White Fragility

Why It's So Hard for White People to Talk About Racism

By: Dr. Robin DiAngelo, Michael Eric Dyson - foreword

Narrated by: Amy Landon

Length: 6 hrs and 21 mins

Publisher's Summary

The New York Times best-selling book exploring the counterproductive reactions white people have when their assumptions about race are challenged and how these reactions maintain racial inequality.

In this “vital, necessary, and beautiful book” (Michael Eric Dyson), antiracist educator Robin DiAngelo deftly illuminates the phenomenon of white fragility and “allows us to understand racism as a practice not restricted to 'bad people'" (Claudia Rankine). Referring to the defensive moves that white people make when challenged racially, white fragility is characterized by emotions such as anger, fear, and guilt and by behaviors including argumentation and silence. These behaviors, in turn, function to reinstate white racial equilibrium and prevent any meaningful cross-racial dialogue. 

In this in-depth exploration, DiAngelo examines how white fragility develops, how it protects racial inequality, and what we can do to engage more constructively.

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©2018 Robin DiAngelo (P)2018 Random House Audio

Critic Reviews

“[T]houghtful, instructive, and comprehensive... This slim book is impressive in its scope and complexity; DiAngelo provides a powerful lens for examining, and practical tools for grappling with, racism today.” (Publishers Weekly, starred review )

“As a woman of color, I find hope in this book because of its potential to disrupt the patterns and relationships that have emerged out of long-standing colonial principles and beliefs. White Fragility is an essential tool toward authentic dialogue and action. May it be so!” (Shakti Butler, president of World Trust and director of Mirrors of Privilege: Making Whiteness Visible)

“The value in White Fragility lies in its methodical, irrefutable exposure of racism in thought and action, and its call for humility and vigilance.” (The New Yorker)

Word salad

The only value this has is as a window into the mind of a certain kind of person. The author uses redefinitions of commonly understood language, personal anecdotes, and ideological jargon to lay out a pretty bizarre perspective on race.

The work is absolutely pseudointellectual and fails to cite authoritative studies or data in favor of Beyonce quotes. I’m not sure what type of person would find this author to be compelling. Dogmatically this is a complete trainwreck.

Repeditive and Derivative

Since the author gives presentations of race, hearing her talk about her insight and experience on this important topic seamed like it would add to her book but having heard her book, I see why they choose a very calm, professional reader.

The sample covers the the tone and depth of the book. She is a sociologist and knows all she need to about her audience whom she considers ignorant, uneducated, racist white supremacists members of the white collective or Klan. She's heard it all before so the only feedback she wants is thank you, She make an example of one participant who gives the wrong feedback. In another example she gives, another person is driven out of the room and coworkers think she may be having a heart attack. The writer is upset that this and the possible death will draw attention from what she is saying, Near the end she explains that she is un-white and sees nothing positive in white people.

Her actual material on racism is mostly other peoples work and opinion. The material seems to be used to show she went to colege, reads the right books and to expand this to book length rather that open people to talk about race.

Some people in her line of work, particularly those with her apparent attitude, may like and relate to this book and her experiences and frustrations in talking about race. Others,however, like her participant from Canada, may find this makes talking about race less likely.

She did have a piece of good advise that bares repeating. We should seek more to understand than to be understood and to console than be consoled. I had already gotten that advise from St Francis but its still good advise.

terrible book do not waste your time

read this book because the title sounded interesting was not interesting in the slightest the author goes on some pretty bull theories and basically gives you the opinion of not believing her with contradicting herself

Americentric

The pamphlet is americentric to the point of parody. To the point of nationalistic bigotry.

Smug, Manipulative and Void of Humanity

There are so many problems with this book that it would take me a few hours to document them. Maybe I will do that at some point.

In summary, the author redefines racism to include unconscious bias and concludes that any and all white people have these and are racists. If you object to the new definition or object to being called a racist under this new construct, then you suffer from a new invented condition called "White Fragility" and should be shamed repeatedly. Over and over and over.

Her approach is manipulative, smug and void of humanity. It ignores the complexity of human existence and human interaction and, in my opinion creates less healthy and authentic interactions and relationships.
Love and vulnerability beget change. Shame does not..

radical

I read it and was not impressed with psych 101 tactics to take away dissenting views. If we only have 1 side of any story we are being robbed of real progress.

Lacking

Lacking historical perspective and overwhelming biased by personal experiences which are not representative of the vast majority of non African Americans.

