5. Shame Spiral

In today's episode we talk about shame spirals.

It's important to stay connected to your emotions because your emotions cause your actions. Shame is not a useful emotion when it comes to quitting pornography or other habits. Shame always causes you to hide and avoid. Many people believe that shame is a motivator, when in fact it is the opposite. It is a de-motivater. You can not hate yourself into change.

Shame comes from thoughts, not from looking at pornography. Shame comes from thoughts that have the underlying message of, "there is something wrong with me".

We find ourselves in shame spirals when we 1. thing something is wrong with me 2. feel shame 3. hide and avoid. 4. view pornography to escape the shame --> and then starting the cycle all over.

Join me in todays episode to learn how to combat this shame cycle!

Ready to commit to quitting pornography? I would love to be your coach. Visit this link to work with me: https://www.sarabrewer.com/workwithme

Shame is some thing I have struggled with in the past

This was a very freeing very insightful exciting episode from Sara Brewer! I’m so glad I just listened to it driving back home to Utah from California. I feel like I have let shame rule my life for large chunks of my life. And it’s just a vibration of my body when all I needed to do was to change my thoughts which causes feelings which then insight action that if is led by a negative feeling, like shame, can do no good. Sara, thank you 🙏