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But For Real

But For Real

De: Valerie Martin & Emerson Ryder
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Welcome to But For Real: the podcast where all your swirling thoughts about mental health, pop culture, and how to human are blended into one delicious variety show, co-hosted by therapists Valerie Martin (resident elder millennial ✌️) and Emerson Ryder (resident Gen Z 🫶).Copyright 2026 Valerie Martin & Emerson Ryder Ciencias Sociales Desarrollo Personal Higiene y Vida Saludable Psicología Psicología y Salud Mental Éxito Personal
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  • It Takes a Village: The Power & Challenge of Building Community

    It Takes a Village: The Power & Challenge of Building Community
    Jun 10 2026
    Val and Em are flying solo (duo?) this week — no guest, just the two of them getting into one of their favorite obsessions: community. Why is it so hard to find your people as an adult? Why do we feel lonely even when our calendars are full? And what does the actual research say about what makes community work?They get into the loneliness epidemic (yes, it's as bad as you've heard), the concept of third spaces and why we're losing them, the underrated power of weak ties (heeey Diane from Pilates), and what Priya Parker's The Art of Gathering taught them about the difference between filling a room and actually hosting people.Plus—Val shares about resurrecting her guitar, her Buffy rewatch, and her tarot practice all at the same time, Em reflects on a trip back to the UK after 16 years and what it stirred up about cultural identity and belonging, and they answer a listener question from someone who keeps showing up and trying — but can't seem to break in anywhere.Stuff we mentioned:The Art of Gathering by Priya Parker Priya Parker on We Can Do Hard Things podcastUS Surgeon General's 2023 Advisory on Loneliness and IsolationHackney Mosaic Project (East London) Community micro-hydro power in the Northern PhilippinesCamp Gaia (our online membership!)Chapters:00:00 - Introduction to But For Real Podcast05:12 - Exploring Community and Connection09:52 - The Importance of Community and Connection27:23 - The Importance of Structure in Community Building30:13 - The Birth of Camp Gaia: Building Community OnlineConnect with Us:More about the pod / past episodesWatch us on YouTubeNow That's What I Call... OKAAAAY PlaylistSend us a story for The Lore segmentSend in a request for advice for our Step Into My Office segmentConnect with us on IG: @butforrealpodThe Gaia Center on IG: @thegaiacenterVal on IG: @existentiallyvalThe Gaia Center website: www.gaiacenter.co DISCLAIMER: But For Real Podcast is not a substitute for individualized mental health treatment or healthcare. This podcast is solely for entertainment and educational purposes. If you are in crisis, please utilize crisis support services, such as the Crisis Text Line (Text START to 741741 in the US) or the 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline: (Call 988 in the US), or visit www.findahelpline.com for international resources.
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    42 m
  • They Can't Kill Us if Our Art Survives - with Wednesdae, @queer.art_therapist

    They Can't Kill Us if Our Art Survives - with Wednesdae, @queer.art_therapist
    May 27 2026

    In this episode of But For Real, we delve into the transformative realm of expressive arts therapy with our distinguished guest, Wednesdae Reim Ifrach. Their expertise lies at the confluence of queer embodiment, complex trauma, and creative healing, offering a profound perspective on how art can serve as a conduit for emotional expression and personal growth.

    We explore the misconception that art therapy is merely "arts and crafts for sad people," illuminating its true potential to facilitate deep, somatic healing beyond verbal communication. The conversation traverses the intersections of identity, creativity, and resistance, emphasizing the vital role of authenticity in both personal and professional spheres. Join us as we unpack these intricate themes, and discover how embracing one's multifaceted identity can foster resilience and empowerment in the face of societal challenges.

    Takeaways:

    • This episode explores the intersection of expressive arts therapy, trauma, and queer identity, highlighting their profound connections.
    • We discuss how art therapy transcends mere creative expression, serving as a legitimate therapeutic modality for adults.
    • The conversation emphasizes the importance of authenticity and personal expression in combating systemic oppression and fostering resilience.
    • Listeners are encouraged to pursue their own creative endeavors as acts of resistance against societal norms and expectations.
    • Wednesday's experiences illustrate the transformative power of art in healing trauma and affirming one's identity in a complex world.
    • The episode concludes with a call to action for increased accessibility and understanding of mental health resources and creative therapies.

