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  • 303 - Rewriting the Script for the Holidays

    303 - Rewriting the Script for the Holidays
    Nov 24 2025

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    The holiday season is here, and Jill is also here to share her thoughts on how to avoid the holiday season being the stressful period that you probably believe it to be. Focusing particularly on Thanksgiving in the United States, she directly challenges listeners, stating that if you are tired of doing the holidays the same way every year, then it is you who has the power to make a change! Jill encourages listeners to examine your holiday routines and question whether those routines are truly serving you, and she cautions against falling into patterns of resentment, self-sacrifice, and victimhood.

    Jill also walks listeners through a quiet exercise to reconnect with yourselves through breath, body awareness, and intuitive movement. She suggests writing exercises to uncover what you no longer want to participate in during the holidays and then to envision your ideal holiday experience. Jill stresses the importance of believing that you deserve this, being open to receiving it, and committing to holding onto that vision.

    While Jill acknowledges that making changes to holiday traditions may be difficult and cause conflict with family members, she also highlights the fact that with love, clarity, and compromise, you can rewrite the holiday narrative in a way that serves you, and she encourages listeners to have the courage to say no, set boundaries, and prioritize your own needs and desires!

    Jill ultimately wraps it all up by expressing her belief that when listeners stop making yourselves last on the list, the holiday season will look very different (and better) than years past, and she reminds listeners that you have the power to create the holiday experience that you truly want!

    Also, don't forget - Jill will be hosting an upcoming retreat - the More of Me retreat - offering a deep dive into self-discovery. Head to jillherman.com for more details!


    Show Notes:

    [1:36] - Jill welcomes listeners and reminds them they already contain their best selves.
    [4:44] - Hear Jill discuss her raw, unscripted approach to the podcast.
    [6:51] - Jill urges women to claim their agency and to stop repeating holiday "obligations" that drain them.
    [8:59] - Unspoken resentment can destroy relationships.
    [11:16] - Jill invites listeners to find quiet pauses to reconnect with the body and inner guidance.
    [13:32] - Jill describes building intuition via silence, body awareness, and gentle movement free of judgment.
    [16:35] - Jill encourages listeners to free-write holiday boundaries to release tension.
    [19:29] - Hear how imagining detailed, desire-filled holiday scenarios increases the likelihood of you eventually creating them.
    [22:19] - Jill highlights the importance of claiming permission, deserving joy, and welcoming a holiday experience that you truly want!
    [25:29] - Jill encourages rewriting holiday patterns via boundaries, self-worth, and intentional loving action.


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    28 m
  • 302 - Hijacking or Being Heard? How to Know the Difference

    302 - Hijacking or Being Heard? How to Know the Difference
    Nov 17 2025

    Join Jill this week as she discusses the difference between someone feeling truly heard versus someone hijacking a group setting. She uses the example of a Zoom call in which two participants dominated the conversation, going on lengthy tangents instead of following the facilitator's instructions. Jill offers the possibility that such behavior is not meant to be malicious and discusses some possible reasons for it, including nervous system dysregulation, ego protection, and general lack of self-awareness.

    As the leader of a group, Jill stresses the importance of politely yet firmly redirecting someone who is monopolizing time and energy in order to maintain the structure of the container for the entire group, and she provides some specific suggestions for how to handle these situations with compassion. Jill also touches on the holiday season quickly approaching and promises to share tools and strategies in an upcoming episode to help listeners navigate family dynamics and personal boundaries during this time of year!

    She also spends a little bit of time discussing the recent in-person BeYOULive event which was the 300th episode of the podcast. She describes how she forgot to give away two of the raffle prizes at the event and reveals the winners in this episode of the show! After spinning the virtual prize wheel, Jill announces the winners of the 5-month house cleaning service and the $1,500 dinner at her favorite local restaurant!

    Also, don't forget - Jill will be hosting an upcoming retreat - the More of Me retreat - offering a deep dive into self-discovery. Head to jillherman.com for more details!


