254. You're Doing Too Much: How Over-Responsibility Ruins Your Relationships

In this episode of Your Extraordinary Life and Dating After Divorce Podcast, I pull back the curtain on one of the most destructive patterns I see in women who are smart, capable, and completely worn out. I share stories from my own first marriage — including the season I drove to sales calls while six months pregnant so my ex-husband could build a business he never built. I was functioning as his parent, not his partner.

This pattern doesn't disappear after divorce. It follows you into dating. It shows up when you calculate a man's schedule and decide he deserves grace for being unavailable — before he's even taken you on a date. You owe him nothing. Your job is to decide whether he fits your life, not manage the reasons he can't show up for it.

Over-responsibility creates under-responsibility — in your partner and in yourself. While you pour your energy into someone else's growth, your finances, your career, your relationships with your kids, your health — all of it sits on pause. That pause becomes years. Years become your life.

You deserve better than a life built around someone else's potential.

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