In this episode, we are joined by Brother Farook. Farook runs his own social media pages: Instagram, TikTok and YouTube - @disqualified_dads. These pages raise awareness of the plight of non-resident parents.

Brother Farook shares his personal journey through divorce, the challenges of being a non-resident parent, and the struggles within the family court system. He discusses the emotional impact of divorce, the importance of self-improvement, and the realities of navigating the modern Muslim marriage market. Farook emphasises the need for open communication and understanding in relationships, while also addressing societal expectations and the stigma surrounding divorce. Farook also discusses the subject of polygamy. He concludes with insights on personal growth and the qualities he seeks in a future partner.

Farook also completes a marriage profile at the end. So if you fit his criteria and he fits yours, then do get in touch!

00:00 Introduction

01:47 Farook's Divorce Story

06:47 Impact of Divorce

09:59 Relationship with children

15:07 Bouncing Back from Divorce

19:24 Farook's Social Media Pages, Coaching and Martial Arts

24:56 Marriage Search Post Divorce

26:02 Farook's challenges in his marriage search

33:01 Is a man's worth defined by his wealth?

36:18 Standards v Unrealistic Expectations

38:14 Polygamy

40:16 Delaying disclosure of the fact that one is divorced

44:56 Society Perception: Divorced Man v Divorced Woman

46:12 Green Flags v Red Flags

46:51 Solutions to the difficulty of the marriage search

48:44 Game: Red Light / Green Light

50:01 Rapid Fire Round

52:02 Marriage Profile

53:23 Farewell

In this episode, we are joined by Alina – a 26-year-old sister who is Single Never Married.

Alina shares her experiences and challenges in her search for marriage as a British Muslim. She discusses the difficulties of finding a suitable partner, the connection between mental health and the marriage search, and the role of family in the marriage search. Alina also addresses the stigma surrounding divorce, the unrealistic expectations set by social media, and the influence of apps on the marriage search landscape. Throughout the discussion, she emphasises the importance of self-awareness, communication, and positivity in the journey towards finding a life partner.

Alina also attended our Marriage Event in July 2025. She discusses her experience of this event. Alina was one of the most popular sisters at this event!

Alina also completes a marriage profile at the end of this episode – so if you fit her criteria and she fits yours then follow the instructions and who knows you may just end up getting married!

00:00 Introduction to Sister Alina

02:22 Alina's Marriage Search Experiences

07:08 Alina's Marriage Event Experience

10:08 Why are British Muslims finding it hard to get married

11:47 The Connection Between Mental Health and the Marriage Search

13:29 How important is Fincancial Stability in a man?

14:21 Alina's Mahr Requirement

15:23 Standards v Unrealistic Expectations

17:04 The Role of Apps in the Marriage Search

18:56 Marriage: An Option or a Priority?

19:33 Polygamy

22:03 The Marriage Search Crisis: Self inflicted?

25:23 Family Involvement in the Marriage Search

27:15 Delaying telling potentials that you are divorced

28:45 Is fear a valid reason to marry?

30:00 Society Perception: Divorced Man v Divorced Woman

30:53 Green Flags v Red Flags

31:31 Potential Solutions to the Marriage Search

32:38 Game: Red Light / Green Light

33:53 Rapid Fire Round

35:24 Alina's Marriage Profile

In this episode, we are joined by Sister Tareena. Tareena runs a social media page on Tiktok with the handle: @thatgirl.tamtam. Tareena’s page is about healing people giving them hope. Tareena offers one to one advice for sisters who want to discuss their problems. If any sister wants to contact her you can email her: info.work2021@yahoo.com

Tareena shares her personal journey through divorce, the challenges she faced, and her insights on the marriage search as a divorcee. She discusses the emotional impact of her divorce, the importance of self-discovery, and the societal expectations surrounding marriage. Tareena emphasises the need for realistic expectations in relationships, the role of parental involvement, and the stigma attached to being divorced. She also offers advice on overcoming heartbreak and the significance of trusting in Allah's plan.

00:00 Introduction

01:25 Tareena's divorce story

04:28 The Impact of Divorce

06:38 Mistakes and Regrets in Marriage

10:01 Bouncing Back from Divorce

11:16 Marriage Search as a Divorcee

17:24 Why are British Muslims finding it difficult to get married?

19:14 Standards v Unrealistic Expectations

20:09 The Role of Marriage Apps

21:55 Do British Muslims actually want marriage?

23:31 Self-Inflicted Marriage Search Crisis

24:34 Family Involvement: Advice v Control

27:30 Emotional Intimacy without Commitment

29:22 How does one get over heart break?

33:20 Delaying telling a potential that you are divorced

38:25 Fear based Marriages

40:20 Society Perception: Divorced Man v Divorced Woman

42:30 Green Flags v Red Flags

42:41 Solutions

43:52 Once an Abuser always an Abuser?

44:52 What Tareena does and how to contact her

45:52 Game: Red Light / Green Light

47:25 Rapid Fire Round

48:40 Marriage Profile

49:47 Final Thoughts