    Show Notes:

    [01:27] - Jill emphasizes the fact that her podcast centers on self-worth and has naturally evolved into mostly solo episodes.
    [03:31] - Jill reflects on having hosted her recent first ever live event.
    [06:55] - Jill announces prize winners from the recent BeYOULive event!
    [9:00] - Popular Be YOU merch, especially the green sweatshirts, will be sold through an upcoming boutique collaboration!
    [11:19] - Hear Jill read a recent glowing review from a listener.
    [12:44] - Jill is contrasting being heard with hijacking a space after witnessing two men dominate their introductions in a Zoom meeting.
    [15:11] - Jill suggests that over-talking can stem from nervous-system dysregulation masquerading as control.
    [18:10] - Jill explains that performative over-talking often reflects insecurity, masking a need to feel relevant.
    [20:51] - Grounded people share concisely, unlike those compensating through dominance.
    [22:45] - Jill argues that leaders need to gently interrupt rambling participants to protect the group's structure.
    [25:11] - An effective leader prioritizes the group's container over one person's comfort or ego.
    [27:37] - Jill suggests that if the facilitator won't reestablish structure, you can respectfully interrupt to save time.
    [30:33] - Jill previews some upcoming lessons on aging, boundaries, and taking on holiday pressures with self-confidence.


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    33 m
  • 301 - Say It Differently, See It Differently

    301 - Say It Differently, See It Differently
    Nov 10 2025

    This week on Be YOU, join Jill as she revisits an exercise from two episodes ago in which listeners were asked to do a "brain dump" of their fears and worries and then rewrite/reframe them in positive ways. She encourages listeners to continue doing this exercise, even affirming that many people around the world are participating!

    The key part of the exercise now? As Jill explains, be aware of when you are speaking your fears and worries out loud, and immediately "flip the script" by saying the positive version out loud instead. Jill gives some examples, like if you find yourself complaining about someone being irresponsible, you could instead say out loud that they are learning and growing. She highlights that it's really important to say the positive version out loud and not just think it.

    Jill makes the argument that the words that we use have a lot of power and energy and that we often speak our fears and worries into existence without even realizing. By consciously flipping the script out loud, she reiterates, we can change the way we see the world and the people in it.

    Jill also takes a moment to plug a book written by a previous guest of the podcast, Lisa Morton – a book titled Aligned at Home: How Feng Shui and Holistic Design Can Restore Your Energy and Well-Being. Grab a copy here!

    Also, don't forget - Jill will be hosting an upcoming retreat - the More of Me retreat - offering a deep dive into self-discovery. Head to jillherman.com for more details!


    Show Notes:

    [01:59] - Jill encourages listeners to leave podcast reviews, and she praises her hardworking editing team.
    [04:53] - Jill is revisiting episode 299, highlighting the power of words through a "flip-the-script" exercise.
    [07:03] - Listeners all over the world are encouraged to speak positivity out loud, recognizing how words manifest energy and truth.
    [09:22] - Jill advises literally "striking and reversing" negative self-talk by instead saying affirming statements aloud.
    [11:39] - Jill reflects on how speaking of our worries only reinforces negativity.
    [13:55] - Jill plugs the book Aligned at Home, written by previous guest Lisa Morton!


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  • 300 - Live Recording from BEYOULive

