BPD Relationship Dynamics with Codependents Projection and Introjection

BPD Relationship Dynamics with Codependents Projection and Introjection is explained more in depth and A.J. Mahari has a course coming that goes even more in depth designed for people with Codependency needing to break the trauma bond with a person with BPD and who will benefit from their own healing and recovery journey. Included Melanie Klein's Phantasy that addresses the beginning of life in an Object Relations lens, projective identification of those with BPD and the inter-play between people with BPD - their introjections & projections and the introjections and projections of people with Codependency.

I feel like secretly it's the codependent, yeah?

this podcast, when listened to (and the early sound quality really means you're committed now if you're this far in ) alongside other sources of information (its difficult to avoid thinking of this as a primary source as the presenter was diagnosed with the condition of interest) can relay both the personal perspective that allows such insightful descriptions of behaviors as well as experience in treatment and further interactions to allow for understanding to mature.
my only problem is the constant attempts to compare the relatively benign codependency with the series of dumpster fires that are the bpd relationships. a codependent can be in a relationship and never realize a problem exists, because everyone is relatively happy. contrasted with the absolute Inability of bpd relationships to develop past self hating projected devaluation. their repeated celebrations of pain is a problem, a danger even, to everyone they ever meet. I agree codependency isn't healthy and needs therapy immediately, but they aren't driving anyone to suicide when their wife takes their kids and vanish, or whatever fantasy works that week. they just help people feel better and seem like I'd want a few at work or as neighbors.