How to Stop Saying Things You Regret

We've all been "triggered"—that moment in a conversation when an emotional bomb goes off, and we say something unplanned, unscripted, and forceful that we later regret. The result is the painful "cleanup on aisle three": the relationship repair work that follows an automatic, defensive reaction we didn't mean.

In this episode, host Brett Hill shares his personal story of being one of the most reactive people he knew and the lifelong pursuit that followed. He reframes this work not as simple "self-improvement," but as a "craft"—a set of skills, like playing an instrument, that must be practiced before you're in a high-stress situation.

Learn a two-part practice to build your resilience: first, how to develop an "early warning system" by studying the physical "surge" of a trigger. Second, discover a "foundational practice" you can use in low-stakes conversations (like with a cashier) to intentionally "wire in the circuitry" for a considered response.

This episode is a practical guide to reclaiming your power and becoming the person in charge of your voice, rather than giving someone else the ability to "press a button on you".

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