Who do you think you are? And who gets to decide?

This week on the podcast we're talking about identity- the thoughts you think about yourself and the power they have over your experience of being the only one.

Based on what I see inside Be The First, too many of you are walking around with identities that don't serve you. Perhaps those identities are inherited. Sometimes they are adopted. Other times they are imposed or have simply accumulated.

But the one I see most often is the identity of being the Only One.

How you think about yourself in the room isn't just important. It's your whole experience. Not just how you feel. But how you behave. How you perform. And your readiness to step up to the next level. It's the difference between doing just enough to survive in this industry and being the black lawyer who thrives in this industry. Not just inside the office. But in your relationships and personal life too.

Something this important can't be left to chance. And it doesn't have to be. You can choose your identity and I recommend you start making that choice now.

if you're a black lawyer, whatever your career stage, this is exactly the work we do inside the Be The First Membership. In it you will get immediate access to the Identity Course where you explore 5 core aspects of your identity and shape these into an empowering speech - The Imposter Speech - to override self doubt in the moment and give you the confidence to show up at your highest level.

Doors open 1st May. Save the date and be the first to know by joining the waitlist here.

I'm hearing too many stories of you not getting the feedback you need to motivate you, confirm you're meeting expectations and support your progression to the next level.

Working for partners or line managers who communicate badly (or not at all) or who constantly postpone or cut short your review isn't just frustrating, it's unacceptable.

It's also career threatening.

Feedback that is consistently unforthcoming or unclear, or is too little and arrives too late, has far too often been the critical factor in your decision to head for or worse, be shown, the door.

But feeling powerless in the face of inadequate feedback should never be what derails your career.

You've worked too hard, for too long, and been through way too much for that.

That's why in this week's episode of the Legal Imposters podcast I help you change that.

In it I explain why you must stop leaving your feedback to chance (having a line manager who takes it seriously and does it well) and take ownership of that feedback yourself. I also give you a 3 step process for actioning this advice right now, the minute you finish listening to the podcast.

If your brain is rebelling against making feedback your job, it's not alone! This is hard coaching. One of my client's immediate reaction to this inside Be the First was "why should I be the one?!".

I get it.

But why should they be the ones to derail your career?

Taking ownership of your feedback isn't letting your boss off the hook. In fact, it isn't about them at all. It's about you: in the driving seat of your career so no one person's neglect can come between you the career you want to build and the life you want to live.

Happy listening.

P.S. Taking ownership of your feedback is harder when you depend on external validation to believe you're enough. If you're a black lawyer and this is you, I invite you to join the Be The First Membership, where you learn to overcome Imposter Syndrome and build confidence in who you are, so you can be brilliant at what you do. Doors open on 1st May. If this resonates, join the waiting list today and receive an invitation direct to your inbox when enrolment opens. Click here to join the waitlist.

It isn't enough to be valuable. You must be able to articulate that value and communicate it in a language the leadership understands.

Here's what I see:

1. You present a history of the work you've done and deals you've closed ("Look at everything I've done for this firm") and tell yourself it should be enough. But entitlement doesn't get you promoted. Value does.
2. You work diligently with your head down and hope someone will notice and give you the role. ("They can see I'm a safe pair of hands"). But hope doesn't get you the role. Value does.
3. You work hard with your head high and make it someone else's job to connect the dots. ("I shouldn't have to spell it out!"). But expectation doesn't get you promoted. Value does.

Whether you're preparing your business case for promotion to partner, interviewing for a new role today or looking for a permanent role at the end of your training contract, the message is the same: don't leave it to others to work out the value of what you do. Show them.

If your next thought is "yes Caroline, but how?" you're in the right place.

This week on Legal Imposters I'm giving you a framework for articulating your value and communicating it with ease so you never leave your promotion or retention to chance again.

This is the exact same framework I teach my mid to senior and partner clients inside Be The First to build their business case for promotion and build their book of business. Apply this framework as directed and it will do the same for you.

Questions? Send me a DM on Social.

Happy listening.

P.S. If you're a black lawyer and this episode has you thinking "I don't have the confidence" to showcase my value like this, I invite you to join Be The First Membership, where we uncover all the ways Imposter Syndrome holds you back in your day to day, then we investigate it and make it your strength. Doors open on 1st May. If this resonates with where you are right now, join the waiting list today and receive an invitation direct to your inbox when enrolment opens. Click here to join the waitlist.