White guilt shoved down your throat

I've tried listening to this audiobook with an open mind. But all that basically says is all white people are racist, that all white people should have white guilt, and that white people should all kiss black or brown people's asses to make up for history. This book has a twisted and absurd perception of race relations and provides no solutions. Here's an idea: Get over history, and live every day treating every human being with respect.

If you're white you are automatically racist

I was hoping to learn some new things and understand racism from a different perspective.

While I agree being black is not easy, the author blames everything on all white people and all white people are at fault for any failure in the black community.

If you are white, you are privileged and racist. If you are black, all your misfortunes are due to white supremacy and the legacy of slavery and Jim Crow.

The author doesn't offer any real solutions to fixing racism. They just criticize white people and want all white people to feel guilty for being white. If you don't like to talk about race that makes you racist. If you say you have black friends and say you don't see color that also makes you racist. If you live in a predominantly white neighborhood or go to a majority white school that makes you racist. If you don't have black friends you are racist. 100% of white people are somehow racist and should feel bad for their privilege. There is no solution besides to feel bad for being white.

On a personal note, I am white but my family immigrated to the US in the 90s with very little money. We did very well despite us having funny sounding names, no network and connections, and no assets. We just worked really hard and did things right. My siblings and I worked hard at school and today have careers. I am sure if we were black things may have been a bit harder but we never made excuses. And I will never feel guilty for being white for sins committed in the US decades and centuries before my family immigrated.

I get being black is hard. I don't think making all white people feel guilty is the solution.

This Book Is A Joke

Want to be told how terrible your are? Then go for it. Want to listen in on thoughts and/or discussions that will add value to your life and the lives of those around you? Look elsewhere. The books success is dependent on your guilt and shame and helplessness.

life changing book!

As a white female progressive, I found this book one of the most honest and compassionate ways of showing me my blind spots. It's was painful to hear my own defensive stances, and my own 'I'm not a racist' perspectives, and I will be every thankful that Robin, has opened my world to racism and my place in it. Absolute recommend read!

Rad book AWFUL narration

Why does the narrator sound like a robot

she sounds totally valiumed up, monotonous, and inhuman which detracts massively from the impact the book could have.

Given the liveliness of the debate, would have benefited immensely from a more rich, nuanced, impassioned (and quicker) reading.

I had to really struggle with the frustration of this, which was annoying, because the content of the book is rad.

A must-have, SUPERB

I am an older Black woman and I see you, and I'm exhausted by your racism.
This is an excellent text for all white folk and validation for all none white folk.
Simple, add to your library immediately!

Great examples, sometimes repetitive

Really good book to bring to awareness some of the reactions that white people have when confronted with black people struggles. Think it is a start, but it might take more to ensure the discomfort and fragility Robin mentioned on the book gets managed better

Great book

Very interesting read, informative in a way I hadn’t expected. Has given me plenty of food for thought.

Great communication of key issues.

This book will be rubbished by many people and championed by many others.

Crucial issues are raised and well-connected with clear relation to reality. This book will not change how anyone thinks but may get some people to reflect on the context of their life and treatment of others.

An excellent book.

Every white person must read this

Every white person must read this book.

Before beginning, I considered myself pretty ‘woke’ and presumed that this book would not be able to teach me much more - I was wrong.

White racism towards non-white people seeps into every part of Western society - only after reading this book did I realise all the small ways I am socialised to be racist and that it takes continuous conscious work to overcome these. And that is the best lesson to take away from this book - that the term ‘racist’ is now so offensive that whites cannot bear to be associated with it, it’s akin to being called a rapist. But the best thing that we could do as a white society is accept that we are all racist, that it is an inevitable product of our society, and that after admitting this, we can now take action to combat it and keep learning throughout our lives.

The book was gripping and illuminating from start to finish.

from white fragile

very important to hear narratives on race placed this way. As a white man in the UK my life long learning and growth has been bolstered by this and my continued need to look, hole, act and be prepared to feel rejected by my own identity groups in order to make progress...I continue to make mistakes. dealing with feedback and giving it the most useful

For every white person..

Robin Diangelo has got to the crux of the issue and i really wish every white person would listen to this, if you have an open mind, you will learn a lot. We need to step outside of insular realities and take a reality check.

Excellent.

A very thorough discussion of white fragility & privilege, the roles these play in maintaining unequal racial status, and how to step out of the expected narratives.
Recommend listening on 1.25 or 1.5 speed.