New Year, True You: Trauma Healing Through Self-Acceptance, Safety, and Worth

“New year, new you” sounds motivating...but for people healing from trauma, it often feels like another way we’re told we’re not enough yet.In this episode, we slow that narrative way down.Healing isn’t about becoming someone new. It’s about reconnecting with your true self—the version of you that existed before coping strategies, people-pleasing, hypervigilance, and survival modes took over. The thriving life you want doesn’t come from forcing change; it comes from allowing what’s already there to surface safely.I walk you through a simple but powerful reflective exercise used in trauma healing and nervous system regulation: clearly envisioning the life you desire: not just the outcome, but your average day, how you want to feel, move, and exist. From there, we gently ask “why”: and then ask it again: until we reach the root drivers underneath the dream. For most of us, those roots are safety and worth.We talk about:Why “new year, new you” can be harmful for trauma survivorsLetting go of coping mechanisms without shaming yourself for needing themHow attachment wounds shape our goals and motivationsSitting with discomfort instead of bypassing itReclaiming worth and safety as internal experiences, not external achievementsWhy healing is a journey, not a destination—and why that’s actually freeingThis isn’t a one-time exercise or a quick fix. It’s a practice you can return to as you grow, helping you notice your wounds with compassion, tend to them in real time, and prove to yourself- over and over- that you are already worthy, lovable, and enough.If you’re healing from childhood trauma, emotional neglect, or relationship trauma and feel alone in the process, this episode is here to remind you: you’re not broken, you’re becoming yourself again.