In this episode, I’m diving into something you probably didn’t realize is shaping your parenting every single day…the quiet questions running in the background of your brain.

Most parents think the problem is their kids’ behavior. But so much of what we experience as “hard parenting moments” comes from the questions we’re unconsciously asking ourselves—questions like:

• Why can’t they just listen?
• What’s wrong with me?
• Why is everything so hard?

And here’s the kicker:

Your brain will always answer the question you give it.

If the question is negative, the answer will be too.

Today, I’m sharing a story from New Zealand (yes, the Cathedral Caves saga!) where one powerful pause and a handful of compassionate questions completely shifted a moment of frustration between me and my daughter.

You’ll learn:

• Why “Is this true?” might be the most liberating question you ever ask.
• How to catch the sneaky questions that are sabotaging your parenting.
• The three coaching questions I use daily to regulate, reflect, and reconnect.
• Why being an observer of your own mind is the actual parenting superpower.
• How to reframe disempowering questions into ones your brain can actually work with.

Plus, I’ll give you a handful of empowering questions you can start using right away to shift your mindset, calm your nervous system, and bring more connection (and ease!) into your home.

This work is life-changing. And the best part?

It starts with just one better question.

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In this episode, we’re talking about one of the most powerful tools you already have but probably aren’t using enough: redeciding.

Redeciding is the moment you pause, question the default, and choose again—on purpose. It’s how you reinvent yourself, your parenting, your routines, and your reactions… without blowing up your whole life.

I share a few recent moments that pushed me to look at my old stories (like “I’m bad at tech” or “I can’t learn new things”) and what changed when I stopped believing them. This is the work we do in CMP: noticing the patterns that keep us stuck and choosing something better.

In this episode:

• Why you’re allowed to start over anytime
• How tiny decisions create massive reinvention
• The stories we inherit—and how to let them go
• What to do when you feel stuck in old parenting habits
• How to redesign your relationship with each child
• Why failures are evidence of growth, not proof of inadequacy

You’re not stuck. You’re just one redecision away from a different outcome.

Let’s make the last two months of the year the best ones yet.

Go connect with your kids. And let’s reinvent together.

🎙️ Special Invitation: Starting November 16, join PIVOT LIVE — an eight-week small-group version of my signature parenting program. You’ll learn the full Connect Method Parenting framework and get weekly live coaching to help you implement it.
👉 https://cmp.works/pivot

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The people who transform their lives? They're not smarter than you. They're not more motivated. They're not reading more books or listening to more podcasts.

They're the ones showing up every single week to get coached on their real life.

Here's what I've discovered after seven years of teaching Connect Method Parenting: you can understand every concept I teach and still find yourself yelling when your kid won't put their shoes on Tuesday morning.

There's this massive gap between knowing what to do and being able to do it in the moment when you're triggered.

What closes that gap isn't more information. It's the weekly rhythm of learning something, watching it get applied to someone else's situation, then trying it in your own life. That's it. Learning, repetition, application.

That's why I'm doing Pivot Live, eight weeks where we meet every Wednesday at 1 PM Eastern starting November 16th. Small group. Cameras on. You're committing to show up.

You'll mess up Monday morning. You'll bring it to our call Wednesday. We'll work through it together. And Thursday you'll handle it differently.

If you're new to CMP, you'll go through the Pivot week by week with the group. If you've already done it, come as a repeater and just bring whatever you're working on.

The details: $199 for 8 weeks | First lesson November 16th, first call November 19th | Register at https://cmp.works/pivot

In the next episode, I'll break down the actual CMP concepts we'll be diving into.

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