Double standards can show up in any marriage, but over time they can quietly erode connection and trust. The tricky part is, they’re not always obvious and sometimes they hide in the everyday routines and unspoken expectations you’ve had for years.

In this episode, I’m breaking down how double standards show up, why they can feel so frustrating (even if you can’t put your finger on exactly why), and what to do if you suspect they’re taking a toll on your relationship.

Tune in to discover:

• How to spot double standards you may not even realize are there

• Why these patterns feel so personal and emotionally charged

• A simple way to talk about them without starting a fight

• What to focus on if the dynamic feels unfair but hard to change

• The shift that can help you feel like you’re on the same team again

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There’s one sneaky force behind so many disconnections in marriage, and most couples don’t even realize it’s happening until they’re deep in resentment, withdrawal, or feeling like roommates.

In today’s episode, I’m breaking down the hidden link between the mental load and marriage shutdown, and why it’s about so much more than just who does the dishes. I’ll walk you through the three layers of mental load, the emotional toll it takes (especially on moms), and the subtle but powerful ways it impacts connection, intimacy, and teamwork.

Whether your spouse “helps” or not, this episode will help you understand why it still feels like too much and what to do about it.

Tune in to discover:

• How the mental load contributes to emotional burnout and disconnection
• The 3 H’s of the mental load and why one part in particular is the hardest to share
• Why your partner might not get it and how to talk so they finally do
• The real reason you feel stuck even if you’ve talked about this before
• What to focus on if your spouse can’t help more due to work, travel, or other commitments

The Us System: https://marriedafterkids.com/the-us-system

FREE Marriage Shutdown Checklist: https://marriedafterkids.com/marriage-shutdown?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=links&utm_campaign=MSoptin

Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:

https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call

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You may have heard the headlines: men are doing more housework than ever before. Sounds like great news, right?

But in this episode, I’m breaking down why this seemingly positive trend can actually be really harmful for moms, and the very important piece that’s missing from the conversation. If you’ve ever been told you should feel grateful for your partner’s “help” but still feel unsupported, unseen, or like you’re carrying the mental weight of everything, this one is for you.

I’m sharing personal stories, research, and practical tools to help you move beyond “help” and toward true co-leadership in your home and relationship.

Tune in to discover:

• Why it’s not just about doing more—it’s about who’s managing it all
• The dangerous message moms get when they’re still overwhelmed but told to “be grateful”
• The key difference between household chores and the mental load (and why it matters)
• How to talk to your spouse about sharing the invisible weight (without a fight)
• The surprising long-term risks of ignoring this dynamic in your marriage

The Us System: https://marriedafterkids.com/the-us-system

FREE Marriage Shutdown Checklist: https://marriedafterkids.com/marriage-shutdown?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=links&utm_campaign=MSoptin

Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:

https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids