This week on What’s Your Position, we’re talking erections, testosterone, ancient gods, and a smart cock ring that tracks your nighttime performance. Yes, really. Ashley sits down with Dr. Elliot Justin, ER physician and founder of FirmTech, the company behind the TechRing, to unpack why erections are more than a bedroom issue. They’re a window into men’s health, sleep, blood flow, and confidence. Along the way, we get into real data, real science, and why erectile health might be one of the most ignored early warning systems in the body. We also discuss what's new at FirmTech in the way of women's orgasmic health!

This episode takes some delightful, unexpected detours. From testosterone myths to Aphrodite, from quantified pleasure to philosophical musings on masculinity, this conversation zigzags in the best possible way. It’s smart, strange, sexy, occasionally unhinged, and deeply informative. If you like your sex ed with science, sass, and a little “wait… what did he just say?” energy, this one’s for you.

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Hello Humans! Ever wondered how to take sex to the next level in your relationship?

Well this episode is pure joy. 💛 I got to sit down with one of my absolute heroes, Dr. Nicole McNichols, and it somehow managed to be deeply insightful, nerdy as hell, laugh-out-loud fun, and genuinely moving all at once. Nicole is the powerhouse behind the largest human sexuality course in Washington state, a brilliant educator who creates spaces where people feel safe asking the questions they’ve been carrying for years. We talk pleasure as health, why so many of us were never taught the foundations of good sex, the myths that just won’t die, and her brilliant Hierarchy of Sexual Needs that honestly should be required learning for all adults. This conversation felt like sitting in the front row of your favorite class with a professor who makes you feel seen, curious, and way less alone.

We also dive into her brand-new book, You Could Be Having Better Sex, out February 3rd, which is a science-backed, shame-free, permission-slip-of-a-book about reconnecting with your sexual self and remembering that pleasure isn’t indulgent, it’s essential. This episode is full of love, laughter, honesty, and those “oh wow…that explains so much” moments. Do yourself a favor: listen, grab the book, and go follow her on Instagram @nicolethesexprofessor. You’re going to want more of Nicole in your life.

There was a time when Rae woke up every single day and cried. In the shower. In the car. Before work. After work. Sometimes for no clear reason at all.

And then one day… she didn’t.

In this deeply honest, brave, and beautiful episode, Rae shares what it was like to get married in her 20s, spend nearly a decade inside a life that slowly stopped fitting, and ultimately make the hardest decision of her life: to leave. We talk about the grief of divorce, the shame society puts on women who choose themselves, and the quiet fear of starting over when you’ve spent so long being someone’s wife.

But this isn’t a story about failure. It’s a story about becoming.

We talk about strength you don’t know you have until you’re forced to find it. About reclaiming your body, your voice, and your identity. About dating again, rediscovering desire, and learning who you are when you’re no longer shrinking to survive. We talk about the moment you realize the pain isn’t permanent. That the crying doesn’t last forever.

Rae’s story is a reminder that divorce is not the end of a life. For many women, it’s the beginning of one.

This episode is a swan song. A love letter to anyone who has grieved a marriage, questioned their worth, or wondered if choosing themselves was a mistake. It wasn’t. And Rae is living proof.

Listener note: We had some unexpected technical challenges during this recording. I did my absolute best in post-production, but you may notice a few moments where the music or sound effects feel a little wonky. Thank you for your patience — this conversation mattered too much not to share.