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In this episode, we’re unpacking one of the biggest challenges men face in marriage: the version of masculinity we were taught growing up doesn’t work at home. The same traits that make you successful in the world—strength, logic, stoicism—can create distance and disconnection with your wife.

Angelo shares his personal story from the firehouse to fatherhood and how he had to unlearn what he thought it meant to be a man. You’ll learn why traditional masculinity leaves men drowning when it comes to intimacy, why the “sensitive guy” isn’t the answer either, and what it means to reconfigure your power into wholeness—strength that includes vulnerability, courage, and connection.

🔑 What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
✅ Why traditional masculinity fails in modern marriages
✅ The three phases of masculinity—and why none of them alone lead to connection
✅ How to reconfigure power into wholeness: strength with love and vulnerability
✅ The hidden cost of staying stuck in old masculine scripts
✅ Four practical ways to start shifting toward the man your marriage actually needs
✅ Why embracing this change is the most courageous work you’ll ever do

💡 Key Takeaway:
The man you were taught to be helped you survive in the world, but he won’t help you thrive at home. Real strength is learning to be both powerful and open, courageous and loving. Wholeness—not toughness—is what your marriage, your kids, and your legacy truly need.

🔨 Action Steps This Week:
1⃣ Reflect on what you’ve learned. Think about the lessons you picked up about being a man. Where have they helped you? Where have they held you back, especially in your marriage?
2⃣ Admit you might need help. If you want change, stop pretending you can do it alone. Find support—a coach, group, mentor, or trusted friend. Don’t drown when there’s a life raft within reach.
3⃣ Explore your emotions. Start simple: mad, sad, glad, afraid. Can you name one today? Share it with someone, maybe even with your wife.
4⃣ Drop the armor when you walk through the door. You can carry traditional masculinity at work, but leave it outside when you come home. Your wife doesn’t need the firefighter, CEO, or soldier—she needs the whole man, open-hearted and present.

🧠 Reflection Questions:
❓ When did I first learn that vulnerability wasn’t manly? Who taught me that message, directly or indirectly?
❓ How has traditional masculinity helped me succeed in the world but hurt me at home?
❓ Which part of wholeness feels most uncomfortable for me right now—sharing my feelings, asking about hers, or using my strength to connect instead of control?
❓ Where in my marriage do I most need the life raft? Where am I drowning but pretending I’m fine?

Ready to Take Action?
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Questions?
📩 Email Me → angelo@angelosantiago.com

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In this episode, we’re exploring one of the most overlooked habits in marriage: micro repairs. These are the small, intentional moments of ownership and reconnection that keep little cuts from becoming big wounds. You’ll learn why big fights rarely start big, how small disconnections quietly erode trust, and how repairing in the moment can strengthen your marriage far more than any grand apology ever could.

Through real examples from men in Better Husband Academy, Angelo breaks down what micro repairs look like in daily life, why most men avoid them, and how learning to repair—and receive repairs—can completely shift the atmosphere of your marriage.

🔑 What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
✅ Why most big fights start with small, unrepaired moments
✅ What a “micro repair” actually looks like in real life
✅ The stories men tell themselves that keep them from repairing
✅ How to build daily habits that make repair second nature
✅ Why receiving your wife’s repairs is just as important as making your own
✅ How consistent micro repairs protect your marriage from long-term erosion

💡 Key Takeaway:
Most marriages don’t fall apart in one catastrophic moment—they erode under the weight of a thousand small, unrepaired disconnections. Practicing micro repairs daily keeps those cracks from spreading. Every small repair is a moment of leadership, a signal that your marriage matters too much to leave small wounds untended.

🔨 Action Steps This Week:
1⃣ Do a daily check-in. At the end of each day, ask yourself, “Did I do or say anything that created distance?” If yes, make a small repair before bed.
2⃣ Shorten your repair time. Track how long it takes you to circle back. If it’s days, aim for hours. If it’s hours, aim for minutes. The goal is real-time repair.
3⃣ Make one physical bid for connection. A touch on the arm, reaching for a hand, a hug—these gestures can repair as powerfully as words.
4⃣ Work on receiving her repairs. When she circles back, don’t grade the quality of her apology. Let it land. Say thank you. Step back into connection.

🧠 Reflection Questions:
❓ Where do I most often create small disconnections without repairing them?
❓ What story or excuse do I use that keeps me from repairing sooner?
❓ How open am I when my wife tries to repair with me—do I let it land or hold back?
❓ What would it look like if I made repair a daily leadership habit instead of an occasional one?

Ready to Take Action?
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Questions?
📩 Email Me → angelo@angelosantiago.com

🚨 Watch the FREE Better Husband Workshop to learn Angelo's 3 Secrets to Becoming a Better Husband Without Endless Therapy, Hating the Process, or Pretending to Be Someone You Are Not at www.BetterHusbandSecrets.com

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In this episode, we’re talking about Terry Real’s idea of Full Respect Living—a simple, hard standard: no one above you, no one beneath you. Through a story at the gym and practical examples from daily life, you’ll see how the same nervous system that handles strangers, coworkers, and traffic is the one that walks through your front door every night.

You’ll learn why practicing respect in the little arenas “out there” prepares you for the high-stakes moments at home, how to spot when you slide into superiority or collapse, and how to set boundaries that protect you and your marriage.

🔑 What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
✅ What Full Respect Living really means—and why it’s harder than it sounds
✅ How to spot the two slides that sabotage connection: one-up superiority and one-down collapse
✅ A simple three-breath reset to get back to center in the moment
✅ Why practicing respect out in the world makes it easier to live it at home
✅ How to set boundaries without blame—protecting yourself and your wife at the same time
✅ Why this principle shows up not only in psychology, but across faith and wisdom traditions

💡 Key Takeaway:
Being a better husband isn’t just about what happens in your marriage. It’s about how you carry yourself everywhere. The more you practice Full Respect Living out there—in traffic, at work, with your kids—the more natural it becomes at home.

🔨 Action Steps This Week:
1️⃣ Install a tripwire. Pick one body cue that tells you you’re sliding. When you feel it, say “Center,” breathe low, and choose a respectful sentence.
2️⃣ Do one rep out there every day. Name tags. Merging in traffic. Holding a door. One small, intentional act of human respect.
3️⃣ Do one rep at home every night. Ask, “Is there anything you need from me tonight?” Then listen for the headline and reflect it back.
4️⃣ Rewind once. The first time you notice yourself go sharp or collapse, stop and call a take-two. Try again, cleaner.
5️⃣ Do a two-minute nightly audit: Where did I stand equal today? Where did I slide? What will I try tomorrow?

🧠 Reflection Questions:
❓ Where do I most often go one-up—and with whom? What story is underneath that, and why do I believe I need to be better than?
❓ Where do I most often go one-down? What fear drives me to shrink back, and what does it cost me when I do?
❓ How would my marriage feel different if I practiced Full Respect Living not just at home, but everywhere in my life?
❓ What’s one boundary I need to set this week that protects both me and the relationship?

Ready to Take Action?
🚨 Watch the FREE Better Husband Workshop → BetterHusbandSecrets.com

Questions?
📩 Email Me → angelo@angelosantiago.com