76. When Church Hurts: Finding Healing, Forgiveness, and Wisdom to Stay or Leave

What do you do when the place that’s supposed to be safe, healing, and welcoming becomes a place of hurt? Maybe you’ve felt favoritism, elitism, hypocrisy, or even shaming in your church. It can shake your faith and leave you wondering if you belong.

In this episode, I unpack how to:

• Recognize church hurt and name it for what it is.

• Forgive without enabling — releasing bitterness while still setting healthy boundaries.

• Discern wisely if God is calling you to stay, speak up, or step away.

• Anchor your healing in Scripture and the unchanging love of Christ.

Forgiveness doesn’t mean excusing sin. It means freeing your own heart from bitterness and trusting God to be your defender. With practical steps and biblical wisdom, I guide you to a place of hope, healing, and renewed faith in Jesus — even when church hurts.

📖 Romans 15:13 — “May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in him, so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit.”

xoxo,

Danielle

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