Ep. #2: Know Their Name; Know Their Story

Join Dr. Tom Wagner as he reflects on his journey through South Africa, sharing encounters with remarkable individuals whose names carry stories of patience, resilience, and quiet courage. In this episode, you’ll hear how listening attentively to another’s story—and allowing yourself to be known—can open the door to deeper connection.

Key Takeaways

• Every name carries a story—taking the time to know it is an act of courage and connection.
• Vulnerability and openness foster authentic relationships.
• Slowing down to connect with others is a countercultural yet essential antidote to loneliness.
• Even quiet courage—simply showing up, paying attention, and being present—can have profound impact.
• Courageous conversations aren’t just about big topics—they can happen in everyday interactions when we engage sincerely.
• Reflection, storytelling, and attentive listening help cultivate deeper connection with self and others.

Reflection Questions

• Do you attempt this form of courage in some way, shape, or form? When you do it, what is your technique? If you don’t do it, would you be willing to experiment with such behavior?
• Who do you know who is particularly good at listening to a story and asking good questions that draw out the storyteller? How do they do that?
• Who do you know that tells a good story? What makes them a good storyteller?
• Have you ever resolved to hang in there with someone who is a miserable storyteller as a way of honoring them despite their skills? What helped you do that?
• When was the last time you connected with someone who has a radically different political orientation from yours? Were you able to get deep enough to make contact with your common humanity?

Resources & Links

• Join us for the next Sunday Morning Cafe Event on 9/21: https://www.tomwagnerspeaker.com/events

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