A few weeks ago I talked about avoidant attachment, but I realized I needed to take you deeper. There are actually two very different forms of avoidant attachment, and understanding the difference can completely change how you interpret your spouse’s behavior and how you respond to it.

In today’s episode, I’m breaking down the difference between dismissive avoidant and fearful avoidant attachment, how each one develops, and the specific ways they show up in marriage, especially after kids. I’m also sharing which one my spouse resonates with and how understanding this has changed the way we navigate conflict, emotions, and connection in our relationship.

If your partner withdraws, minimizes emotions, gets overwhelmed by big feelings, or swings between closeness and distance, this episode will help you finally understand why.

Tune in to discover:

• The core fear behind avoidant attachment and why it develops

• Key traits of dismissive avoidant partners and how they show up after kids

• Why fearful avoidant partners crave closeness but also pull away

• How these styles influence conflict, emotions, and communication

• Why understanding your partner’s pattern helps you respond with more confidence and care

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There is one tool that has the power to shift the emotional climate of your marriage faster than almost anything else. It reduces shutdown, lowers stress, strengthens teamwork, and helps you feel genuinely seen by your spouse. But even though it is simple, most couples struggle to use it consistently or effectively after kids.

In today’s episode, I am breaking down why this tool matters so much, what gets in the way of using it, and how to start integrating it into your marriage in a way that feels authentic instead of forced. This one shift can completely transform how connected, supported, and understood you feel.

Tune in to discover:



• Why this tool is one of the strongest protectors against marriage shutdown

• The invisible barriers that keep couples from using it even when they want to

• How overwhelm, attachment, and expectations get in the way of connection

• The mindset shift that makes this tool work even when your spouse is not doing it back

• How to build a culture of connection that strengthens your marriage every single day

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One of the most common dynamics I see in marriage (especially between anxious and avoidant attachment styles) is the push and pull between emotional and physical intimacy. One partner needs emotional closeness before they can be physical, while the other needs physical connection before they can open up emotionally. And this cycle leaves both partners feeling unseen, frustrated, and stuck.

In this episode, I’m breaking down why this happens, what’s really going on underneath the surface, and how to start changing the pattern so you can both get your needs met. You’ll learn how attachment styles play a major role in this dynamic, why neither partner is “wrong” for what they need, and how small shifts in perspective and action can completely change your connection.

Tune in to discover:

• Why emotional and physical intimacy often feel like opposite needs

• How attachment styles shape your comfort with closeness and vulnerability

• What’s really happening when you both feel unmet and misunderstood

• The mindset shift that helps you meet each other’s needs without resentment

• How to rebuild teamwork and connection, even when it feels impossible

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