"You aren't getting a cookie for doing it all by yourself."

In this lesson, Christan and Tarrah tackle the trope of the "Strong Friend" and the dangerous myth of self-sufficiency. Learn why receiving is a skill you have to practice and how to start building trust in small, low-risk ways.

In this lecture:

• Friendship Court: A ruling on the "silent signals" we send when we actually need to use our words.

• The Artist Corner: Why Healing Hobbies are the secret to "untrashing" your mental health in 2026.

• The Lesson: Breaking the cycle of hyper-independence. We explore the fear of disappointment and the "inner vows" we make that keep us stuck.

• The Solution: How to relinquish control and start building "proof" that people can actually show up for you.

Weekly Homework: Complete the "One Small Ask" challenge. Practice being supported so you can stop surviving and start thriving.

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"Your friends are not mind readers. Give them a fighting chance."

In this lecture, Christan and Tarrah tackle the dangerous habit of silent scorekeeping. Learn why "If they loved me, they'd know" is a lie that ruins good connections and how to start "onboarding" your friends for success.

In this lecture:

• Friendship Court: A ruling on the "unreasonable expectation" of life-altering support. ⚖️

• The Artist Corner: Why chasing your Dream is the ultimate life-decluttering tool. 🚀

• The Lesson: The difference between a standard (what you need to be safe) and an expectation (how you assume someone should behave without being told).

• The Solution: Why training your friends is actually an act of love.

Class Dismissed! If you're ready for clarity over confusion, leave us a 5-star review! Peace!

"Loyalty without boundaries is self-abandonment."

In this lecture, Christan and Tarrah tackle the exhausting dynamic of anxious attachment. If you feel like your "cup" is always being emptied but never refilled, it’s time to recalibrate your connections and build internal safety.

In this lecture:

• Friendship Court: A ruling on the friend who needs too much reassurance.

• Take Out The Trash: A life-changing review of How We Love. Why your childhood "Love Style" is the secret key to your current relationship drama. 📚

• The Lesson: Breaking the people-pleasing cycle and learning that your needs aren't a burden—they’re a requirement for real intimacy.

Weekly Homework: Take the Attachment Style Quiz to find out if you're a Secure Connector or if you're stuck in a "Pleaser" or "Avoider" loop. https://howwelove.com/love-style-quiz/

Class Dismissed! If you're ready to stop performing and start connecting, leave us a 5-star review! Peace!