In this Radically Alive Women conversation, Julia Neumann speaks with Annamária Sütő (“Wolf Woman”,) a Hungarian from Transylvania living independently in a small village, and her adult daughter Anna Réka Ötvös, who is frequently traveling between Siberia and Hungary, and learning to feel “home” within herself.

They discuss shifting the mother-daughter relationship from blame and constant arguing to listening, gratitude, and choosing to focus energy on one’s own life.

Annamária describes a turning point around age 35 when she stopped trying to change her mother from a rebel stance, made a gratitude list for what she received from her maternal line, and chose to change her focus on her own life and how she wanted to live. She also reflects “forward” to her relationship with Anna Réka, acknowledging that she gave her all she could and that it is up to her daughter what she does with her life.

Anna Réka shares her own realisations about boundaries, from having been an adaptive daughter, and seeing her mother as human, not an all-knowing goddess (“I don’t need google, I have my mom”).

They link honoring mothers to respecting Mother Earth, embracing light/dark duality, and reconnecting to instincts, including practical reflection on using anger as life power, symbolised by “wolf woman” teachings. They conclude by emphasising the importance of a woman’s intuition, and the role of fear and anger in that reconnection.

This episode is an ode to choice, presence and creation looking forward - not trying to fix the past, yet honouring the necessity of healing and acknowledging ancestors.

Annamária and Anna Réka offer Mother-Daughter retreats to heal the mother-daughter relationship. Contact either of them for more information.

The song in the background at the beginning is Annamária’s song “The Strength of a Woman”, in Hungarian. These are the lyrics in English:

⁠The strength of a woman⁠

The strength of one woman moves the mountains away

The strength of two women ignites the fires

The strength of there women opens the lands

The strength of four women causes the springs forth

The strength of five women calls the winds

The strength of six women opens the worlds

The strength of seven women opens the gates

The strength of eight women opens the souls

The strength of nine women opens the hearts

The strength of one woman gives birth to life.

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For more information:

Sütő Annamária Babi Farkasasszony,

⁠https://sutoannamaria.hu⁠⁠https://asszonykepzo.hu/⁠⁠https://lampaskartya.hu/⁠⁠https://hetkapuore.hu/⁠

YouTube, ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@SutoAnnamariaBabi⁠

Julia Neumann, ⁠julia-neumann.com⁠

Radically Alive Women, ⁠radicallyalivewomen.com⁠

Robina McCurdy - New Zealand born, a woman firmly grounded on this earth, a global weaver of creating a regenerative culture, an community elder who is young in her heart and ageless in her wisdom. The 76-year old woman of many hats shares through a number of examples how to live life to its full extension through one's life stages and takes a fierce stand for elderhood being recognized and honoured in our culture. Being a grandmother of children - and not a biological grandmother herself - she highlights the importance of intergenerational connection that keeps eldership alive. She is a walking example for young women to demonstrate how it can go 'not to be somebody for anybody' anymore and becoming a person of astute observation, of service, and calling out the bullshit with no holding back. She paves a way forward on how to unapologetically be yourself. As an elder and literally gradually excarnating into the spiritual world she speaks of the unique place she is in to weave between the spiritual and the world of deep matter. And like the cherry on top of the icing she dissembles one of the most misunderstood myths of getting older - she reveals unwaveringly that sexuality only becomes deeper and more insightful than ever before.

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For more information:

Robina McCurdy - https://earthcare-education.org/

Tui Community - https://www.tuitrust.org.nz/

GENOA - https://genoaecovillage.org/

Permaculture NZ - https://permaculture.org.nz/

SEEDS - https://www.seedsindia.org/

The Raging Grannies -https://raginggrannies.net/

The knitting Nannies - https://knitting-nannas.com/

Possibility Management - Rage Club: https://www.rageclub.org/

Tides - Rites of Passage : https://www.tracks.net.nz/tides

Maori waiata: Māori songs or chants, integral to culture for storytelling, emotional expression, and historyJulia Neumann - https://www.julia-neumann.com/

Annika Korsten - www.annikakorsten.org

Julia Neumann from Radically Alive Women speaks with parenting coach and "Tides" rites-of-passage facilitator Amy Weber and young woman Gabriela Fagundes about mother-daughter relationships, especially the transition of girls into womanhood.

Amy describes navigating the empty nest as a mother and how "Tides" and "Rising Tides" help mothers and daughters renegotiate patterns, create space, and recognise that daughters’ transitions also change mothers’ identities. She shares how community and ritual can help normalise and celebrate menstruation, and support both the daughter’s push for freedom and the mother’s grief and identity shift as she “becomes obsolete” in stages.

Gabriela shares her experience of pushing away, cutting contact, trying to change her mother, and eventually listening and meeting her mother as a woman, emphasising how judging or blaming mothers impacts accepting life.

They discuss generational patterns, dependence, and consciously creating new ways to honour first bleeding.

Practical suggestions include creative expression of feelings for mothers, and daughters writing a four-page love letter to their mothers.

Amy's and Gabriela's co-written book on first bleeding is in an open-ended “gestation” process without a deadline.

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For more information:

Amy Weber, heartconnectionparenting.com

Gabriela Fagundes, gabrielafagundes.com

Rites of Passage Foundation, which offers the "Tides" programme, tracks.net.nz

Article by Gabriela Fagundes on the topic, gabrielafagundes.substack.com/p/the-joys-and-challenges-of-motherhood

Julia Neumann, julia-neumann.com

Radically Alive Women, radicallyalivewomen.com