    300 - Live Recording from BEYOULive
    Nov 4 2025
    Although she is in disbelief that she is finally saying this, welcome to the 300th episode of the Be YOU podcast! This week, Jill shares some highlights from the recent four-hour BeYOULive event where more than 150 women from around the world came together to celebrate 300 episodes and being themselves! At its heart, the event was really all about helping women let go of the "masks" they wear in everyday life - roles, behaviors, and ways that they see themselves that are preventing them from showing up as their true selves. Through a series of exercises, attendants, without shame or judgment, identified the masks that they tend to hide behind, wrote them down on actual masks, and then took them off as a symbolic act of release and self-reflection. Women were also encouraged to be vulnerable, share honestly, and lift each other up, with Jill highlighting choosing self-compassion over self-criticism (or the salve over the salt). Beyond the mask activity, the event included dancing/movement, journaling, and small group conversations, all designed to help the women reconnect with who they really are. Jill really highlights how powerful of an experience that it was, with women bravely having opened up about their various hopes and fears. Several women, for example, share their experiences with holding back from pursuing wants and desires out of fear - such as wanting to cut or even shave their hair but fearing that they don't have the "right" face for it. This was truly a memorable leg of the Be YOU journey for Jill, and she is sure that it was for most of the over 150 women who attended as well! That's why she wraps up with a VERY exciting announcement: she has changed her mind about not hosting a retreat to focus on her upcoming book! That's right – Jill WILL be hosting an upcoming retreat - the More of Me retreat - offering an even deeper dive into self-discovery, so be sure to tune in and head to jillherman.com for more details! SPECIAL THANKS TO: Pacula Diamonds, Surack Enterprises, Franklin Electric, Barrett McNagny LLP, Coletech Quality Woodworking Inc., Tolon Restaurant, Waddell & Associates, & Wilcox & Associates Show Notes: [1:27] - Jill is celebrating the podcast's 300th episode, thanking loyal listeners worldwide for embracing the podcast. [5:19] - Jill welcomes attendees to the BeYOULive event, introducing button distinctions. [7:48] - Jill further recognizes more attendees with special buttons. [9:14] - Lindsay is gifted a custom $2,400 jewelry piece from Pacula Diamonds as Jill praises those who traveled far to attend. [11:51] - Sydney from Pacula Diamonds explains how her jewelry design symbolizes passion and reminds wearers to follow their true selves. [12:45] - Jill spends a few minutes thanking sponsors and everyone who helped make this happen. [16:32] - Jill explains the event's flow, inviting attendees to relax and simply be themselves. [19:43] - Openness, physical movement, and emotional safety are all encouraged. [22:12] - Jill leads women in acknowledging some shared vulnerabilities. [25:09] - Alicia shares that women often feel pressure to hold everything together for everyone else's well-being. [28:05] - Jill explains that personal growth means shedding old protective layers. [31:13] - Self-development isn't about fixing flaws but rather evolving into your true potential. [33:44] - Jill encourages reacting to self-protective behaviors with compassion instead of judgment. [35:15] - "Masks" such as perfectionism, people-pleasing, and overconfidence are mentioned as examples. [37:16] - Humor, keeping busy, and emotional suppression can also be self-protective masks. [39:03] - Jill leads a symbolic mask-removal exercise. [42:03] - Participants are instructed to label and release their personal "masks" for a silent reflective walk. [46:38] - Jill lists some common emotional masks such as perfectionism, control, people-pleasing, success, and constant caretaking. [49:29] - Jill invites women to view themselves with the same compassion that they show one another. [51:46] - Jill contrasts self-criticism ("salt") with self-compassion ("salve") in healing old emotional wounds. [53:56] - Jill demonstrates using "of course" statements to replace shame with compassion. [56:42] - Self-compassion helps soften harmful patterns and promotes growth. [59:25] - Cynthia reflects on finding calm and connection through a flute-themed mural that resonated with her. ​​[1:00:42] - Alicia reflects on how enabling others' behavior can harm herself even though she does it to seek peace. [1:03:32] - Attendee (not host!) Jill compares the exercise to a form of religious confession, helping her process and release her emotions. [1:04:15] - Erin shares that embracing self-compassion helps her heal from feeling like she always has to be strong. [1:07:43] - Hear how Daniella felt a sense of unity and calmness seeing all the other women walk together after removing their masks. [1:08:17] - Lydia reveals how ...
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  • 299 - Your Words Are Powerful. Use Them Wisely.

