There’s a moment when the fear of what’s coming feels heavier than anything we’ve faced. I’ve been there—frozen, anxious, sure the unknown was out to get me. In 2023, my husband and I faced something that shook us, and it made me confront a fear so many of us carry: the fear of the unknown.

It’s not the unknown that scares us—it’s the stories we’ve superimposed from our past. The heartbreak, the trauma, the disappointments—we carry them into the way we imagine the future, and suddenly, the what-ifs feel paralyzing.

Freedom comes when we release the past from the future. We soften, stop protecting ourselves from what hasn’t happened, and trust that we’re okay. I share stories from my life and the women I coach—about heartbreak, loss, and the what-ifs—to show how letting go opens the door to peace. We’ve survived hard things before. We can survive what comes next, too.

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Connect with Deanna Herrin:

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LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/deanna-herrin/

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Website: http://www.deannaherrin.net

There was something about this conversation with Dasha Dare that cracked me open in the best way. The way she weaves photography, self-perception, and consciousness together feels like a permission slip for every woman who’s been trying to keep herself “put together” while quietly longing to feel seen in a truer way. Our stories crossed paths on LinkedIn, but what she shared with me goes far deeper than a professional connection — it’s a whole new lens on how we relate to ourselves.

Dasha walked me through how our self-image is actually shaped long before we ever stand in front of a mirror, and how the photos we avoid looking at often hold the exact wisdom we’re craving. Her view of selfies as spiritual practice stunned me — not vanity, not performance, but a doorway into the parts of ourselves we’ve been taught to hide. One line I’m still sitting with: “You are never the image — you are what’s beyond it.” It’s the kind of shift that makes you rethink why your marriage, your body, your career, and your identity feel the way they do… and what might soften when you stop trying to manage the image and start meeting the woman beneath it.

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Connect with Dasha Dare:

Instagram: @dashadare
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/dasha-dare/
Website: www.dashadare.com and www.time2dare.com

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Connect with Deanna Herrin:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/deannaherrin/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/deanna-herrin/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thedeannaherrin

Website: http://www.deannaherrin.net

Some seasons of marriage stretch you in ways you never saw coming — especially when you’re doing the inner work and your partner says he wants to… but his actions don’t quite match your pace. I’ve walked that road. I know what it feels like to carry the emotional weight of the relationship, to want growth so badly you could almost shake it into happening, and to wonder if things will ever shift.

This conversation pulls back the curtain on what was actually happening inside me during those years — and how, even recently, the chaos of our renovation brought an old pattern to the surface. You’ll hear why resisting life (and resisting your partner’s timing) creates suffering, what changed instantly when I stopped trying to manage his healing, and the quiet kind of feminine leadership that invites a man forward instead of pushing him away.

If you’ve been longing for more connection, more emotional honesty, or simply more ease in your marriage, this one will feel like a deep exhale.

Come join me — and if this speaks to you, make sure you’re subscribed and share the episode with another woman who’s carrying too much on her own.

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Connect with Deanna Herrin:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/deannaherrin/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/deanna-herrin/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thedeannaherrin

Website: http://www.deannaherrin.net

There comes a moment when your body whispers the truth before your mind is ready to hear it. Today, I’m sitting down with someone who knows exactly what that feels like — and has turned that moment into a mission.

I’m joined by the incredible Emma Gaskin, a speech therapist turned public speaking coach who empowers women to speak their truth and get paid to do it. Her journey is a powerful reminder that our voice is more than words — it’s identity, alignment, and our pathway to impact.

Emma opens up about walking away from a decade-long relationship just months before the wedding… and discovering her true voice in the silence that followed. She shares how her Speak Up Method blends science, soul, and strategy to help women stop shrinking, own their impact, and speak with power that people feel.

We get into the neuroscience of storytelling, the social conditioning that teaches women to stay small, and the difference between speaking from a wound vs. speaking from the wisdom it gave you. You’ll also hear simple everyday ways to practice using your voice

If you’re ready to stop swallowing your truth and start standing in it, this conversation is your permission slip.

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Connect with Emma Gaskin:

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/thespeakinghub/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/emmajgaskin/

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Connect with Deanna Herrin:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/deannaherrin/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/deanna-herrin/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thedeannaherrin

Website: http://www.deannaherrin.net

I used to believe my happiness depended on my husband changing—but I’ve learned that the real work is within. In this episode, I share how trying to fix him left me feeling unsafe, reactive, and disconnected, and how I realized my reactivity wasn’t about him at all.

