This is Part 2 of a special two-part series exploring the difference between having sex and making love.

If you haven't listened to Episode 300 yet, go start there—it lays the foundation for everything we talk about in this episode.

In this episode, we move from understanding the difference…
to learning how to actually create more meaningful, connected intimacy in your marriage.

You'll hear from:

• Dr. Alexandra Stockwell on shifting from transactional sex to deeply relational intimacy
• Trevor Hansen on attachment, safety, and why slowing down changes everything
• Ali Bullock on communication, nervous system regulation, and building connection outside the bedroom

We talk about:

• Why sex doesn't always need to be deeply emotional to be good
• How to move out of "checkbox sex" into something more connected
• The role of safety, vulnerability, and communication
• Why what happens outside the bedroom matters most

This episode is about learning how to bring more heart, presence, and connection into your relationship—one small moment at a time.

More about our guests:

Dr. Alexandra Stockwell is an intimate marriage expert and the host of

This episode is a special one—episode 300.

That feels really meaningful to me. I'm grateful you listen, share the podcast, and care enough about your marriage to keep showing up for these conversations. I really do celebrate you and your commitment to building a strong, intimate, passionate marriage.

For this milestone episode, I wanted to do something a little different.

So I turned it into a personal research project around a question I've been pondering for a long time:

👉 What's the difference between having sex… and making love?

In this episode (Part 1), I reached out to trusted experts and mentors to hear their perspective—and what they shared genuinely changed how I think about intimacy in marriage.

You'll hear from:

• Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife on desire, freedom, and why we lose "aliveness" in long-term relationships
• Dr. Chelom Leavitt on emotional connection as the strongest predictor of sexual satisfaction
• Adam & Karissa King on moving from transactional sex to truly knowing and being known

This isn't just about sex.

It's about:

• Meaning
• Connection
• Desire
• And the kind of intimacy that makes a marriage feel alive again

Don't miss Part 2 (Episode 301), where we continue this conversation with three more voices and perspectives.

More about our guests:

Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife is the author of a book, That We Might Have Joy, she offers amazing online courses, and has an exciting in-person events coming up this summer.

Dr. Chelom Leavitt is a world-renowned sex researcher and has many helpful resources on her website about mindfulness in sexuality, relationships, teaching kids about sex, and more.

Adam and Karissa King, better known online by the brand Dear Young Married Couple, teach courses, host a podcast, and provide many resources, especially for newly married couples. They are also in the process of releasing a new book.

Resources and Events:

We invite you to explore our Get Your Marriage On coaching program. Get ready for our men's and women's groups starting up again in May!

Disclaimer: The opinions and values expressed by guests on the Get Your Marriage On! podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the opinions and values of the host. Appearance on the podcast does not imply an endorsement of the guest or their products by Get Your Marriage On or its host. While we work hard to bring you quality and valuable content, listeners are encouraged to use their own best judgment in applying the information or products discussed on this podcast.

In this episode, I respond to a vulnerable question from a wife navigating desire differences, purity culture, and a husband who seems to always want more—more novelty, more frequency, more intensity.

If you've ever felt like:

• You're not "enough" sexually

• Your spouse is never satisfied

• Sex has become a source of pressure instead of connection

…this episode is for you.

We'll talk about:

• The three core drivers of sexual desire

• Why anxiety can increase desire in one spouse and decrease it in the other

• The "try-sexual" dynamic

• How ego can quietly sabotage intimacy

• What true sexual maturity actually looks like

This isn't about doing more, but becoming more mature, grounded, connected and intentional.

Resources

Episode 101: Overcoming Roadblocks to Intimacy & Sexual Desire (mentioned in the episode)

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