Ep6: Ben and Alisha - Adoptive Parents

My pastor and his wife agreed to open themselves to a conversation about adoption. The fact that they acknowledge the trauma adoptees face was so validating. Adoptees need the support of their adoptive families, this couple is a beautiful example of what that support looks like.

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Disappointing episode

I usually love this podcast! As an adoptee, I cringed half of this episode though. I appreciate that Ben & Alisha acknowledged the loss, pain and struggles of those who're involved in adoption.
But I didn't appreciate Alisha's attitude & language regarding adoption. No, a fake birth certificate isn't the same as a real one. And adoptees usually don't wanna hear that they're a "gift" to their adoptive parents, even though they may feel like that. It's just inappropriate and painful. Adoptees are neither a gift nor a commodity. And Alisha's mentioning of that "it's not normal to leave your child" when she talked about biological mothers ...but doesn't want to "bad-mouth" is telling, cause she actually did bad-mouth biological mothers with that. One could argue that it's "not normal" either to take a stranger's child and pretend it's yours ...
In order to help a child, there's no need to alter a child's identity and falsify its birth certificate.
There were several other word choices Alisha made where I literally flinched.
Ben seems more aware of the trauma and impact adoption has and that his sons have more than one set of parents, without having the need of using ill-informed & cringe-worthy adoption language.