    299 - Your Words Are Powerful. Use Them Wisely.
    Oct 20 2025
    We are only a few days from BE YOU Live!! Tickets are almost sold out! Join Jill for the five-year anniversary of Be YOU - a special in person ALL WOMEN BIG event celebrating 300 episodes of the podcast - on Saturday, October 25th from 1–5 p.m. in Fort Wayne, Indiana. You'll get to connect and network with 200 amazing women! The community you didn't know you had and didn't realize you needed. Wait till you meet these women. You'll get to sit back and let Jill pour into you and you'll leave with more clarity, confidence and a remembrance of how gifted and glorious you are. Thank you to our BE YOU Live Event sponsors: Surack Enterprises, Franklin Electric, The Pearl, Tolon Restaurant, Barret McNagny Law, Wilcox and Associates, Coletech Quality Woodworking, and Waddell & Associates! Learn more and get tickets at jillherman.com/beyou Search #BEYOULive on Instagram and Facebook and be sure to use it when sharing online! This event is going to be a coming home to yourself, AND a lot of fun. xoJill We are getting so close to the upcoming BE YOU event celebrating five years and 300 episodes of the podcast, and this week, Jill is providing listeners with some important details - both reminders and updates - about the event. She stresses that while this episode is primarily for listeners who are definitely going to the event, everyone else is invited to listen as well in case you're on the fence about whether or not you want to go and/or just want an idea of the energy and atmosphere that will be experienced at the event. Jill encourages listeners to find ways to seek out the same sense of authenticity, connection, and support that will be present at the event, whether it be through creating your own gatherings or your own social circles, and she stresses that the event is about dropping masks, letting go of competition and comparison, and simply being yourself! For those who are attending the event, listen in as Jill provides some helpful details, from the event schedule to the dress code (which is essentially no dress code at all). She promises attendees that the event is designed to make them feel safe, seen, and held, without any pressure for vulnerability or deep work beyond what they are comfortable with. She also shares her vision for the event, a place where women can simply be themselves without feeling a need to perform or impress. Ultimately, Jill invites listeners to fully embrace the opportunity, whether attending the event or finding ways to create a similar experience in your own lives, and she passionately encourages an attitude of openness, surrender, and trust in the process as she promises that the event will be a transformative and literally unique experience! Join Jill for a short and sweet episode this week as she discusses the importance of being mindful of our words. She invites listeners to join her in a special exercise over the next few weeks, explaining that she feels called to do a "tuneup," or a period of self-reflection and reprogramming of her mindset. Jill encourages listeners to make a thorough list of all their worries, fears, and negative thought patterns. After releasing that via writing, she suggests connecting with nature, doing some movement and breathwork, and then reframing those negative thoughts into positive affirmations. Jill highlights the power of our words and how they can shape our reality, sharing some examples of how speaking positively, even exaggeratedly, about relationships and situations can help manifest that reality. Listeners are invited to write out these positive affirmations, display them, and read them aloud daily, connecting to a higher power or their own inner wisdom! Jill reveals how she plans to do this exercise alongside listeners over the next two months, sharing the changes that she notices not just in herself but also in the people and circumstances around her. She encourages listeners to make this practice their own and trust their intuition. Jill also, of course, reminds listeners that there are still tickets available for the upcoming live 300th episode event! Get your ticket now before it's too late! Show Notes: [01:28] - It's nearly the 300th episode of the podcast! [02:53] - Hear why this is a shorter episode than usual. [05:45] - Jill encourages writing a handwritten list of every fear, then grounding through movement and nature. [07:58] - After deep breathing, Jill advises listing ten fears and then rewriting them as bold, positive affirmations. [10:46] - Jill also encourages listeners to thank the universe as if their desires already exist. [12:39] - Everything is energy, including words. [15:19] - Jill reveals that she plans to share her own results after two months. [17:37] - It's not too late to buy a ticket for the upcoming event! Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts "I love Be You Podcast!" ← If that sounds like you, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps the podcast reach more people just like...
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  • 298 - To the Women of #BEYOULive

    298 - To the Women of #BEYOULive
    Oct 13 2025
    We are just 12 days out from BE YOU Live!! Tickets are almost sold out! We are closing doors for ticket sales on Sunday, October 19th at midnight so don't wait! Join Jill for the five-year anniversary of Be YOU - a special in person ALL WOMEN BIG event celebrating 300 episodes of the podcast - on Saturday, October 25th from 1–5 p.m. in Fort Wayne, Indiana. You'll get to connect and network with 200 amazing women! The community you didn't know you had and didn't realize you needed. Wait till you meet these women. You'll get to sit back and let Jill pour into you and you'll leave with more clarity, confidence and a remembrance of how gifted and glorious you are. Thank you to our BE YOU Live Event sponsors: Surack Enterprises, Franklin Electric, The Pearl, Tolon Restaurant, Barret McNagny Law, Wilcox and Associates, Coletech Quality Woodworking, and Waddell & Associates! Learn more and get tickets at jillherman.com/beyou Search #BEYOULive on Instagram and Facebook and be sure to use it when sharing online! This event is going to be a coming home to yourself, AND a lot of fun. xoJill We are getting so close to the upcoming BE YOU event celebrating five years and 300 episodes of the podcast, and this week, Jill is providing listeners with some important details - both reminders and updates - about the event. She stresses that while this episode is primarily for listeners who are definitely going to the event, everyone else is invited to listen as well in case you're on the fence about whether or not you want to go and/or just want an idea of the energy and atmosphere that will be experienced at the event. Jill encourages listeners to find ways to seek out the same sense of authenticity, connection, and support that will be present at the event, whether it be through creating your own gatherings or your own social circles, and she stresses that the event is about dropping masks, letting go of competition and comparison, and simply being yourself! For those who are attending the event, listen in as Jill provides some helpful details, from the event schedule to the dress code (which is essentially no dress code at all). She promises attendees that the event is designed to make them feel safe, seen, and held, without any pressure for vulnerability or deep work beyond what they are comfortable with. She also shares her vision for the event, a place where women can simply be themselves without feeling a need to perform or impress. Ultimately, Jill invites listeners to fully embrace the opportunity, whether attending the event or finding ways to create a similar experience in your own lives, and she passionately encourages an attitude of openness, surrender, and trust in the process as she promises that the event will be a transformative and literally unique experience! Jill spends some time this week reflecting on some of the lessons that she has been learning as she plans her upcoming event celebrating 300 episodes of the podcast! She gets into the personal growth that she has experienced via planning this event, acknowledging her tendency to take on too much responsibility and do everything herself, even though this often leads to burnout and resentment. However, after realizing that she was slipping back into this pattern as she planned the event, Jill had an epiphany - the true lesson was not about her own limitations but about fully surrendering and trusting that the universe will provide what is needed, so rather than trying to force herself to sell every single ticket, Jill has decided to let go and allow the seats to fill organically. She declares that there will be 200 women in that room, and she is going to "dance, breathe, sound bathe" her way to that outcome, rather than grinding and hustling. Jill also shares that this event is not just for the attendees but is also a gift to herself, acknowledging that she has often put others' needs before her own. She invites listeners who may also struggle with holding too much responsibility to reflect on their own patterns, and consider how they can let go and allow the universe to support them! Enjoy this vulnerable and insightful reflection from Jill this week as we get closer and closer to the big event! Show Notes: [1:29] - Jill encourages even those not attending the upcoming event to seek out authentic community. [4:49] - Jill invites participants to join a WhatsApp group for connection and friendship building prior to the event. [6:46] - Jill advises women to quiet their minds, set intentions, and tune in to the energy of the event. [8:42] - Jill encourages being open to unexpected growth and self-trust while releasing control and tendency to compare. [11:21] - The event will feel safe, genuine, and deeply affirming without forced anyone to be vulnerable. [13:28] - Jill promises an authentic four-hour experience that's grounded in sincerity and connection. [16:38] - Listeners are reminded that this is the one and only time in history that this ...
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  • 297 - Aha! So That's the Lesson Among the Lesson!

