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Hey Gay Boy

Hey Gay Boy

De: James Wallis
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Hey gay boy.


This is a podcast about the things nobody warned us about. The quiet shame, the overthinking, the patterns we carried into adulthood without ever being given a name for them.


Each episode explores gay identity, mental health, and the psychology of growing up gay. Short, honest, and stripped back. Because some things are better said out loud. Part story, part reflection on what it really means to come out, grow up, and figure yourself out in a world that didn't always make space for you.


This podcast is for the gay man who has done the coming out bit but still feels like he's carrying something he can't quite name. The one who looks fine on the outside but knows there's a version of himself he never really got to meet. The one who grew up performing, pleasing, shrinking and is only now starting to unpick why.


If that sounds familiar, you're not alone. And you're exactly who this is for.


Hey Gay Boy started as a series of short form videos. Honest, spoken word reflections on the nuances of growing up gay. The response was something I wasn't prepared for. Thousands of people telling me they'd never had a name for what they were feeling. That someone had finally said it out loud.


The Substack followed. Then came the realisation that some of these conversations needed more than a caption or an article. They needed audio. They needed to feel like a voice note from someone who gets it.

So here we are.


Each episode draws on psychology, personal experience, and the kind of quiet observations that don't make it into mainstream conversations about LGBT life. We talk about minority stress, shame, self worth, attachment, the inner child, and all the invisible ways growing up gay shapes who we become, long after we've come out.


No guests (yet). No panel discussions. Just honest, considered reflections designed to be listened to on a commute, a walk, or one of those evenings when you just need to feel a little less alone in it.


Thank you so much for being here,


James x

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Episodios
  • why happiness feels so hard for gay men

    why happiness feels so hard for gay men
    Apr 15 2026

    In this episode, I'm talking about that weird, nagging feeling where everything in your life looks fine, maybe even good, but you still feel flat. Like something's missing and you can't quite put your finger on it.


    I explore why happiness can feel so fragile, even when life is going well, and why so many gay men find themselves bracing for something to go wrong right in the middle of a good moment. From anticipatory anxiety to minority stress, I get into the real reasons joy can feel unfamiliar, even unsafe, after a lifetime of hiding, shrinking, and staying on guard.


    This one is about learning to trust happiness. To stay present in good moments instead of mentally skipping ahead to the worst case scenario. And to slowly, gently teach yourself that joy isn't something to be suspicious of. It's something you're allowed to hold.

    Want to go deeper?

    The Hey Gay Boy Substack is where I explore all of this in long form, with thousands of subscribers already in the community. Find it at jameswallis0.substack.com

    Come and say hello on Instagram @james_wallis and TikTok @jameswallis_

    If you'd like to support the podcast, you can buy me a coffee at buymeacoffee.com/jameswallis.

    Everything else is at linktr.ee/jameswallis

    Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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    8 m
  • gay grown and still hurting

    gay grown and still hurting
    Apr 8 2026

    In this episode, I get personal about my own "soft rock bottom" and the unexpected therapy insight that changed everything: your wounded inner child is still calling the shots.


    I explore why so many gay men are still being shaped by the boy they used to be, why we're so uniquely vulnerable to childhood emotional wounds, and what it actually looks like to start healing. Not by silencing that scared little boy, but by finally showing up for him.


    This one is about reparenting, emotional sensitivity, and why your reactions aren't a weakness.


    They're a nervous system doing its best. And it's about how, once you see what's really driving you, you get to change the script.

    Want to go deeper?

    The Hey Gay Boy Substack is where I explore all of this in long form, with thousands of subscribers already in the community. Find it at jameswallis0.substack.com

    Come and say hello on Instagram @james_wallis and TikTok @jameswallis_

    If you'd like to support the podcast, you can buy me a coffee at buymeacoffee.com/jameswallis.

    Everything else is at linktr.ee/jameswallis

    Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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    10 m
  • hey gay boy

    hey gay boy
    Apr 1 2026

    Welcome to the very first episode of Hey Gay Boy.


    In this opening episode, I share what it felt like to spend years being the "perfect gay boy" - the overachiever, the people pleaser, the one who worked twice as hard just to feel like he deserved to be there. And what it cost me.


    This episode is almost like a love letter to any gay man who grew up editing himself, playing it small, and waiting for permission to just be.

    If you've ever felt the weight of gay shame, struggled with self worth, or spent years performing a version of yourself just to feel accepted, this one is for you.


    It's honest, personal, and sets the tone for everything that follows....because growing up gay leaves marks that don't disappear the moment you come out.

    The psychology of it runs deeper than that. And that's exactly what this podcast is here to explore.


    Whether you're early in your journey of gay identity or years into it and still making sense of things, you're in the right place.


    If this episode resonates, please leave a rating or short review. It's the single biggest way new listeners can find the show.

    And if you aren't already following or subscribed, now is a great time to do that too ;)


    Links:

    If you fancy reading you can discover the Hey Gay Boy Substack here: jameswallis0.substack.com


    Come and say hello on Instagram @james_wallis or TikTok @jameswallis_


    If you'd like to support the podcast, you can buy me a coffee at buymeacoffee.com/jameswallis - it really does help!


    Everything else is at linktr.ee/jameswallis


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    Want to go deeper?

    The Hey Gay Boy Substack is where I explore all of this in long form, with thousands of subscribers already in the community. Find it at jameswallis0.substack.com

    Come and say hello on Instagram @james_wallis and TikTok @jameswallis_

    If you'd like to support the podcast, you can buy me a coffee at buymeacoffee.com/jameswallis.

    Everything else is at linktr.ee/jameswallis

    Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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    5 m
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