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Jill's episode for you this week is a brief, heartfelt check-in that is perhaps perfectly timed for the current holiday season! Listen in as she opens up about a sudden family health crisis - her mother-in-law, usually healthy, having fallen seriously ill and spending several days on a ventilator. Amidst the worry and unpredictability, Jill brings listeners into a personal conversation about presence, perspective, and finding grounding even when life throws curveballs!

Jill reminds listeners that holidays rarely unfold perfectly according to plan. Rituals and traditions can anchor us, but they aren't always enough when unexpected challenges come up. She encourages listeners to step out of the comparison game - the "should haves" and "could haves" - and to instead find safety and calm within ourselves. Breathing, pausing, and acknowledging the moment can transform how we experience the holidays, even when circumstances aren't what we had hoped.

Drawing from her own experiences, Jill also shares a simple but powerful lesson about embracing spontaneity. A plan to enjoy Christmas lights with her grandson didn't go as as the Norman Rockwell perfection she had imagined - no hot cocoa, just the joy they found together which far exceeded her expectations. It's truly never too late to create meaningful holiday experiences, even if they're different from what you had envisioned!

This episode of Be YOU also, of course, explores the metaphor of the pearl born from irritation inside an oyster. Jill reflects on how challenges, pain, and unexpected disruptions can produce something beautiful when we face them fully, acknowledging and working through the difficulties rather than avoiding them. The pearls aren't the pain itself but rather what emerges when we engage with it consciously!

Listeners of the show are invited to reflect on their own "pearls" this holiday season and to approach the coming year with awareness and gratitude, and Jill signs off with warm holiday wishes and a preview of the annual year-end episode, where she'll guide listeners in uncovering the lessons, growth, and gifts of 2025 before stepping into the new year!

Also, don't forget - Jill will be hosting an upcoming retreat - the More of Me retreat - offering a deep dive into self-discovery. Head to jillherman.com for more details!

Show Notes:

[1:29] - Jill opens up about a family health crisis and encourages finding safety and calm within oneself.
[4:52] - Jill models embracing spontaneity and finding joy in imperfect holiday moments such as unexpected Christmas lights.
[6:59] - Jill reminds listeners that it's never too late to savor small, meaningful holiday experiences.
[8:20] - When acknowledged, pain and challenges can transform into something beautiful, like a pearl forming.
[10:33] - Jill invites reflection on life's "pearls" and previews the annual episode celebrating lessons from 2025.

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Join Jill this week as she invites you to slow down with her - not "when things calm down" but right now, in these last days of the year. She kicks things off by sharing a few recent reviews that genuinely meant the world to her, including reflections from women who joined her at the recent BeYOULive event in October. Their words remind her why she shows up every week with no script, no notes, and ultimately no plan other than to be fully present and fully herself.

When it comes to this episode's conversation, if you have listened to episodes 299, 301, 303, 304, and now 305, then you have likely already realized that Jill has wandered a bit into an accidental mini-series. Nothing was outlined ahead of time, yet each episode has been building on the last, first exploring what we want to feel, then what we don't want to carry into the holidays, and now shifting into something more concrete. What do you actually want to do with the rest of this month - not for your kids, not for your spouse, not for the thousand invisible jobs you take on. What do you want?

Jill also shares her own words for the season - joy and, unexpectedly, "Christmas," which means something to her that she couldn't explain even if she tried. She then walks listeners through a simple practice of writing a list by hand of everything that you personally want to experience in December. They can be big things, tiny things, silly things, meaningful things, etc. Afterwards, choose five non-negotiables, things that are absolutely happening no matter what - whether the month goes smoothly or, as Jill's mom would say, "goes to hell in a handbasket."

From there, Jill guides you through bringing your chosen word into each experience, documenting it, and actually acknowledging how it feels to finally put yourself back on your own list. Jill is even doing this with you herself, so if December has flown by too many years in a row, this episode is your invitation to claim even a few moments that are entirely, unapologetically yours!

Also, don't forget - Jill will be hosting an upcoming retreat - the More of Me retreat - offering a deep dive into self-discovery. Head to jillherman.com for more details!

Show Notes:

[1:58] - Jill shares a couple of positive reviews left by listeners recently.
[4:04] - Jill has realized that her recent unplanned episodes formed a mini-series building toward concrete December actions.
[5:36] - Jill chooses "joy" and "Christmas" as her words and en listeners to handwrite a personal December list.
[8:01] - Jill encourages listeners to list personal December wishes and to then choose five non-negotiable experiences for themselves.
[11:56] - Jill encourages documenting each activity and taking note of how it felt to finally prioritize yourself.
[13:07] - Listeners are asked to honor their chosen experiences and to reflect on choosing themselves.