    LINKS + Referenced in the Episode:

    • Wednesdae's website
    • Follow Wednesdae @queer.art_therapist on IG
    • The Gaia Center: Therapy in Nashville + coaching worldwide
    • Follow us @butforealpod and @thegaiacenter on IG
    • MOMA
    • Fire Road Foods
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    50 m
  • Unmasking Autism with Devon Price, PhD

    Unmasking Autism with Devon Price, PhD
    May 13 2026
    What if the version of you most of the world knows… isn’t actually *you*?In this episode of But For Real, we’re sitting down with Devon Price, PhD—social psychologist, author of Unmasking Autism (+ several other books!), and badass autistic human—to get really REAL about something that is kinda the opposite of that:Masking.That pattern of adaptation that’s helped you survive… but can slowly erode at your sense of self. 🫠In this conversation, we get into what it actually means to “mask” as an autistic or otherwise neurodivergent person (hell, even just as a people-pleaser living in a capitalist society): how it shows up, why so many of us do it without even realizing, and what happens when you finally start to take that mask off.If you’re one of MANY people who was diagnosed with autism later in life, you know it can feel like a huge relief… but it can *also* feel like grief, anger, and even a full-on “who TF am I actually?” era.We’re talking about what it’s like to spend decades performing “normal,” only to realize you’ve been white-knuckling your way through life—and what it takes to rebuild something that actually fits.And we keep coming back to this:You don’t just “stop masking.”You slowly, painfully, honestly… learn how to exist as yourself.So if you’ve ever thought…“Why am I so exhausted ALL THE TIME?”“Why do I feel like I’m performing in every interaction?”“Who am I without all of this?”…this one’s for you. 🫂In this episode of But For Real, we unpack…What “masking” actually is—and why it’s so common in autistic adultsWhy late autism diagnoses often bring both relief AND griefThe hidden cost of people-pleasing and social “autopilot”Why you can’t just flip a switch and stop masking overnightHow identity confusion shows up after unmasking beginsThe role of burnout, exhaustion, and chronic overwhelmWhy safe relationships are essential for unmaskingThe emotional phases: relief → grief → anger → rebuildingHow to reconnect with your authentic self (without blowing up your whole life)And here’s the timestamps—00:00 – Welcome back to But For Real01:00 – Meet Devon Price, PhD (and why this convo matters)03:30 – The “hive mind” metaphor + masking as social survival05:30 – Listener question: late autism diagnosis in adulthood07:00 – Relief vs grief after diagnosis08:30 – “I’ve been performing my whole life…”10:30 – Why masking isn’t something you can just turn off13:00 – Identity confusion: who am I without the mask?16:00 – The emotional aftermath: anger, grief, and loss19:00 – Autistic burnout + chronic exhaustion22:00 – Safe people, safe spaces, and practicing authenticity26:00 – Reconnecting with your younger self30:00 – What unmasking actually looks like in real life35:00 – Why this process takes YEARS (not weeks)40:00 – Final thoughts: you’re not behind—you’re becomingConnect with Dr. DevonInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/drdevonprice/Substack: https://drdevonprice.substack.com/ Books: https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/authors/2294535/devon-price-phd/ Connect with Us:Submit a story for The Lore segmentSubmit a request for advice for our Step Into My office segmentReach out: butforrealpod@gmail.com But For Real on IG: @butforrealpodNow That's What I Call... OKAAAAY PlaylistThe Gaia Center on IG: @thegaiacenterVal on IG: @valkaymartinThe Gaia Center website: www.gaiacenter.co DISCLAIMER: But For Real Podcast is not a substitute for individualized mental health treatment or healthcare. This podcast is solely for entertainment and educational purposes. If you are in crisis, please utilize crisis support services, such as the Crisis Text Line (Text START to 741741 in the US) or the 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline: (Call 988 in the US), or visit www.findahelpline.com for international resources.
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    48 m
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