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  • Summary

  • Step into iconic relationship therapist Esther Perel's office and listen as 10 anonymous couples in search of insight bare the raw, intimate, and profound details of their story. From infidelity to sexlessness to loss, it's a space for people to be heard and understood. It's also a place for us to listen and feel empowered in our own relationships. So…where should we begin?

    When you add Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel to your library you will receive all 10 episodes, and a prologue, each with a runtime of approximately 40 minutes.

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  • Oct 24 2017

    [Contains mature themes] He reached out because a year after the discovery of his affair, they aren’t fighting anymore, but they certainly haven’t moved on. Esther guides them towards a more honest conversation, and a revelation about their communication.

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    47 mins
  • Oct 24 2017

    [Contains mature themes] A couple with two small children are at physical and emotional odds in their relationship. One has given herself over entirely to the children, while the other struggles to find her place within the family dynamic. Esther helps them reframe each of their roles in terms of what they uniquely contribute.

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  • Oct 24 2017

    [Contains mature themes] A husband and wife met while deeply committed to the evangelical faith and didn’t kiss until their wedding day; for her, that kiss felt like “kissing her brother.” Esther gets creative in an effort to help them create a new sexual relationship.

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    39 mins

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Thoughtful

Esther is very thoughtful. I loved how she helps change the narrative script on people’s relationships. Sometimes you get too stuck in the story you keep telling yourself

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MORE PLEASE!!

I listened to all of these when they first came out. Loved the diversity of all of the types of couples and issues. I wish these was an ongoing series. More please!

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Excellent! A Life Changing Listening Experience

In one episode this has changed one huge point of communication in my spouse and my relationship. It was eye opening to hear something (it wasn’t the sex part either, lol) that would be so important for our marriage! I didn’t want to turn this on, out of pain for my own personal place in life. I am so grateful this is here and that I was able to listen. I can’t wait to hear more! The whole world needs things just like this, so all can grow and become healthy! Thank you Ester! P.S. That was my Grandmas twin sisters name

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Not as good as the Esther other works

I love the Esther's incites into relationships, this collection of sessions fails to bring her knowledge, unlike her other works. Also, a little difficult to hear the couples (bad recording). For some reason, Audible does not show finished / Unfinished status - so this title forever stays in your "Unfinished" titles list, even if you listen to the whole thing.

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Raw and different

Stories that you can relate to, stories that are so raw truth that really resonates. A must listen! Open mindedness *

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We need more!

I listened to both seasons as soon as I found out they were available. I love the real life look into challenges and the perspective that Esther brings to these conversations. I suggest these episodes to friends often and to anyone interested in new perspective. So many stories different than mine but so much good relatable content. I can’t get enough!

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VERY insightful, relatable & enlightening!

I found this episode VERY insightful. I relate to SO much of what this couple is going through, even though my marriage hasn't suffered any infidelity.
This episode is undeniable proof in my opinion, that ineffective/defective communication, verbal & non- verbal, is a universal killer of happy marriages & it does NOT discriminate!

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wow, she's very gifted

I've only heard the prologue and 1st episode so far, and I'm very impressed with how gifted this therapist is.

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  • SJPagey
  • 03-02-18

Personal conversations, universal connections

If you could sum up Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel in three words, what would they be?

Powerful, fascinating, uplifting

What was one of the most memorable moments of Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel?

Esther: 'Ok, do you want to be right, or do you want to listen?'

Have you listened to any of the narrator’s other performances? How does this one compare?

I haven't. Esther has a beautiful, soft French accent that provides a calm, safe space for the participants. You can hear the emotion in their voices too. Powerful stuff.

Was there a moment in the book that particularly moved you?

Every episode has a moment of connection, where - despite the particular circumstances of the couple's experiences - their fears and struggles resonated with me personally.

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  • Viv
  • 04-12-18

Mind blowing!

Would you consider the audio edition of Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel to be better than the print version?

I prefer the audible version of books. It makes me understand books better. I hardly read printed books. I have not this book in print either.

What other book might you compare Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel to, and why?

The Examined Life by Stephen Grosz. This books also gives real life stories that I feel I can connect and understand. However, Esther's book goes even further by providing the true narrative of ordinary people. It is fantastic and so so so useful. Helpfult to all of us.

What does the narrator bring to the story that you wouldn’t experience if you had only read the book?

Narrative expressed by the person with feeling and connection

Was this a book you wanted to listen to all in one sitting?

Yes! I so wanted to finish this recording in one setting, but did not have time but got through so quickly. Now I feel bereft and I want to listen more.

Any additional comments?

