As kids grow, schedules fill up, friendships expand, and the hours we spend together begin to shrink. Dads can’t waste time. We must intentionally raise them. In this episode of the All Pro Dad Podcast, host Ted Lowe is joined by BJ Foster and Bobby Lewis to talk about how dads can make the most of the limited time they have with their children.

Why This Matters
We only get a short window of opportunity to shape our kids’ character, strengthen our relationship, and influence who they become.

Key Takeaways

· Time equals influence: There is no substitute for spending time with your child. Dads spend about 59 minutes per day with their kids, up from 16 in 1965. (Per UC Irvine.)

· Kids prefer connection over lessons: Do the things that draw you closer.

· Small moments add up: Create opportunities to make memories and build trust with your child.

Action Steps for Dads

1: Don’t get discouraged by the clock.

2: Look for teachable moments.

3: Don’t pull back, push in.

4: Schedule 1-on-1 time.

5: Embrace your traditions.

Important Episode Timestamps

00:02:13 – Time Starts Flying Right Away

00:03:30 – The Shocking Math of Time With Your Kids

00:05:04 – Are You Raising Your Kids or Just Around Them?

00:05:39 – Dads Are More Involved Than Ever

00:07:43 – Why Kids Turn to Mom First

00:08:26 – Modeling Matters More Than Lecturing

00:10:38 – Don’t Panic About the Clock

00:12:42 – Be Present Instead of Living in the Past

00:15:14 – Use Teachable Moments

00:17:53 – Push In, Don’t Pull Back as Kids Get Older

00:19:50 – Be the Steady Anchor in Emotional Storms

00:23:13 – Schedule One-on-One Time With Your Kids

00:24:09 – Small Moments Create Lasting Memories

00:25:21 – Build Traditions Your Kids Will Remember

00:27:33 – Enjoy the Moment

APD Pro Move:
Build a calendar, or get a shared calendar on your phones, and schedule time together with your kids this week.

All Pro Dad Resources:

One-on-One Time for Kids With Dad

4 Small Decisions Your Kids Will Love

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Finances. Sex. Laundry. Fights happen over all kinds of things and can drive husbands and wives apart. It always takes two to keep a cycle going, but sometimes one can stop it. In this episode of the All Pro Dad Podcast, host Ted Lowe is joined by BJ Foster to talk about how we should handle fights with our wives.

Why This Matters
How we handle conflict helps determine the strength, happiness, and longevity of our relationships.

Key Takeaways

· Fights are happening all the time: According to YouGov, 30% of couples argue once per week or more.

· Silly fights can cause serious damage: Fights are almost always about something deeper than what started them.

Steps to Handle Fights

1. Get curious.

Ask yourself, “What is this really about?”

2. Own your part.

Acknowledging your part in conflict doesn’t mean blaming yourself or taking full responsibility.

3. Forgive.

Go ahead and give the forgiveness today that you will most likely need tomorrow.

4. Circle back.

Don’t let the fight go unresolved. Circle back and let your wife know you love her more than you love being right.

Important Episode Timestamps
00:00:34 – 00:01:57 | A Marriage Fight Ted Still Regrets

00:01:57 – 00:06:17 | Most Marriage Fights Aren’t About the Real Issue

00:06:17 – 00:07:30 | The Fear and Shame Cycle in Marriage Conflict

00:07:30 – 00:09:47 | Why Men Shut Down and Women Escalate in Arguments

00:09:47 – 00:11:40 | One Way Dads Can Break the Conflict Cycle

00:11:40 – 00:14:05 | The Danger of Rumination in Marriage Arguments

00:14:05 – 00:15:24 | A Real-Life Example of Misreading Intentions

00:15:24 – 00:16:38 | The Simple Power of Forgiveness in Marriage

00:16:38 – 00:19:40 | Taking Space Without Making Your Spouse Feel Abandoned

00:19:40 – 00:22:07 | The Pro Move: Ask If You’re Making Her Feel Safe

APD Pro Move:
The next time you are feeling conflict with your wife, ask, “Am I making her feel safe or afraid?”

All Pro Dad Resources:

4 Things to Do After an Argument With Your Wife

5 Traps to Avoid in an Argument With Your Wi

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Ask a teacher if his or her job is getting harder. Most will tell you student behavior is their biggest professional hurdle. Can dads play a role in fixing things at school? In this episode of the All Pro Dad Podcast, host Ted Lowe is joined by BJ Foster and Bobby Lewis to talk about how bad student behavior has gotten and how the solution starts at home.

Why This Matters

If we want our kids to excel in the classroom, we should focus on promoting good behavior.

Key Takeaways

· Mental health impacts behavior: Increased anxiety, stress, and frustration make it hard for kids to focus.

· COVID still lingers: The impact is still felt socially and academically.

· Screens have changed kids’ brains: Constant visual stimulation makes paper and books "boring."

Practical Tips to Help Improve Student Behavior

1. Stop Passenger Parenting (see Episode 106).

2. Deal With Anxiety.

3. Relieve Stress Away From School.

4. Start an All Pro Dad Chapter.

Important Episode Timestamps
00:02:07 – 00:03:42 | Are Student Behavior Problems Getting Worse?

00:03:42 – 00:05:18 | What’s Driving the Spike in Classroom Issues

00:05:18 – 00:07:06 | The Self-Regulation Crisis in Kids

00:07:06 – 00:09:11 | Screen Time, Dopamine & Attention Problems

00:09:11 – 00:11:04 | The Disappearing Authority of Teachers

00:11:04 – 00:13:02 | Parents vs. Schools: Who Owns Behavior?

00:13:02 – 00:15:14 | Why Kids Struggle With Boundaries Today

00:15:14 – 00:17:26 | Emotional Regulation Starts at Home

00:17:26 – 00:19:41 | Supporting Teachers Instead of Undermining Them

00:19:41 – 00:22:58 | Raising Kids Who Can Function in the Real World

APD Pro Move:
Do one of these things:

· Talk to your kids about anxiety and work on coping mechanisms

· Do something fun and crazy this week to reduce stress

· Check out an All Pro Dad Chapter

All Pro Dad Resources:

Episode 106 – What is a Passenger Parent and Am I One?

Episode 95 – What Challenges Is Gen Alpha Facing?

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