Your kids need help with homework. You wife needs you to start dinner. There is a lot of juggling going on. How do dads do it well? In this episode of the All Pro Dad Podcast, host Ted Lowe is joined by BJ Foster and Bobby Lewis to talk about balancing the roles of husband and father well.

Why This Matters
It’s important for men to thrive in both of their crucial family roles.

Key Takeaways

• Most U.S. men are dads: About 60 percent of men aged 15 and over are fathers. (U.S. Census Bureau)

· Millions of U.S. men are married: In 2022, 67.85 million men in the United States were married.

· Your wife and kids are gifts: You must balance your time well between them.

Action Steps to Split Your Time Well

1. Know your duties.

2. Identify your distractions.

3. Trim the fat.

4. Establish rigid boundaries

5. Stick to those boundaries.

6. Don’t feel guilty over those boundaries.

7. Commit to reevaluating those boundaries in the future.

8. Look for opportunities.

Important Episode Timestamps

0:00 – 01:09 | Marriage & Parenting Journeys
01:10 – 02:00 | The Conflict of Time
02:01 – 02:41 | A Dad’s Testimonial on Priorities
02:42 – 03:47 | Big Question: Balancing Roles
03:48 – 05:21 | Limited Time & Cultural Pressures
05:22 – 07:25 | Remembering Family as a Gift
07:26 – 10:05 | Action Steps for Balance
10:06 – 13:20 | Rituals, Boundaries, and Seasons
13:21 – 16:46 | Pro Move of the Week: Find out where you can inject quality time into your relationships and commit to those steps.

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All Pro Dad Resources:

Listen Again:

Episode 30 – Tony Dungy: Is Work-Life Balance Even Possible?

5 Things a Real Man Does For His Family

4 D’s to Being a Better Husband

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Raising kids today seems harder than ever. There are so many things weighing them down, from relationships, school demands, social media, and more. Dads need to guide kids through it all. In this episode of the All Pro Dad Podcast, Dr. Chap Clark shares wisdom from his years of experience studying teens and their behavior and tells listeners how to better understand and support their kids.

Why This Matters

Kids feel pressure­—to perform, fit in, and be liked. This causes friction and tension, but dads can be the steady presence they need.

Know the Language

Dr. Clark shares a few terms that may be new to you:

• Mosaic thinking: It’s harder kids to focus on one thing at a time.
• Avatar: In order to fit in, kids will build different 'avatars' of themselves depending on the social situation they're facing.

Troubles For Modern Kids

• Life feels very transactional: This leads kids to try to, as Chap says, “perform my way into blessing.”
• Belonging matters: Dr. Clark says the “power of belonging” is paramount. Kids are looking for a place where they feel accepted.

Important Episode Timestamps
00:00 – 00:55 | Introduction & Guest Welcome
00:55 – 03:47 | The Changing Landscape of Parenting Teens
03:47 – 06:55 | The “System” Has Let Kids Down
06:55 – 09:32 | A Father’s Role in Restoring Trust
09:32 – 12:08 | How Teens Process Identity & Belonging
12:08 – 15:50 | The Power of Presence Over Performance
15:50 – 19:21 | Building Bridges Through Listening
19:21 – 21:54 | Practical Habits to Create Safe Spaces
21:54 – 24:17 | Why Kids Still Need Boundaries
24:17 – 25:50 | Pro Move of the Week: Strive to be unflappable, have compassion with your kids, and take deep breaths.

Listen Again:

Episode 61 – What Problems Do Kids Face Today That We Didn’t?

Episode 74 – Checking in With Kids: 5 Gauges Dads Need to Know

5 Challenges We Need to Help Generation Alpha Face

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Cristiano Ronaldo was paid $3.23M for his IG marketing posts in 2023. Why? What he says sticks with a lot of people, including kids. He’s not the only one influencing young people. In this episode of the All Pro Dad Podcast, host Ted Lowe is joined by BJ Foster and Bobby Lewis to talk about what influences kids the most.

Why This Matters
Kids aged 12–18 are considered the most vulnerable when it comes to being influenced.

Key Takeaways

• Kids have many influences including primary, secondary, internal, situational, and emerging
• The early years are crucial: According to the University of Minnesota, around 80% of brain development happens in a child’s first 1,000 days of life. What they see, hear, and touch during those formative years leaves a lasting imprint on their minds.

Action Steps for Dads
Children are largely a product of their environment, habits, and relationships, all of which dads help shape. What can we do as dads to control what influences kids the most?

1. Identify generally BAD influences, like violence, substance abuse, and inappropriate content. Don’t be afraid to speak out against these influences and cut them out.

2. Promote generally GOOD influences, like trusted coaches, faith leaders, and teachers. These are things and people who share your values.

Important Episode Timestamps

00:00 – 00:55 | Introduction: Dad Detective Mode
00:55 – 02:38 | Kids Are Sponges
02:38 – 05:15 | The 3 Main Sources of Influence
05:15 – 08:03 | Social Media’s Sneaky Grip
08:03 – 10:25 | Friends: Mirrors and Multipliers
10:25 – 13:02 | What’s Normal at Your House?
13:02 – 14:58 | Are You Accidentally Reinforcing the Wrong Stuff?
14:58 – 17:31 | Check Your Own Input
17:31 – 20:08 | Be the Strongest Voice They Hear
20:08 – 22:02 | Pro Move of the Week:
Consider who and what you are allowing to speak into your child’s life and trim whoever or whatever doesn’t align with your family values.

All Pro Dad Resources:

Is It OK for Kids to Be Influencers?

5 Uncommon Ways to Influence Your Kids

Dan Orlovsky: 3 Ways Dads I

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