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How Not To Suck At Divorce

How Not To Suck At Divorce

By: Morgan Stogsdill and Andrea Rappaport
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Most people make expensive divorce mistakes before they even understand the process. Get expert divorce advice, practical divorce help, and cost-effective divorce strategies to avoid costly mistakes, reduce legal fees, and navigate divorce with clarity, confidence, and control. Most people spend thousands learning this the hard way. Don’t be one of them. The Divorce Crash Course (a $150 value, available for $50) shows you exactly how to prepare for divorce, avoid costly legal mistakes, and protect your finances before you even hire a lawyer. How Not to Suck at Divorce is the divorce podcast for people who want real answers, smart strategy, and emotional clarity during one of the most stressful times of life. This isn’t surface-level advice or generic legal talk. It’s honest, practical divorce guidance designed to help you make better decisions from the very beginning. Hosted by powerhouse family law attorney Morgan Stogsdill, head of family law at one of the largest firms in the country, and comedian-turned-marketing expert Andrea Rappaport, the show combines legal expertise with real-life experience. Together, they break down what actually matters in divorce and what too many people get wrong. Each episode focuses on the decisions that can cost you the most if you’re not prepared, from custody and co-parenting to negotiations, communication, and financial strategy. You’ll learn what to say to your lawyer, how to prepare for divorce before you file, and how to manage emotions without letting them derail your case. If you want a clear, step-by-step plan instead of figuring this out on your own, The Divorce Crash Course walks you through exactly what to do before, during, and after divorce so you can make smarter decisions with less stress. This podcast is built for every stage of the process. Whether you’re thinking about divorce, in the middle of it, or rebuilding your life after, you’ll find clear divorce planning strategies, practical tools, and real-world guidance you can actually use. It’s about protecting your kids, your finances, and your future while staying grounded through a process that can easily feel overwhelming. What makes this show different is the combination of expert insight, real-world scenarios, and a tone that doesn’t feel heavy or intimidating. You’ll hear conversations with leading experts in law, psychology, finance, and safety, alongside honest discussions about the emotional side of divorce, including stress, conflict, and starting over. 💡 WHAT YOU’LL LEARN How to avoid costly divorce mistakes and reduce legal fees Divorce strategy, planning, and decision-making frameworks How to prepare for divorce before hiring a lawyer (and avoid expensive legal missteps) Co-parenting strategies and managing high-conflict personalities Communication tools to protect your case and reduce stress Financial planning, asset protection, and negotiation strategies Mindset tools to stay clear, calm, and in control From high-conflict communication strategies like the BIFF method to understanding financial transparency, custody dynamics, and digital safety, each episode is designed to give you clarity on what matters most. You’ll also hear from experts like Bill Eddy on managing conflict, Steven Bradley on tech and digital safety, and Dr. Nadine Macaluso on trauma, healing, and emotional resilience. At its core, this podcast is about helping you make smarter decisions during one of the most important transitions of your life. It’s practical, strategic, and grounded in real experience. And if you’re ready for a more structured approach, The Divorce Crash Course is there to guide you every step of the way. You’ll get through this. And you’ll do it better than you think.Morgan L. Stogsdill and Andrea Rappaport 2021-2025 Hygiene & Healthy Living Personal Development Personal Success Psychology Psychology & Mental Health Relationships Social Sciences
Episodes
  • Divorce Anxiety Relief: A 5-Minute Guided Meditation for When Everything Feels Like Too Much

    Divorce Anxiety Relief: A 5-Minute Guided Meditation for When Everything Feels Like Too Much
    Jun 5 2026
    Divorce Anxiety Relief: A 5-Minute Guided Reset for When Everything Feels Like Too Much

    If you're listening to this episode, chances are something happened.

    Maybe you received a text from your ex.

    Maybe your attorney sent an email.

    Maybe you're feeling overwhelmed by co-parenting, custody issues, financial stress, or simply the emotional weight of divorce.

    Or maybe nothing happened at all.

    Maybe you're just exhausted.