    297 - Aha! So That's the Lesson Among the Lesson!
    Oct 6 2025
    Are you ready to experience BE YOU live and in person? Join Jill for the five-year anniversary of Be YOU - a special in person ALL WOMEN BIG event celebrating 300 episodes of the podcast - on Saturday, October 25th from 1–5 p.m. in Fort Wayne, Indiana. You'll get to connect and network with 200 amazing women! The community you didn't know you had and didn't realize you needed. Wait till you meet these women. You'll get to sit back and let Jill pour into you and you'll leave with more clarity, confidence and a remembrance of how gifted and glorious you are. Thank you to our BE YOU Live Event sponsors: Surack Enterprises, Franklin Electric, The Pearl, Tolon Restaurant, Wilcox and Associates, Coletech Quality Woodworking, and Waddell & Associates! Tickets are selling fast at jillherman.com/beyou Search #BEYOULive on Instagram and Facebook and be sure to use it when sharing online! This event is going to be a coming home to yourself, AND a lot of fun. xoJill Jill spends some time this week reflecting on some of the lessons that she has been learning as she plans her upcoming event celebrating 300 episodes of the podcast! She gets into the personal growth that she has experienced via planning this event, acknowledging her tendency to take on too much responsibility and do everything herself, even though this often leads to burnout and resentment. However, after realizing that she was slipping back into this pattern as she planned the event, Jill had an epiphany - the true lesson was not about her own limitations but about fully surrendering and trusting that the universe will provide what is needed, so rather than trying to force herself to sell every single ticket, Jill has decided to let go and allow the seats to fill organically. She declares that there will be 200 women in that room, and she is going to "dance, breathe, sound bathe" her way to that outcome, rather than grinding and hustling. Jill also shares that this event is not just for the attendees but is also a gift to herself, acknowledging that she has often put others' needs before her own. She invites listeners who may also struggle with holding too much responsibility to reflect on their own patterns, and consider how they can let go and allow the universe to support them! Enjoy this vulnerable and insightful reflection from Jill this week as we get closer and closer to the big event! Show Notes: [02:14] - Jill asks listeners to please subscribe to the show and also to rate and review it. [04:49] - Jill discovers how stepping outside of her comfort zone reveals hidden strengths, resilience, and even surprising superpowers! [07:13] - When Jill carries too much, her body crashes, reminding her to delegate instead of be a martyr. [09:47] - Even though her perfectionism still resurfaces, Jill accepts help, hires support, and confronts her old "do it all herself" pattern. [12:43] - Hear how Jill learned the lesson on top of the lesson - catching herself before repeating the toxic cycle. [14:58] - Jill saw her nervous system crave safety, but delegation and support prevented old destructive habits. [17:48] - Determined, Jill knew that she could sell 200 tickets through sheer grit, creativity, and drive! [20:18] - Instead of proving herself through exhaustion, Jill embraced surrendering and trusting that the right women will come to the event. [23:04] - Hear how Jill realized that the lesson wasn't settling but rather receiving abundance and trusting support to arrive. [26:21] - Jill reflects on having realized that the event is also a gift for her, not just attendees. [29:10] - Jill declares that 200 seats will be filled via joy, creativity, prayer, and absolute trust. [31:26] - For Jill, taking care of everything herself tends to feel safe, but embodiment work helps release old burdens without self-criticism. [34:10] - By loosening her grip on control, Jill invites magic, ease, and unexpected gifts to unfold! [38:01] - Listen as Jill reframes attendance: focus not on sacrifice but on potential gains, growth, and connection! Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts "I love Be You Podcast!" ← If that sounds like you, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps the podcast reach more people just like you. Click here, scroll to the bottom, tap to rate with five stars, and select "Write a Review." I know there was something in this episode that you were meant to hear. Let me know what that is! Also, if you haven't done so already, follow Be You Podcast. There is a new episode every single week, and if you're not following, there's a good chance you'll miss out.
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  • 296 - How to Find Friends Who Value Transparency, Expansion, & Growth

