I've been rereading Larry Moss's The Intent to Live, and there's a line that stopped me. He calls "yes" the most important word in acting. It sounds simple, but the more I sat with it, the more true it felt.

I notice how quickly I say no in my own mind.

No, I'm not ready.
No, someone else deserves that more.
No, they'd never want me.

It feels responsible. Really, it's fear. Fear of being seen trying. Fear of messing up. Fear of stepping into something bigger than I'm used to.

I'm not talking about saying yes to everything or ignoring my limits. I'm talking about saying yes to myself again. Yes to opportunity. Yes to being visible. Yes to letting myself grow, even when it's uncomfortable.

A grounded yes stretches me. A people-pleasing yes drains me. There's a difference.

When something scares me a little, I pause and ask:

• Does this move me toward the work I want to be doing?

• Does this challenge me in a healthy way?

• Does this fit the career I'm choosing to build?

If the answer is yes, even if I feel unready, I try to follow it.

Big shifts usually start with one small yes. So I'm practicing micro-yeses:

One audition I felt unsure about.
One email I'd been avoiding.
One creative idea I kept shelving.

Each one reminds me that confidence grows from showing up, not from waiting to feel perfect.

When I hear myself think, "I'm not ready" or "I should wait," I'm slowing down and asking whether that's ability or fear talking. Ability can grow. Fear just repeats itself until I interrupt it.

Sometimes the only thing between where you are and where you want to go is one small, honest yes.

If you try one of these micro-yeses and want to share it, you can always email me at mandy@actingbusinessbootcamp.com . I love hearing what opened up for you and where you're getting stuck. And if you want to know when the next class or training is coming up, keep an eye on your inbox. There's more support on the way.

Family gatherings can be beautiful. They can also feel like emotional landmines, especially when you're an actor. One minute you're passing the mashed potatoes. The next you're answering a pointed question about your career from someone who hasn't watched a show since 1998.

In this week's episode of the Acting Business Bootcamp Podcast, I talk about how to stay calm, centered, and grounded as you navigate family dynamics. These tools help you protect your energy so you can enjoy the holiday instead of getting swept up in other people's anxieties.

A lot of actors feel pressured to explain themselves. To defend their choices. To prove they're on the right track.

But you don't owe anyone an emotional TED Talk over stuffing.

A simple, steady answer is enough.

"It's going well. Thank you."

That one sentence keeps you out of conversations you don't need to be in. You get to keep your peace. You get to protect your space.

If someone pushes, you can set a gentle boundary.
"I have a few things moving, I'll share when I'm ready."

Short. Clear. Done.

So often the loudest questions are really about someone else's fears. Their need for certainty. Their discomfort with ambiguity.

You don't have to take that on.

Let their energy stay with them. You return to your own center. Your own path. Your own truth.

A holiday gathering is like an unexpected audition. A little preparation goes a long way.

Take a few quiet minutes in the car before going inside. Ground your breath. Remember the work you've done. Remember what you're building. Even the smallest wins matter.

This simple pause strengthens you more than you think.

If you feel yourself getting wobbly, step away. Close the door. Breathe.

One minute is enough to reset your nervous system.

Here's an affirmation I love for holiday gatherings:

"I am my own authority. I love and approve of myself. Life is good."

Say it until your shoulders drop.

Sometimes the easiest way to break emotional noise is to move your body.

A short walk around the block. A quick step outside. Offering to run to the store. Even a loop around the backyard.

Think of it as an intermission in the middle of the holiday play.

If someone brings up the state of the industry or questions your path, gently redirect.

"Things are moving. I'm focused on the work. How are you doing?"

It shifts the spotlight off you. It softens the moment. It keeps the energy human.

People want to be seen. When you become curious about them, the dynamic changes.

Ask how their year has been. Ask a follow-up. Then another.

When you listen deeply, conversations soften. Walls come down. You return to connection, not conflict.

Your career is not defined by anyone's holiday opinion. You get to be your own authority. You get to choose peace.

And if family stress gets loud this year, you're not alone.

If you've been feeling lost, stuck, or unsure of your next step, I created a one hour class called Listening to Invisible Guidance.

It teaches you how to notice the quiet nudges, how to ask for support, and how to actually hear the signs that are already showing up for you. You'll learn why doubt doesn't block guidance and why disruption can be a sign that you're being redirected, not punished.

It's simple. It's powerful. And it's only $20.

You can watch it as many times as you want.

👉 Get the class. It's one hour, twenty dollars, and it will help you find clarity.

If you need support this holiday season, send me a quiet message. I'm here.

Actors often wait for motivation. We hope a burst of inspiration will get us moving, keep us consistent, or push us to the next level. But real growth rarely starts with motivation. It starts with one small choice.

In this episode of the Acting Business Bootcamp Podcast, I talk about the simple cycle that has changed my life many times over. Choice. Habit. Love. It's a framework you can use in your acting career, your training, and your personal development to build strength and momentum in a way that actually lasts.

A few years ago, I was sitting on my balcony, looking out at the marina, and I caught a glimpse of myself that didn't feel like me. It wasn't about weight or appearance. It was the feeling that I wasn't living up to my potential.

It was a quiet wake up call that led to one small choice.

A friend gave me a ten minute workout. The first time I tried it, I had to stop three times. It felt impossible. But I chose to do it again the next day. And the next. Choice doesn't feel glamorous. It's rarely comfortable. But it's the doorway to every breakthrough.

After weeks of choosing that workout, something shifted. It became a habit. I added more exercise. I felt stronger, even through perimenopause and menopause. Habit grows out of showing up, not out of feeling ready.

What once felt uncomfortable became something I enjoyed. That's the surprising part. Love is the result of consistency. Love grows from seeing your own progress.

Recently I got very sick and couldn't exercise for almost three weeks. When I came back, I realized I had to start again at choice. Not habit. Not love. Choice. That reminder has been grounding. Setbacks simply restart the cycle.

This structure applies to your acting technique, your mindset, your self tapes, and your business systems. Ask yourself the small but powerful question: What could I choose today that would help me reach my potential?

You can take the 30 question Acting Business Audit. It shows you what's working in your acting business and what needs attention so you know where to focus next.

If you want guidance or support, you can schedule a consultation. I'm here to help you strengthen your confidence, materials, and next steps.