Why Are We Yelling?

The Art of Productive Disagreement

By: Buster Benson

Narrated by: Buster Benson

Length: 5 hrs and 56 mins

Publisher's summary

Why Are We Yelling? is Buster Benson’s essential guide to having more honest and constructive arguments.

Have you ever walked away from an argument and suddenly thought of all the brilliant things you wish you'd said? Do you avoid certain family members and colleagues because of bitter, festering tension that you can't figure out how to address?

Now, finally, there's a solution: a new framework that frees you from the trap of unproductive conflict and pointless arguing forever.

If the threat of raised voices, emotional outbursts and public discord makes you want to hide under the conference room table, you're not alone. Conflict, or the fear of it, can be exhausting. But as this powerful book argues, conflict doesn't have to be unpleasant. In fact, properly channelled, conflict can be the most valuable tool we have at our disposal for deepening relationships, solving problems, and coming up with new ideas.

As the mastermind behind some of the highest-performing teams at Amazon, Twitter and Slack, Buster Benson spent decades facilitating hard conversations in stressful environments. In this book, Buster reveals the psychological underpinnings of awkward, unproductive conflict and the critical habits anyone can learn to avoid it. Armed with a deeper understanding of how arguments, you'll be able to:

• Remain confident when you're put on the spot.
• Diffuse tense moments with a few strategic questions.
• Facilitate creative solutions even when your team has radically different perspectives.

Why Are We Yelling? will shatter your assumptions about what makes arguments productive. You'll find yourself having fewer repetitive, predictable fights once you're empowered to identify your biases, listen with an open mind, and communicate well.

©2019 Buster Benson (P)2019 Macmillan Digital Audio

Critic reviews

"This is a life-changing book. Read it three times and then give a copy to anyone you care about. It will make things better." (Seth Godin, author of This Is Marketing)

"All you need is Buster Benson. His methods are instantly actionable, [and] his writing is funny and relatable." (Adam Grant, author of Originals)

Ugh

After reading Cialdini’s book ‘Influence’ I doubt even a narrative professional could save this one.