Don't have too many boxes of questions! Put all in one:)

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  • Anonymous User
  • 01-04-21

Terrible psychological advice. Victim blaming.

The psychiatrist blames a woman for a man cheating before and after their marriage. The woman deserves better than being told she needs to stop being right. Stop telling them to focus on how the man is feeling. Tell the woman she deserves better than to be treated like this. Very unhealthy.

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  • Karen P.
  • 01-17-20

not really my kind of thing

listening to other peoples problems isnt realt my idea of fun . I had a listen as it was free. the advice she gives the couples seems to help them feel better.

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  • metaljon
  • 07-07-21

Fascinating insights into couples relationships.

A fascinating insight into couples relationships and the issues that they are facing. Often times what they think is the problem is just a symptom of underlying issues that Esther expertly draws out into the open and allows them to deal with. Whether you are interested in learning more about couples therapy or interested in the psychological aspect of counselling this series will give you plenty to think about. Definitely recommend.

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  • Adam Murphy
  • 05-06-21

Incredible

Deep relationship insights that will open your mind and make you a better person. Amazing.

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  • Lidija
  • 01-31-21

Found myself in stories

I love to listen to Esther's reasoning of everyday issues that many of us encounter. Thank you for helping me keep my relationship alive.

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  • J. Davis
  • 10-14-20

amazing insight powerful stories

sometimes you discover the golden nuggets toward wisdom in the strangest of places. often just as you are about to abandon your search, many many thanks for this

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  • E. M. Abramik
  • 07-07-20

Brilliant!

Gives you an unprecedented access to what's going on behind the closed doors. So relatable! A great resource for anyone who's willing to look closer at their relationship.

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  • Anna
  • 07-05-20

Highly recommended!

Esther makes a lot of sense!..... wish I'd known about her earlier, it definitely makes you look back on your own relationships. It helps you understand that even though experiencing unfaithfulness from a partner is deeply hurtful, there is almost always reasons for their actions, very often it's down to miscommunication/ no communication, but mainly it's to do with the person who's cheating. often when someone has been unfaithful to you, you stay in victim mode, you blame yourself, maybe you weren't sexy enough, beautiful enough, good enough. Esther allows you another view point, that you can only see if you come out of victim mode, and coming out of victim mode is very empowering.

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  • Brett Agnew
  • 02-16-19

I'd recommend this to all couples

I am a male and have been married for 2 years but together for 5 we have no issues in our relationship but this has also made me think of ways to make sure it stays on track and know what to expect when we have kids not pro women or pro men its neutral...... which is a surprise in this day and age

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  • Laurette
  • 04-03-19

The insight you get with other people's stories

Totally love the insights you get from listening to other people's stories and relationship issues. Esther Perel has an amazing ability to guide people to dig deeper, to come up with the root cause of the problem. I can listen to her for hours on end

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  • Anonymous User
  • 01-19-20

Recommend this for everyone!

Esther has a fascinating way of working out the dynamics and issues in these relationships and there is something you can pick up and learn from every episode. its a must read

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  • Paname toujours
  • 06-20-19

Great analysis of a marriage in crisis

authentic, relatable, thought-provoking, wise. Esther cleverly guides this couple through their respective sense of betrayal, disappointment and emotional breakdown.

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  • Soph
  • 04-27-22

This.

Enlightening. Great discussion between Esther and the couples. Also liked Episode 3, Speak to me in french.

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  • Rebekah Yun
  • 08-26-21

Favourite podcast

Esthers work has impacted my life in such an immense way. If you want an entertaining, challenging and thought provoking listen - look no further!

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  • Anonymous User
  • 09-26-20

Amazing way to learn

I didnt think I would like this but I enjoyed it so much and learnt SO MUCH! Incredible to feel like your in the room with people dealing with stuff. You feel all the emotions

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  • Bec Booton
  • 09-01-20

Didn’t know I wanted to listen to this until I did

Have you ever thought you’d like to be a fly on the wall and listen to real life couples in counselling? No, probably not! I didn’t either until I downloaded this series. Made me smile and cry. Fascinating, real, addicting and relevant. Definitely worth a listen, you’ll know by the first episode if it’s your thing. Enjoy!

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  • Anonymous User
  • 07-23-20

inter-voyeurism

listening to anguish, realisation and possibility opens a pathway to view relationship understood differently. Thankyou

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  • Cas K
  • 07-18-20

Fascinating

I love listening to Esther work. Fascinating insight into the multi faceted possibilities of life in general and people trying to get through together. I also enjoy the retrospective narration and critique, makes for an even more comprehensive experience - authentic, insightful and affecting.