    In this special guided meditation episode of How Not to Suck at Divorce, Andrea Rappaport walks you through a simple but powerful exercise designed to help calm your nervous system, regulate overwhelming emotions, and get your brain back online when divorce anxiety starts to take over.

    When we're triggered during divorce, our brains often convince us that every problem needs to be solved immediately. This guided reset helps you slow down, reconnect with the present moment, and remember one important truth:

    Your feelings are real. But they are not emergencies.

    Whether you're experiencing divorce anxiety, panic, sadness, anger, overwhelm, or emotional exhaustion, this episode is designed to help you pause, breathe, and regain perspective.

    Save this episode and come back to it anytime you need a reset.

    In This Episode You Will Learn

    ✅ How to calm your nervous system during divorce stress

    ✅ Why emotional overwhelm can make it difficult to think clearly

    ✅ A simple grounding exercise to reduce anxiety

    ✅ How to stop spiraling thoughts during divorce

    ✅ Why your feelings are real—but not emergencies

    ✅ How to regulate your emotions before responding to a triggering text or email

    ✅ Practical techniques for staying present during difficult moments

    ✅ How to focus on the next hour instead of the next year

    Timestamps

    (00:00) Welcome and emotional reset

    (01:00) Why your feelings are not emergencies

    (02:15) Understanding divorce anxiety and spiraling thoughts

    (03:30) Grounding exercise: 5 things you can see

    (04:15) Grounding exercise: touch and sound awareness

    (05:15) Why your divorce is not your identity

    (06:20) Focusing on the next hour instead of the next year

    (07:10) Guided affirmations for divorce recovery

    (08:20) Final breathing exercise and encouragement

    Key Takeaways

    🔹 Divorce anxiety can make ordinary problems feel like emergencies

    🔹 Emotional regulation helps you make better decisions during divorce

    🔹 Grounding exercises can quickly calm an activated nervous system

    🔹 Your divorce is something you're experiencing—not who you are

    🔹 Healing happens one regulated moment at a time

    🔹 You do not have to solve your entire divorce today

    About the Hosts

    Andrea Rappaport is a comedian, marketer, divorce survivor, and co-host of How Not to Suck at Divorce. Through humor, honesty, and practical tools, Andrea helps people navigate divorce with more clarity, confidence, and hope.

    Morgan Stogsdill is the Head of Family Law at one of the largest family law firms in the country and brings practical legal insight to every episode.

    Divorce Crash Course

    Typically priced at 150, available now for $50, thanks to our angel underwriters, Our Family Wizard and Soberlink.

    👉 https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/divorce-crash-course

    Resources

    🎧 Need this reset in video format? Watch here:

    https://youtu.be/S5cjebeOvBY

    👉 Our Family Wizard

    https://www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuck

    👉 Soberlink

    https://www.soberlink.com

    Keywords: divorce anxiety relief, divorce meditation, guided meditation for divorce, divorce stress, divorce overwhelm, divorce panic, emotional regulation, divorce healing, divorce recovery, co-parenting stress, nervous system regulation, anxiety relief, divorce support, life after divorce, divorce podcast

    #DivorceAnxiety #DivorceMeditation #DivorceRecovery #EmotionalHealing #HowNotToSuckAtDivorce #DivorceSupport #GuidedMeditation #AnxietyRelief #LifeAfterDivorce #CoParenting
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    8 mins
  • Divorce: How to Handle the Rejection When You Didn't Want the Divorce

