Contempt: an extended conversation with John Gottman

How can we keep contempt out of our disagreements? And why should we? Arthur talks to John Gottman, who’s spent most of his career as a social psychologist studying contempt within relationships. He is the co-founder of the Gottman Institute in Seattle, where he does work with married couples, and shares his insights on the corrosive nature of contempt, and how we can get out of the habit of expressing it, both in our personal relationships, and more broadly, as a nation.

Clear speaking with true virtue

This episode and discovering both of you is a Godsend. The principles you identify are gifts of wisdom and life. Thanks so much.

Me? Contemptuous?

I tend to regret my behavior for a long time after I witness my bad behavior towards others. I am going to try them 4 Rules of Mr Gotman. I want to start to try, because that is the part that is in my control...