Episode 57: Are you worried about your child struggling with organization, planning, and time management as the new school year approaches? In this episode, we dive into these challenges and provide practical strategies to support your child’s success.

In this insightful episode, Dayna Abraham sits down with Seth Perler, an executive function coach who specializes in helping students navigate the demands of school and life.

Together, they discuss why kids often feel overwhelmed by school, common challenges during the back-to-school season, and how parents can better support their children’s development.

This episode is packed with practical tools and strategies to help parents foster their children’s skills with empathy and understanding.

"Executive function skills are crucial for a happy, healthy, and successful future. By understanding and supporting these skills, we can better help our children thrive." - Seth Perler

Key Takeaways:

• [00:05:00] What Executive Function Is: Seth explains what executive function is and why it’s crucial for students.
• [00:09:00] Common Back-to-School Challenges: Discussing common challenges kids face when going back to school, related to executive function.
• [00:18:00] Can't vs. Won't: Understanding the difference between "won't" and "can't" in kids' behavior and how it impacts executive function.
• [00:20:00] The Role of Parents: The importance of parents managing their own reactions and how to support children without doing everything for them.
• [00:23:00] Backing Way Up: Seth talks about the importance of breaking tasks down into micro skills and scaffolding them to build executive function.
• [00:28:00] Practical Tools: Practical steps and tools parents can take to help their children build executive function skills.
• [00:30:00] Relationship and Attachment: The importance of relationship and attachment in helping children with executive function struggles.
• [00:34:00] Asking for Help: Encouragement for parents to seek help and resources to support their children’s development.
• [00:36:00] Final Advice: Seth’s message to parents: focus on doing the deep inner work and view parenting as a continuous study.

Additional Resources:

• Seth Perler's Website: Discover more about Seth's work and resources to support executive function skills.
• Executive Function Summit: Join the summit for in-depth insights and strategies from top experts.
• Calm the Chaos Book: Need help getting out of survival mode? Grab a copy of the roadmap designed for you.
• Free Parenting Style Quiz: 📝 Take this FREE quiz to discover which of 4 different parenting styles you have.

Remember, you’ve got this!

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EPISODE 10: If you're going through struggles with your spouse or partner, whether it's about the kids' behavior, money matters, or anything else, ask yourselves: Do you both really want to be together and build a family? Are you on the same page when it comes to your destination?

If the answer is “Yes,” then this episode is just what you need. And even if your answer is "No" or "I don't know," this episode may help you see things from a different perspective and recognize that your partner:

• doesn’t hurt you deliberately
• wants the best for your kids
• is still your soul mate and the person you fell in love with…

But sometimes, life gets in the way, and we forget about these things…

In this episode, we're digging deeper into the question of "What do I do if my spouse isn't on board?" This is part two of our discussion, where we'll chat about finding common ground, aligning your approaches, and getting your partner on board with the Calm the Chaos way.

If you missed the first part, don't worry! Go ahead and give it a listen. And if you've already tuned in, welcome back! Let's keep this conversation going.

This time we’ll be sharing the 4-step Calm the Chaos framework to finding common ground and building a successful co-parenting journey.

Just remember, you're in this together, and you can succeed one tiny step at a time. I know because we used to be there.

As I’ve already mentioned - at the beginning of our parenting journey, Jason and I weren't on the same page. Actually, we faced our fair share of challenges and had lots of disagreements, worries, and fears about where our parenting adventure was headed.

Just like in the first part of this episode, we'll continue spilling many juicy details of our story — the ups, the downs, and everything in between.

So, if you find yourself in a similar situation, feeling like you and your partner will never see eye to eye, be sure to tune into this part of the episode and find out how to create a plan to align with your partner.

But before that, always remember: you can have disagreements, choose different paths, and still reach the same destination — becoming the best possible parenting team for your children and building a thriving family.

Let’s dive in!

Key Takeaways:

• Intro (00:00)
• You - your interpretation of your partner’s behavior (01:48)
• Connect (11:01)
• Understand - getting your partner’s perspective (20:44)
• Empower (26:58)
• Using the You-CUE framework at every stage (35:30)
• The key takeaway (36:49)
• You-CUE wrap-up (42:18)

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Episode 45: Today we are diving into the heart of parenting neurodivergent children with a focus on Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA). Our guest, Amy, shares her personal journey navigating the complexities of raising two neurodivergent children, shedding light on the often misunderstood topic of PDA. Discover how Amy transformed her approach to communication, moving beyond conventional parenting strategies that often led to frustration and disconnect. This episode offers a deep dive into the strategies that foster genuine connection, understanding, and empowerment for both parents and children facing similar challenges.

Key Takeaways:

Understanding Neurodivergence and PDA [00:02:00] - Amy introduces her family's journey with autism and ADHD, focusing on the unique challenges of PDA.

The Isolation of Parenting Neurodivergent Children [00:04:00] - Amy discusses the loneliness and chaos of trying to navigate parenting without a supportive community.

Shifting From Discipline to Connection [00:05:00] - A look at how changing from traditional disciplinary methods to focusing on connection can drastically improve family dynamics.

Creating Safety Through Connection [00:09:00] - The importance of connecting through a safe nervous system and the impact of non-verbal communication.

Strategies for Communicating with PDA Children [00:11:00] - Amy shares specific examples of how altering communication strategies has helped reduce conflicts.

The Transformation Journey [00:16:00] - Insight into the significant shifts in Amy's family, highlighting the decrease in meltdown severity and improved understanding.

Empowerment Through Planning and Reflection [00:20:00] - The pivotal role of creating personalized plans and reflecting on daily interactions for continued progress.

Additional Resources:

Calm the Chaos Framework: calmthechaosbook.com

Understanding PDA in Neurodivergent Children: PDA Society: https://pdasociety.org.uk

Low Demand Parenting by Amanda Diekman

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