Dealing with Perfectionism and Parenting

In this episode of The Coach is In, Cat and Irene dive into the pressures of perfectionism in parenting. They explore how high expectations shape parental guilt, where these standards come from, and how embracing a "good enough" mindset can lead to more joy and fulfillment in both parenting and life.

Episode Highlights & Timestamps:

[00:01:30] - Defining Perfectionism in Parenting

How perfectionist tendencies amplify when kids come into the picture

The pressure to meet unrealistic parenting standards (sleep schedules, screen time, diet, etc.)

[00:06:45] - Where Do These Expectations Come From?

The influence of societal norms and social media

Reflecting on personal upbringing and inherited beliefs about parenting

The "Five Whys" technique for uncovering deeper motivations

[00:15:20] - The Perils of Perfectionism & Its Impact on Kids

How children absorb their parents’ perfectionist tendencies

Encouraging risk-taking and confidence in children

The importance of modeling a healthy relationship with failure

[00:23:10] - Mindfulness & Self-Awareness as Tools for Change

Learning to pause and assess whether a standard serves you

Embracing self-awareness as a starting point for change

The balance between keeping kids safe and fostering independence

[00:30:45] - Reframing Success: The "Good Enough" Parent

Moving away from perfectionism towards a "minimum viable product" mindset

Letting go of unnecessary pressures while focusing on core values

Creating meaningful memories rather than obsessing over minor details

[00:40:20] - Practical Steps to Let Go of Perfectionism

Identifying the root of perfectionist expectations

Striving for excellence, not perfection

Giving yourself permission to release unrealistic standards

[00:50:10] - Final Thoughts & Takeaways

"Your kids don’t need a perfect mother. They need a happy one."

The importance of self-care and prioritizing joy in parenting

Encouragement for moms to embrace imperfection as part of growth

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