    Divorce: How to Handle the Rejection When You Didn't Want the Divorce
    Jun 3 2026
    ***Link to the Guided Meditation for Divorce Anxiety**How Not to Suck at Divorce YouTube Divorce: How to Handle the Rejection When You Didn't Want the DivorceDivorce is painful no matter what. But when you're not the one who wanted it? It can feel like so much more than a life change. It can feel like rejection.In this heartfelt mini episode of How Not to Suck at Divorce, Andrea Rappaport and Morgan Stogsdill tackle one of the most painful—and least discussed—parts of divorce: being the spouse who didn't want the marriage to end.But first- Don't miss out on our Divorce Crash Course. It's $50 for a limited time. Get it now to save thousands on your divorce. Why does being left hurt so much? Why do so many people immediately assume they're not enough? And how can that emotional pain quietly derail your divorce case, cost you money, and keep you stuck chasing answers you'll never get?Andrea and Morgan break down what happens to your brain when you're blindsided by divorce, why rejection often feels personal even when it isn't, and how to keep heartbreak from driving legal decisions.Plus, Andrea shares a simple but powerful tool that helped her survive some of her darkest divorce days: the "scheduled meltdown."In This Episode You Will Learn✅ Why divorce rejection feels so personal ✅ What happens to your brain when you're blindsided ✅ Why people often treat divorce like evidence against themselves ✅ How emotional pain can lead to expensive legal mistakes ✅ The difference between grieving a person and grieving a future ✅ Why family court cannot provide emotional closure ✅ How heartbreak can derail settlement negotiations and mediation ✅ The legal risks of making decisions from a place of hurt ✅ Andrea's "scheduled meltdown" technique for emotional regulation ✅ How to get your brain back online when emotions take overTimestamps(00:00) Why divorce feels like rejection when you didn't want it (03:16) The emotional conclusions people make after being left (04:20) How rejection can derail your divorce strategy (05:21) You're not really fighting about the house (06:33) Grieving the future you thought you would have (07:07) Why legal deadlines don't stop for heartbreak (08:17) The expensive trap of chasing closure (10:12) Morgan's cautionary tale about "Chad" and emotional decision-making (12:02) The opposite problem: fighting every battle out of anger (13:30) Separating emotion from legal strategy (14:00) Andrea's "scheduled meltdown" exercise (16:33) How to release emotions without sabotaging your case (18:18) Why this divorce is only one episode in your storyKey Takeaways🔹 Being left by your spouse does not mean you're unworthy of love 🔹 Divorce often triggers emotional conclusions that are not based in reality 🔹 Chasing closure through the legal system rarely works 🔹 The court can divide assets and parenting time, but it cannot heal rejection 🔹 Emotional decisions can dramatically increase the cost of divorce 🔹 Healing starts when you stop letting one person's decision define your value 🔹 You can feel your feelings without letting them drive the busAbout the HostsAndrea Rappaport is a comedian, marketer, and divorce survivor dedicated to helping people avoid costly divorce mistakes while finding hope on the other side.Morgan Stogsdill is the Head of Family Law at one of the largest family law firms in the country and helps listeners navigate divorce with clarity, confidence, and practical legal guidance.Divorce Crash CourseTypically priced at 150, available now for $50, thanks to our angel underwriters, Our Family Wizard and Soberlink.👉 https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/divorce-crash-courseJoin Our Free Community👉 https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.comResources👉 Our Family Wizard https://www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuck👉 Soberlink https://www.soberlink.comKeywords: divorce rejection, blindsided divorce, spouse wanted divorce, coping with divorce, emotional divorce recovery, divorce grief, divorce healing, divorce support, family court, divorce mediation, divorce podcast, high conflict divorce, emotional regulation, divorce anxiety, divorce heartbreak, life after divorce#Divorce #DivorceRecovery #DivorceSupport #HowNotToSuckAtDivorce #BlindsidedDivorce #DivorceHealing #LifeAfterDivorce #CoParenting #FamilyLaw #EmotionalHealing
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    20 mins
  • Divorce and AI: The Smartest Ways (and Most Dangerous Ways) to Use ChatGPT During Divorce

