it be construed as legal advice. For legal advice, you should seek competent legal counsel. If you’re interested in speaking to Karney’s law practice they can be reached at https://karneyadvocates.com/

Please also note that Karney Law is owned by Shari Karney. Karney is the founder of Roar as One. Roar as One is a nonprofit, Karney Law is a law firm and they are otherwise unaffiliated.

#Sexual Assault Awareness Month

I’m talking to Mary Reigel an experienced Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT). and Trauma Recovery Specialist who has been working in the field of death, grief, and trauma about how to recover from trauma.

Can you ever fully recover from trauma? What does recovery look like?

We talk about the fear that so many trauma survivors carry of going to therapy and having to re-experience the trauma in order to “recover from it.” Mary Reigel talks about trauma-free, trauma recovery. New and emerging trauma therapy treatment methods.

We also define trauma. What is trauma? Big trauma, small trauma. And how trauma shapes our brains, and how we are completely affected by what we’ve lived through. And how trauma has real, emotional, physical, and social consequences.

Mary Reigel, LMFT, with over 36 years of experience helping people, has seen an amazing increase in the positive outcomes achieved in informed psychotherapy practices. These improvements are a result of the accumulation of knowledge, experience, and cutting-edge therapies.

Mary helped individuals and organizations. In time she was working side-by-side coroner investigators, police, EMS, and firefighters in the big and little disasters that impact our lives. She knows that no amount of money or job title can immune us from life's sorrows. She also knows that people can recover with a solid sense of well-being.

Though Mary is a full-time psychotherapist, she is also the founder of the Grief STEPtm Programs and its Say the Right Thing and Do the Right Thing Trainings, and an Approved Consultant for EMDRIA, Certified in EMDR treatment for trauma, Certified in Clinical Hypnosis, and an approved trainer for the ICISF.

Mary talks about trauma, recovery, hope. How you can heal and turn your pain into purpose.