This is part two of our series on dysfunctional families and ADHD.

If last week’s episode felt heavy, emotional, or disorienting, that makes sense. Episode one was about naming reality—and naming reality can stir grief, anger, relief, or all three. But we can’t change what we’re not willing to name.

Today, we answer the next (and crucial) question:

If that’s dysfunction… what does health actually look like?

Because knowing what you don’t want isn’t enough. You also need a clear picture of what you’re moving toward.

In this episode, I walk you through 10 signs of a healthy, functional family—not perfect families, not calm-all-the-time families, but regulated-enough, repair-focused, emotionally safe-enough families. Yes, even with ADHD.

We talk about:

1. Why repair—not perfection—is the real difference between healthy and dysfunctional families
2. What direct communication, emotional attunement, boundaries, and accountability actually look like in real life
3. How to end parentification and create age-appropriate roles
4. Why unconditional love, safety, and reliable care matter more than appearances
5. Small, realistic shifts you can make without shame or perfectionism

This isn’t a pass/fail checklist. It’s about direction, not perfection.

If you’re pausing, noticing, repairing, and setting boundaries—you are already changing the pattern. And that’s how generational cycles end.

Your family can be marked by safety, honesty, connection, and repair. Even with ADHD. Especially with ADHD.

Resources mentioned:

@codependencykate

@timfletcherco

@sitwithwhit

@benvbennett

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Today’s episode is part one of a two-part series on dysfunctional families and ADHD.

I’m sharing this from a very real place. The last few weeks have been heavy with extended family drama, and when things feel overwhelming, I name it and bring it into the light. As someone writing a book on healthy relationships for adults with ADHD, I want you to know I come by this work honestly.

When I look at my own family tree, I see generations shaped by abuse, addiction, emotional neglect, and unaddressed mental health struggles. I refuse to despise my lineage—but I also refuse to continue these patterns. It stops with me.

If you have ADHD, there’s a strong chance your family system shaped how safe it feels to have needs, set boundaries, and regulate emotions. This episode isn’t about blame or shame—it’s about clarity.

You’ll learn:

1. Why dysfunction can exist even when there was love
2. How emotional neglect often goes unnoticed
3. Why guilt shows up when you set boundaries
4. 10 common signs of a dysfunctional family system

Awareness is how cycles are interrupted. In Part Two, we’ll explore what healthy families actually look like and how to move toward that—without burning it all down.

Episode Resources:

Toxic Family Test

Patrick Teahan YouTube

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