87. Why Your Child (or Teen) Melts Down — and How to Help Them Regulate (Part 2)

This is Part Two of a conversation that so many of you have reached out to me about: “Why Your Child (or Teen) Melts Down — and How to Help Them Regulate.”

If your child, teen, or young adult has big reactions, shuts down, avoids consequences, spirals emotionally, or needs you to rescue them from every hard moment, you are not alone. I see this every day in counseling.

In Part One, we talked about the why— the nervous system, shame cycles, overwhelm, the Unhappy Kid Triangle, and what’s happening beneath the behavior.

Today is the “how.”

In this episode, I walk you step-by-step through:

• How to become the emotional thermostat of your home (not the thermometer)

• Why so many young adults lack emotional maturity—and how to raise your children differently

• How co-regulation shifts into coaching regulation and then celebration

• Real UHKT → HKT parenting dialogues you can borrow word for word

• How to stop rescuing and start discipling

• What it looks like to let discomfort build maturity instead of fear

• Practical tools you can use at home with any age

• How to measure emotional growth in your children

• What generational healing actually looks like

You don’t have to be a perfect parent to raise emotionally healthy kids. You only have to be a present parent— one who anchors your heart in Jesus, tells the truth, repairs when you fail, and keeps showing up.

I pray this episode brings clarity, hope, and peace into your home.

Episode Resources

📖 Read the companion blog: When Big Emotions Take Over: How to Shepherd Your Child (or Teen) Toward Peace and Emotional Maturity This blog goes even deeper with Scripture context, exercises, journaling prompts, conversation starters, and UHKT → HKT examples you can use right away. 🧰 Get the Happy Kid Toolkit + Reality Mat Teach your child how to name their feelings, identify their role, choose truth, repair conflict, and build emotional & spiritual maturity. Click here to purchase 💬 Book a family or teen counseling session If your child is struggling with meltdowns, shutdowns, anxiety, shame, or emotional overwhelm, I’d love to walk alongside you. Click here to book a session 🌿 Join the Renew & Restore Women’s Healing Retreat (February) If your heart has been carrying a lot, this weekend is for you: healing, rest, worship, community, trauma-informed teaching, and space to reconnect with Jesus. Click here to register + learn more Thank you for being here with me. I’m cheering you on— You don’t have to do this alone, and you don’t have to get it perfect. Just keep walking with Him.