264. Disentangling from Emotionally Immature People with Lindsay C. Gibson

Author and clinical psychologist, Lindsay C. Gibson, is back to share practical steps to disentangle ourselves from emotionally immature people (EIPs), emphasizing the importance of repetition, persistence, and consistency in communication as well as boundary setting. Lindsay addresses questions about being in relationship with EIPs including: Are people raised by EIPs prone to entering relationships with similar dynamics? What happens when we try to have conversations or engage in conflict with EIPs? How do we ACTUALLY HEAL as adult children of EIPs and maintain healthy detachment? For Part 1 of our conversation, check out: 263. Healing from Emotionally Immature Parents with Lindsay C. Gibson. Lindsay C. Gibson’s books can be found here: http://www.lindsaygibsonpsyd.com/books.html About Lindsay: Lindsay C. Gibson is an author and clinical psychologist, and practicing psychotherapist for over thirty years. She has written several books, including Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents and Disentangling from Emotionally Immature People. Dr. Gibson specializes in therapy and coaching with adults to attain new levels of personal growth and confidence in dealing with emotionally immature people. Website: http://www.lindsaygibsonpsyd.com/ To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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When our child was diagnosed with adhd and I started to understand what was going on in their brain it opened up a lot of doors for us as a family. It has been eight yrs now and we continue to grow. As you all share with us we can understand and grow more and more. After the diagnosis I realized we were over reacting to situations and at the time we didn’t point fingers and say you do this wrong or you do that wrong you have to change. Instead we saw the behavior for its name. Example we will not yell anymore when the situation gets the best of us we will stay quite or come up with a better way and for those of us who as you call it may be emotionally insecure maybe staying quite was best for a very long time until the confidence was there to come forward patiently. the moral of me telling you this is that maybe instead of us saying to our loved ones, friends, bosses, etc. you do this wrong maybe we could just use the verb and not point fingers. It may not always work but could be a good start. Eliminating behaviors one little one at a time can be healing it takes longer but it’s not as hurtful and so rewarding if you are working with people who are worth fighting. Maybe everything doesn’t change just like we want but hopefully it’s a little softer around the edges.