I walk you through the shifts that transformed my marriage and deepened emotional intimacy: reclaiming your voice, meeting your inner little girl with love and compassion, regulating your nervous system, and releasing stuck emotions. These practices create space for real connection, understanding, and love—not just in your marriage, but in every relationship in your life.

By doing your own inner work, you’ll discover how changing your perspective and healing your past wounds transforms your relationships and allows love and trust to flourish naturally.

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The Conscious Marriage Method is your roadmap to transforming old relationship patterns into lasting healing and connection. Within this 4-month program you’ll receive guided coaching and practical exercises to begin to heal old wounds, speak your truth, and create a marriage full of intimacy, trust, and joy. Click here to explore

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Connect with Deanna:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/deannaherrin/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/deanna-herrin/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thedeannaherrin

Website: http://www.deannaherrin.net

Feeling disconnected in your marriage doesn’t mean love is gone. Often, it’s old patterns, unspoken stories, and unmet expectations quietly running beneath the surface. I share my own journey of feeling alone in a marriage I deeply loved and how I learned to recognize what was really happening.

• How subtle stress and childhood programming can create distance over time
• Why “doing more” never restores intimacy
• How triggers reveal the deeper stories running your marriage
• Steps to shift from surviving to feeling emotionally close, seen, and understood

If you’ve ever wondered why connection fades, this conversation will help you see the unseen patterns and offer insight into how to reconnect—with your partner and yourself.

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The Conscious Marriage Method is a step-by-step approach to uncovering the hidden patterns that create distance in your marriage. Through guided coaching and practical exercises, you’ll release old stories, rebuild emotional intimacy, and create a marriage that feels connected, authentic, and joyful. Click here to explore.

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Connect with Deanna:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/deannaherrin/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/deanna-herrin/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thedeannaherrin

Website: http://www.deannaherrin.net

Silence in a marriage can feel like the safest choice. The silent treatment is a shield we use to protect ourselves. When old childhood wounds or emotional triggers surface, it can become a natural response to withdraw.

I share my personal journey of understanding the silence in my own marriage. What I discovered is that it wasn’t about shutting my partner out—it was a cry to feel seen, held, and safe. Recognizing these hidden emotions allowed me to create deeper connection, intimacy, and emotional safety in my relationship.

Silence can also deepen emotional disconnection and fuel resentment if left unchecked. We’ll explore how to respond differently: stay present, communicate your truth, and process emotions without withdrawing.

If you’ve ever gone quiet to protect your heart or avoid conflict, this episode will help you uncover what that silence is really saying—and transform it into understanding, closeness, and conscious communication.

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The Conscious Marriage Method is your roadmap to transforming old relationship patterns into lasting connection. With guided coaching and practical exercises, you’ll heal old wounds, speak your truth, and create a marriage full of intimacy, trust, and joy. Click here to explore

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Connect with Deanna:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/deannaherrin/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/deanna-herrin/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thedeannaherrin

Website: http://www.deannaherrin.net

Marriage can be the most beautiful mirror for our own healing. For years, I tried to change my husband, only to realize the real work started within me. In this episode, I open up about the five powerful shifts that changed everything in my marriage—five ways I learned to love my husband better by first learning to love myself.

These shifts came through deep inner work: releasing resentment that had quietly built up over decades, rewriting the stories I’d been telling myself about who my husband was, taking responsibility for my own needs, and learning to see him through a lens of gratitude instead of lack. The most life-changing part? Reconnecting with myself—my body, my feminine energy, and the woman I’d lost along the way. When I stopped trying to change him and chose to look inward instead, our entire relationship transformed.

You’ll hear honest, heartfelt reflections (like how resentment really just “poisons from the inside out”) and the mindset changes that brought more intimacy, play, and peace into a 33-year marriage. These are the kinds of lessons that don’t just change a relationship—they change your life.

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Ready to experience this kind of transformation in your own marriage? Join me for my upcoming 3-day workshop where we’ll release resentment, rewrite your stories, and open your heart to deeper connection. Save your seat here: https://deanna-herrin.mykajabi.com/resentmentresetlive

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Connect with Deanna:

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LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/deanna-herrin/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thedeannaherrin

Website: http://www.deannaherrin.net