    Divorce and AI: The Smartest Ways (and Most Dangerous Ways) to Use ChatGPT During Divorce
    May 29 2026
    People are already using AI during divorce whether attorneys like it or not.They’re asking ChatGPT to:analyze texts from their exexplain legal documentshelp write co-parenting responsesbuild parenting schedulesorganize timelinesprepare for mediationand sometimes… emotionally spiral at 2amSo where’s the line between using AI strategically and using it in a way that could quietly damage your case?Leave us a review!👉 Before you make expensive divorce mistakes, grab the Divorce Crash Course — typically priced at 150, available now for $50, thanks to our angel underwriters, Our Family Wizard and Soberlink.In this incredibly timely episode of How Not to Suck at Divorce, Andrea Rappaport and Morgan Stogsdill are joined by Texas family law attorney Reagan Riddle to discuss how artificial intelligence is changing divorce, co-parenting, communication, and even courtroom strategy.From using AI to reduce attorney fees and improve organization to the dangers of emotional validation, legal misinformation, and AI-fueled conflict, this episode explores the smartest — and most dangerous — ways people are using ChatGPT during divorce.If you’ve wondered whether AI can help you survive divorce more strategically… this episode is for you.In This Episode You Will Learn✅ The smartest ways to use AI during divorce ✅ Why ChatGPT should never replace an attorney ✅ How AI can help organize timelines and legal documents ✅ Using AI to improve co-parenting communication ✅ Why emotionally reactive people can misuse AI ✅ The dangers of AI-generated legal confidence ✅ Whether judges can tell when communication sounds AI-generated ✅ How AI can potentially lower divorce costs ✅ Why AI should help you think clearer — not spiral harder ✅ The ethical and emotional risks of relying too heavily on AI during divorceTimestamps(00:00) Why people are already using AI during divorce (01:48) Meet Reagan Riddle and the changing world of family law (03:02) The smartest ways clients are using ChatGPT (05:14) Can AI help explain legal documents? (07:21) Using AI to organize evidence, timelines, and communication (09:40) The dangers of AI-generated legal certainty (12:06) Why AI can accidentally fuel emotional spiraling (14:32) Can ChatGPT help improve co-parenting communication? (16:28) The pros and cons of AI-generated responses (18:54) Whether judges can recognize AI-generated messaging (21:12) The emotional danger of over-relying on AI validation (24:17) Using AI strategically to reduce attorney fees (27:41) The most unhinged things people are probably asking ChatGPT during divorce (30:06) Why AI should help you become more organized — not more obsessive (33:11) Final advice for using AI responsibly during divorceKey Takeaways🔹 AI can be a powerful organizational and communication tool during divorce 🔹 ChatGPT is useful for clarity and preparation — but not legal advice 🔹 Emotional validation from AI can sometimes increase conflict and obsession 🔹 Using AI strategically may help reduce attorney fees and improve communication 🔹 Divorce decisions still require human judgment, emotional regulation, and professional guidance 🔹 The goal of AI during divorce should be helping you think clearer — not react harderAbout the HostsMorgan Stogsdill is the Head of Family Law at one of the largest family law firms in the country, bringing practical legal insight and strategy to every episode.Andrea Rappaport is a comedian, marketer, and divorce survivor who shares honest, relatable conversations to help people navigate divorce with more clarity and confidence.About the GuestReagan Riddle is an Equity Partner at Armstrong Divorce and Family Law in Texas and is Board Certified in Family Law by the Texas Board of Legal Specialization. Reagan focuses exclusively on family law and is known for her strategic, detail-oriented approach to helping clients navigate complex and emotionally difficult divorce matters.Resources👉 Divorce Crash Course https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/divorce-crash-course👉 OurFamilyWizard https://www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuck👉 Soberlink https://www.soberlink.com👉 Learn More About Reagan Riddle Armstrong Divorce & Family Law - Reagan RiddleAI and divorce, ChatGPT divorce advice, using AI during divorce, co-parenting communication, AI and family law, divorce strategy, high conflict divorce, divorce technology, ChatGPT and co-parenting, divorce attorney advice, family court tips, emotional regulation during divorce, AI communication tools, divorce podcast#DivorceAdvice #ChatGPT #AIandDivorce #FamilyLaw #CoParenting #DivorceSupport #HowNotToSuckAtDivorce #DivorcePodcast #EmotionalRegulation
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    35 mins
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I’m so glad this podcast exists. Divorce is not fun and it’s complicated and emotional. But the hosts not only break the process down, they are hilarious and lovable. Thank you for bringing lightness, humor and hope to a heavy topic! I binged the whole season..please have a season 2!!!

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