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Listen in this week as Jill takes listeners into the final stretch of 2025! With only thirty days left in the Year of the Snake (a year defined by shedding, releasing, and uncomfortable but necessary evolution), she invites everyone to step into December with intention, and she reminds longtime listeners that her annual December 29th ritual is coming: a fresh, guided closing of the year that includes a meditation and a revisit of the photos on your camera roll.

Before that episode gets here, though, Jill returns to conversations from the past few weeks, revisiting the work around holiday expectations, letting go of traditions and obligations that drain us, and imagining the season the way we've always wished it could feel. She loops back to exercises around the worries we speak aloud without realizing how much weight they carry, especially when directed at the people we love under the guise of "concern."

Jill takes this concept even further, proposing a simple but effective system: two jars - one for every spoken worry, criticism, or fear masquerading as care and one for every moment we consciously choose the opposite. There is no punishment or shame, just visibility, honesty, and reinforcement. She reveals how this practice exposes the stories we cling to like childhood security blankets and how shifting those stories changes far more than our mood; it affects our energy, our relationships, and the tone of our entire day.

Via personal reflection and practical suggestions, Jill encourages listeners to clean up their emotional and energetic space now, not in January. December can be steady, clear, and intentional if we're willing to actually work with what comes to the surface and allow yourself to feel everything.

Also, don't forget - Jill will be hosting an upcoming retreat - the More of Me retreat - offering a deep dive into self-discovery. Head to jillherman.com for more details!

Show Notes:

[1:27] - Jill urges listeners to end December intentionally and skip traditional resolutions for a gentler New Year.
[4:05] - Jill revisits last episode's holiday exercise returns so that we can recommit to letting go of fear and instead choosing joy.
[6:51] - Jill suggests tip-jar "games" to curb speech that is based on fear and to reward healthier patterns.
[9:18] - Hear how embodiment helps reduce worry by replacing mental loops with grounded nervous-system habits.
[11:41] - Jill explains how childhood conditioning makes toxic behavior feel familiar, creating looped patterns as an adult.
[14:44] - Negative talk influences your health, relationships, and the energy that you broadcast.
[16:49] - Hear how December sometimes causes old pain to resurface.
[19:34] - Jill's advice is to allow yourself to feel everything fully while balancing joy and grief without being overwhelmed.
[21:23] - Jill recommends a morning gratitude prayer to feel joy and holiday presence.
[25:13] - Jill recaps the episode's themes and invites listeners to shape their month with intention!

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The holiday season is here, and Jill is also here to share her thoughts on how to avoid the holiday season being the stressful period that you probably believe it to be. Focusing particularly on Thanksgiving in the United States, she directly challenges listeners, stating that if you are tired of doing the holidays the same way every year, then it is you who has the power to make a change! Jill encourages listeners to examine your holiday routines and question whether those routines are truly serving you, and she cautions against falling into patterns of resentment, self-sacrifice, and victimhood.

Jill also walks listeners through a quiet exercise to reconnect with yourselves through breath, body awareness, and intuitive movement. She suggests writing exercises to uncover what you no longer want to participate in during the holidays and then to envision your ideal holiday experience. Jill stresses the importance of believing that you deserve this, being open to receiving it, and committing to holding onto that vision.

While Jill acknowledges that making changes to holiday traditions may be difficult and cause conflict with family members, she also highlights the fact that with love, clarity, and compromise, you can rewrite the holiday narrative in a way that serves you, and she encourages listeners to have the courage to say no, set boundaries, and prioritize your own needs and desires!

Jill ultimately wraps it all up by expressing her belief that when listeners stop making yourselves last on the list, the holiday season will look very different (and better) than years past, and she reminds listeners that you have the power to create the holiday experience that you truly want!

Also, don't forget - Jill will be hosting an upcoming retreat - the More of Me retreat - offering a deep dive into self-discovery. Head to jillherman.com for more details!

Show Notes:

[1:36] - Jill welcomes listeners and reminds them they already contain their best selves.
[4:44] - Hear Jill discuss her raw, unscripted approach to the podcast.
[6:51] - Jill urges women to claim their agency and to stop repeating holiday "obligations" that drain them.
[8:59] - Unspoken resentment can destroy relationships.
[11:16] - Jill invites listeners to find quiet pauses to reconnect with the body and inner guidance.
[13:32] - Jill describes building intuition via silence, body awareness, and gentle movement free of judgment.
[16:35] - Jill encourages listeners to free-write holiday boundaries to release tension.
[19:29] - Hear how imagining detailed, desire-filled holiday scenarios increases the likelihood of you eventually creating them.
[22:19] - Jill highlights the importance of claiming permission, deserving joy, and welcoming a holiday experience that you truly want!
[25:29] - Jill encourages rewriting holiday patterns via boundaries, self-worth, and intentional loving action.

