What does it really feel like to be a queer athlete — to show up every day in a sport you love while wondering if your teammates truly have your back? In this episode, we sit down with Dr. Tess Kilwein, a clinical sports psychologist based in Nashville, to dig into a side of athlete mental health we don't talk about nearly enough.

Dr. Kilwein works with elite athletes across the country, specializing in creating trauma-informed, identity-affirming environments — especially for LGBTQ+ athletes and others who've experienced marginalization in sport. She breaks down what minority stress theory actually means for athletes, why locker room culture matters more than people think, and what coaches, parents, and teammates can do — starting today — to make a real difference.

This one is packed with practical takeaways, honest conversation, and a powerful message for every athlete who has ever felt like they had to hide a part of themselves to earn their place on a team.

Resources for athletes:

Athlete Ally

You Can Play

Black Student-Athlete Summit

Women's Sports Foundation

About Dr. Tess Kilwein
Dr. Kilwein is a board-certified clinical and sport psychologist who works with elite athletes and performers across the United States. They support athletes of all ages, identities, and competitive levels in navigating concerns ranging from mental health challenges to performance optimization. Dr. Kilwein specializes in creating performance environments that are trauma-informed care and identity-affirming, with particular expertise in working with LGBTQ+ athletes and performers.

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What if confidence isn’t the key to peak performance?

In this episode of College Is Fine Podcast, Sarah and Liz sit down with sports psychologist Dr. Mitchell A. Greene to unpack one of the biggest myths in athletics: that you need to feel confident to perform well.

From college athletes to Olympians, Dr. Greene shares what’s actually happening inside the minds of high performers—and why the most driven, prepared athletes are often the ones struggling the most.

What We Cover:

Why high performers feel the most pressure
Performance anxiety isn’t a sign of weakness—it often shows up because athletes care deeply and have put in the work.

The truth about “mind chatter”
Dr. Greene introduces his concept of mind chatter—the doubts, second-guessing, and mental noise that show up in high-stakes moments.

Confidence myth
Many athletes are taught they need confidence to succeed—but chasing confidence can actually make things worse.

Outcome goals vs. action goals

• Why shifting your focus from outcome goals to action goals can actually improve your performance

📚 Resources & Links

• Learn more about his work at Greene Psych (sports psychology & performance coaching) https://greenepsych.com/our-team/mitchell-greene-ph-d/
• Dr. Mitchell A. Greene's Book

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Every athlete plays two games — the sport on the field, and the mental game happening in their head. In this episode, we sit down with two experts who work with college athletes every day: Carrie Potoff, a licensed clinical social worker at Sasko River Center in Darien, and Rhodie Lorenz, a mental performance coach who works with college and high school athletes. Together, they break down what it really takes to perform well — not just physically, but mentally.

What We Cover:

• Why the mental side of sports is just as trainable as the physical side
• How negative self-talk becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy — and how to interrupt it
• The difference between "useful" and "not useful" thoughts (hint: it's not always about positive vs. negative)
• What "process goals" actually look like in real life
• A simple two-column exercise to help athletes focus on what they can control
• How burnout shows up in college athletes — and how to help them fall back in love with their sport
• The "Side Game" tool: a powerful technique for helping athletes rediscover their "why"
• How team culture and shared vulnerability can elevate individual performance

Resources Mentioned:

Saugatuck Mind and Sports Lab — Carrie and Rhodie's organization working to shift the culture around outcome fixation in youth and college sports

Mike Vrabel's "4 H's": History, Heroes, Heartbreak and Hope

• https://www.espn.com/video/clip/_/id/47580019

Key Quotes:

• "The mind doesn't believe what is true — it believes what is repeated." — Rhodie Lorenz
• "You can't perform at your highest level and endure this level of pain if it's not attached to something beyond yourself." — Rhodie Lorenz

About Our Guests:

Carrie Potoff, LCSW works out of Sasko River Center in Darien and specializes in working with athletes navigating the emotional and psychological demands of competitive sports.

Rhodie Lorenz is a mental performance coach with a background in education and fitness. She works primarily with college-level athletes, helping them build the mental tools they need to thrive under pressure.

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