Ep. 41 - BDSM & D/s Myths: Breaking Down Common Misconceptions

We have all heard some myths about BDSM, Kink, and D/s. For those in the communities, these can feel like a slap in the face and often result in shame that hurts on a deeper level than even humiliation play can reach. They also result in misunderstandings and total avoidance to learning more about the world of kink and BDSM to those new to this world. It's time to dispel some that have made their way across my desk recently and provide the research to disprove them, as well as insight into what it's really like in a consensual dynamic. Links for this episode: Case Study: What Is So Appealing About Being Spanked, Flogged, Dominated, or Restrained? Answers from Practitioners of Sexual Masochism/Submission published in the Journal of Sex Research Case Study: Curative Kink: Survivors of Early Abuse Transform Trauma through BDSM published in The Journal of Sexual and Relationship Therapy Case Study: A Systematic Scoping Review of the Prevalence, Etiological, Psychological, and Interpersonal Factors Associated with BDSM published in the Journal of Sex Research Case Study: Bondage- Discipline, Dominance - Submission and Sadomasochism (BDSM) From an Integrative Biopsychosocial Perspective: A Systematic Review published in the Journal Of Sexual Medicine Book: The Leather Couch: Clinical Practice with Kinky Clients by Dr. Sefani Goerlich Article: 94 Non-Binary BDSM Names for Doms & Subs by Sunny Megatron Book: Come as You Are by Dr. Emily Nagowski Book: The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel Van Der Kolk Book: Tongue Tied: Untangling Communication in Sex, Kink, and Relationships by Stella Harris Book: Becoming Cliterate by Laurie Mintz Book: Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples by Helen LaKelly Hunt (Great info on the Imago Dialogue) Additional Resources: Site: The National Coalition for Sexual Freedom Site: AASECT (American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists) Site: TASHRA (The Alternative Sexualities Health Research Alliance) Site: TASHRA's Research Site: The Society for the Scientific Study of Sexuality Site: Center for Positive Sexuality Site: Sexual Health Alliance Site: Kinsey Institute of Indiana University Dr. K's Official Goodreads page – For the Book Lover Dr. K's Official Website _____________________ Peep my Instagram Twitch with me! LIVE Digital Magazine - Intellectual Intoxication - Dr. K's Gallery Musings & Gallery Dr. K's Kink-Affirming Holistic Coaching Practice Additional Resources: Consent Counts Resources from the NCSF (National Council for Sexual Freedom) About SESTA/FOSTA: Information relating to how the changes in the law have to affect TOS across social media and inadvertently create issues for those in the field of sexual and reproductive health. Reid's Safer Sex Elevator Speech Dr. K's Official Goodreads page – For the Book Lover Psss…. Don't forget to check out The Submissive Next Door Podcast on Apple Podcast/iTunes– subscribe and give us a rating, pretty please! If you like what you hear and see, please consider becoming a Patreon. Patreon members get podcast episodes, exclusive bonus videos, and my personal sex-positive Zine, Intellectual Intoxication. The Zine showcases my provocative photography projects along with topics such as erotica writing, holistic sexuality, liberating art, embodiment, rituals with a witchy-vibe starting at $3 a month. It's you all that keep the podcast going! Thank you! _________________________________________________ Affiliate Links – Feel like shopping? Use these links to get a discount and help support the podcast too! 1st Phorm - Elite Fitness Products for High-Performance Training and Health The Stockroom – BDSM and D/s luxury toys, tools, and gear Le Wand - Luxury Sex Toys with an empowerment mindset! The CowGirl - The Award-Winning Riding Sex Toy Lovense – Luxury High Tech Sex Toys for Love at a Distance SheVibe – Sex Positive Sex Toys for the Adventurous! Social Links Exclusive Content – Discord – Social Links