    296 - How to Find Friends Who Value Transparency, Expansion, & Growth
    Sep 29 2025

    Are you ready to experience BE YOU live and in person?
    Join Jill for the five-year anniversary of Be YOU - a special in person ALL WOMEN BIG event celebrating 300 episodes of the podcast - on Saturday, October 25th from 1–5 p.m. in Fort Wayne, Indiana.

    You'll get to connect and network with 200 amazing women! The community you didn't know you had and didn't realize you needed. Wait till you meet these women.

    You'll get to sit back and let Jill pour into you and you'll leave with more clarity, confidence and a remembrance of how gifted and glorious you are.

    Thank you to our BE YOU Live Event sponsors: Surack Enterprises, Franklin Electric, The Pearl, Tolon Restaurant, Wilcox and Associates, Coletech Quality Woodworking, and Waddell & Associates!

    Tickets are selling fast at     jillherman.com/beyou

    Search #BEYOULive on Instagram and Facebook and be sure to use it when sharing online! This event is going to be a coming home to yourself, AND a lot of fun. xoJill

    Join Jill this week as she discusses the upcoming Be YOU event called "Be You Live" which is celebrating its five-year anniversary and 300th episode! Jill acknowledges that this event may not be for everyone, as our nervous systems can sometimes try to prevent us from doing things that will expand and challenge us, but she encourages listeners to truly listen to their intuition to determine if this event is right for them in spite of any doubts or excuses their mind may come up with.

    Jill also spends time this episode discussing her perspective on true friendship, describing the type of deep, authentic friendships that she has built upon – ones in which there is radical honesty, vulnerability, and a willingness to challenge each other to grow – and she contrasts this with more surface-level friendships that avoid difficult conversations. Jill shares her own experience of having to have a "clearing conversation" with someone she cares about but ultimately having realized that they were not meant to be close friends. She highlights the importance of shedding relationships that no longer serve us but doing so with self-compassion rather than judgment.

    Jill ultimately encourages listeners to reflect on the quality of your own friendships and your relationships with yourselves, suggesting journaling, self-reflection, and allowing yourselves to fully feel emotions as ways to pave the way for the type of meaningful connections she talks about in this episode, believing that when we can be that kind of friend to ourselves, we will attract those kinds of friendships with others!


    Show Notes:

    [01:31] - Jill is urging listeners to overcome fear that's preventing growth and attend the upcoming Be YOU event!

    [04:35] - She challenges the idea that self-sacrifice is noble and insists that true belonging comes from being yourself.

    [07:20] - Real friendships mirror growth and honesty and first require self-acceptance.

    [10:04] - Jill teaches compassion toward yourself, and she notes how friendships reflect inner healing and might naturally dissolve.

    [13:12] - Jill accepts that not all connections align, affirming her high standards.

    [15:43] - Jill values friendships with honesty and sincere feedback.

    [18:25] - True friendships, Jill insists, honor authenticity and the highest self, not old wounds from childhood trauma.



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