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Join Jill this week as she discusses the difference between someone feeling truly heard versus someone hijacking a group setting. She uses the example of a Zoom call in which two participants dominated the conversation, going on lengthy tangents instead of following the facilitator's instructions. Jill offers the possibility that such behavior is not meant to be malicious and discusses some possible reasons for it, including nervous system dysregulation, ego protection, and general lack of self-awareness.

As the leader of a group, Jill stresses the importance of politely yet firmly redirecting someone who is monopolizing time and energy in order to maintain the structure of the container for the entire group, and she provides some specific suggestions for how to handle these situations with compassion. Jill also touches on the holiday season quickly approaching and promises to share tools and strategies in an upcoming episode to help listeners navigate family dynamics and personal boundaries during this time of year!

She also spends a little bit of time discussing the recent in-person BeYOULive event which was the 300th episode of the podcast. She describes how she forgot to give away two of the raffle prizes at the event and reveals the winners in this episode of the show! After spinning the virtual prize wheel, Jill announces the winners of the 5-month house cleaning service and the $1,500 dinner at her favorite local restaurant!

Also, don't forget - Jill will be hosting an upcoming retreat - the More of Me retreat - offering a deep dive into self-discovery. Head to jillherman.com for more details!

Show Notes:

[01:27] - Jill emphasizes the fact that her podcast centers on self-worth and has naturally evolved into mostly solo episodes.
[03:31] - Jill reflects on having hosted her recent first ever live event.
[06:55] - Jill announces prize winners from the recent BeYOULive event!
[9:00] - Popular Be YOU merch, especially the green sweatshirts, will be sold through an upcoming boutique collaboration!
[11:19] - Hear Jill read a recent glowing review from a listener.
[12:44] - Jill is contrasting being heard with hijacking a space after witnessing two men dominate their introductions in a Zoom meeting.
[15:11] - Jill suggests that over-talking can stem from nervous-system dysregulation masquerading as control.
[18:10] - Jill explains that performative over-talking often reflects insecurity, masking a need to feel relevant.
[20:51] - Grounded people share concisely, unlike those compensating through dominance.
[22:45] - Jill argues that leaders need to gently interrupt rambling participants to protect the group's structure.
[25:11] - An effective leader prioritizes the group's container over one person's comfort or ego.
[27:37] - Jill suggests that if the facilitator won't reestablish structure, you can respectfully interrupt to save time.
[30:33] - Jill previews some upcoming lessons on aging, boundaries, and taking on holiday pressures with self-confidence.

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This week on Be YOU, join Jill as she revisits an exercise from two episodes ago in which listeners were asked to do a "brain dump" of their fears and worries and then rewrite/reframe them in positive ways. She encourages listeners to continue doing this exercise, even affirming that many people around the world are participating!

The key part of the exercise now? As Jill explains, be aware of when you are speaking your fears and worries out loud, and immediately "flip the script" by saying the positive version out loud instead. Jill gives some examples, like if you find yourself complaining about someone being irresponsible, you could instead say out loud that they are learning and growing. She highlights that it's really important to say the positive version out loud and not just think it.

Jill makes the argument that the words that we use have a lot of power and energy and that we often speak our fears and worries into existence without even realizing. By consciously flipping the script out loud, she reiterates, we can change the way we see the world and the people in it.

Jill also takes a moment to plug a book written by a previous guest of the podcast, Lisa Morton – a book titled Aligned at Home: How Feng Shui and Holistic Design Can Restore Your Energy and Well-Being. Grab a copy here!

Also, don't forget - Jill will be hosting an upcoming retreat - the More of Me retreat - offering a deep dive into self-discovery. Head to jillherman.com for more details!

Show Notes:

[01:59] - Jill encourages listeners to leave podcast reviews, and she praises her hardworking editing team.
[04:53] - Jill is revisiting episode 299, highlighting the power of words through a "flip-the-script" exercise.
[07:03] - Listeners all over the world are encouraged to speak positivity out loud, recognizing how words manifest energy and truth.
[09:22] - Jill advises literally "striking and reversing" negative self-talk by instead saying affirming statements aloud.
[11:39] - Jill reflects on how speaking of our worries only reinforces negativity.
[13:55] - Jill plugs the book Aligned at Home, written by previous guest Lisa Morton!

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