Frames & Lenses: A Hidden Key to Better Communication in Marriage

In this greatest hits episode, we’re revisiting one of the most powerful communication tools I teach—one that’s both simple and transformative.

If you’ve ever walked away from a conversation feeling misunderstood, reactive, or like your needs weren’t truly seen, this episode is for you.

It’s not just about what you say.
It’s about the lens you’re using to listen.

I’m breaking down why the perspective you bring into a conversation—the emotional framing you carry—can change everything. You’ll learn how noticing your “lens” helps you shift your energy, change the direction of the dialogue, and respond in ways that bring more clarity, calm, and connection.

From the sneaky effects of internalized patriarchy to how we’re conditioned to live “leftovers lives,” this episode is packed with both mindset shifts and practical tools you can apply right away.

Grab a journal, take a walk, or just listen with curiosity—and let’s explore how small shifts in perspective create big changes in communication.

✨ Episode at a Glance

• Why communication feels so hard (even though we do it every day)

• What it means to “notice your lens”—and why it matters

• The connection between your emotions and how you hear your partner

• A coaching challenge to shift your perspective and improve conversations

• How internalized patriarchy shapes how we listen, respond, and prioritize our needs

• An invitation to live a 5-star life instead of a “leftovers life”