What happens when the very people who were supposed to love us, protect us, and cherish us turn out to be the source of our deepest pain?

In this revealing episode, Lisa A. Romano, trauma-informed life coach and codependency recovery expert, explores the heartbreaking reality behind why so many children grow up loving the very people who harmed them—and how this sets the stage for adult codependency.

From narcissistic parents to emotionally neglectful caregivers, this episode dives into the psychology behind trauma bonding, betrayal blindness, and why our subconscious minds cling to toxic dynamics. Lisa unpacks the emotional and neurological imprinting that causes children—and later, adults—to overlook red flags and remain loyal to harmful people.

In this episode, you’ll discover:
🔍 Why the most dangerous people are often the ones closest to us
🧠 How childhood trauma wires the brain for survival, not clarity
💔 The tragic link between emotional betrayal and codependency
🪞 Why children internalize the abuse and blame themselves
🔁 How unresolved childhood wounds manifest as self-abandonment, people-pleasing, and unhealthy adult relationships

This episode is for you if:
✔️ You struggle to set boundaries with family or romantic partners
✔️ You feel guilt or shame for distancing yourself from toxic loved ones
✔️ You often feel drawn to fix, rescue, or gain approval from others
✔️ You suspect your past is still impacting your relationships today

Resources Mentioned:
🌱 Start your healing journey with Lisa’s groundbreaking 12 Week Breakthrough Program
👉 https://www.lisaaromano.com/12-wbcp

📘 Watch Lisa’s related video: Why You Still Love the Person Who Hurt You
👉 YouTube Channel – Lisa A. Romano

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Why do we cling to people who hurt us? Why does the fear of abandonment feel so unbearable? In this episode, Lisa A. Romano, expert in trauma recovery and codependency healing, unpacks the powerful link between attachment theory and codependency.

From early childhood dynamics to the subconscious fears that drive our adult relationships, Lisa breaks down how insecure attachment styles—like anxious or avoidant—set the stage for emotional dependency, people-pleasing, and self-abandonment.

If you've ever felt like you're addicted to love, overly responsible for others, or terrified of being alone, this episode will help you trace those patterns back to their origin—so you can begin to heal them.

In this episode, you'll learn:
What attachment theory is—and how it relates to codependency
How unmet childhood needs create fear-based attachment styles
Why codependents often attract emotionally unavailable partners
How anxious attachment leads to over-functioning in relationships
Steps to begin forming healthier, more secure connections

This episode is for you if you:
✔️ Fear abandonment or rejection in relationships
✔️ Struggle to speak your truth or set healthy boundaries
✔️ Feel responsible for other people’s emotions
✔️ Tend to give more than you receive in friendships or love

Resources Mentioned:
🌱 Begin healing your attachment wounds with the 12 Week Breakthrough Program
👉 https://www.lisaaromano.com/12-wbcp

🎓 Learn more about attachment theory and recovery on Lisa’s YouTube channel
👉 YouTube – Lisa A. Romano

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Does your life feel out of control? Do you find yourself feeling stuck, angry, and resentful, and no matter how hard you try to be nice, or kind, or considerate, you only end up feeling worse? Dear One, that is no accident, as you will learn in this incredible breakthrough episode podcast.

Before Lisa A. Romano was diagnosed with codependency, she lived her life prioritizing others' needs, unaware that her lack of self-awareness, her inability to put herself first, or even to have her needs recognized, was rooted in trauma and missing information. Once Lisa was diagnosed with codependency and learned from an intuitive therapist that she was the adult child of unrecovered adult children of alcoholics, and possibly even dry alcoholics, the wheels in her mind started to turn.

From there, Lisa hit the books and the ground running, consuming every book and mentor she could to help her unwind her mind from self-loathing, hypervigilance, negative self-talk, insecurity, and deep feelings of shame and inadequacy. By adding new data into her data bank of self-understanding, through a ferocious and tenacious will, slowly Lisa's entire inner self-perception began to shift, and like a Rubik's cube, her life started reorganizing itself.

Lisa A. Romano is the first to tell you that healing is ugly, terrifying, and lonesome, and she will also ask that you accept the quest despite this, because it is the only way to break through the thick matrix caused by generational trauma. If you are the adult child of an alcoholic, or if you were raised by toxic, narcissistic, wounded, immature, or codependent parents, or if you grew up in what seemed like a normal family but felt emotionally neglected, this podcast episode will resonate with you.

This episode is a must-listen if you:

• Grew up with a parent who struggle with alcoholic parents.

• You are the grandchild of an alcoholic.

• You feel stuck, angry and like your life is out of control.

• Ache to understand yourself, and how your subconsicous mind controls your emotions, reactions, thinking, and your expectation all outside of conscious awareness.

✨ Pro tip: Understanding how your childhood has impacted how you 'think' today, how you 'react', and what you expect to occur in your life is you activating metacognition. Childhood trauma resides at the subconscious. Lisa's methods help you breakthrough!

Begin Your Healing Journey:

Lisa introduces her signature 12 Week Breakthrough Method—a trauma-informed, psychologist approaved, neuroscience-based coaching program designed for adult children of narcissistic, neglectful, or emotionally immature parents.

Inside the program, you'll discover:

• Brain retraining techniques rooted in neuroscience.

• Inner child healing and self-concept reorganization.

• Journaling prompts and assessments to increase self-awareness.

• Tools to stop subconscious self-abandonment and live authentically.

• How to integrate shadow work and break toxic generational patterns.

Thousands have transformed their lives with this method—learning to step out of survival mode and into authentic, empowered living.

👉 Learn more: https://www.lisaaromano.com/12-wbcp

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