115. Why Yelling Works. And what to do Instead

Yelling often feels like the only thing that gets your child’s attention. But what if there’s a better way—one that builds parent-child connection, lowers anxiety & emotions, and creates more calm & peaceful parenting?

In this short episode of the weekly podcast, we’re exploring why yelling seems to “work,” and what to do instead using simple parenting strategies that bring both kindness and firmness into your home.

You’ll learn:

• Why kids (especially a toddler or neurodivergent child) push limits—not to test your patience, but to find predictability.
• How yelling gives them clarity, but at a cost to your connection.
• Why being too gentle without boundaries often sets the stage for yelling later on.
• The natural “bounce” between permissiveness and explosive reactions—and how to stop it.

The heart of this episode is the CEO approach—a tool from gentle parenting that helps you mean what you say and say what you mean with confidence. It’s a way to replace yelling with calm leadership, even during tantrums and power struggles.

These positive parenting tools have helped many families end the yelling while building better communication and more peaceful family time.

🎧 Want more parenting tips & tools?

Check out Episode 71: 3 Steps That Get Kids to Listen—a great intro to the CEO method: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/71-3-steps-that-get-kids-to-listen/id1682538739?i=1000665256022.

And don’t miss next week’s episode, where we’ll talk about how to control your anger as a parent—without raising your voice.

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