We Are Too Many

A Memoir [Kind of]

By: Hannah Pittard

Narrated by: Hannah Pittard

We Are Too Many is an unexpectedly funny, unflinchingly honest, and genre-bending memoir about a marriage-ending affair between award-winning author Hannah Pittard's husband and her captivating best friend.

In this wryly humorous and innovative look at a marriage gone wrong, Hannah Pittard recalls a decade’s worth of unforgettable conversations, beginning with the one in which she discovers her husband has been having sex with her charismatic best friend, Trish. These time-jumping exchanges are fast-paced, intimate, and often jaw-dropping in their willingness to reveal the vulnerabilities inherent in any friendship or marriage. Blending fact and fiction, sometimes re-creating exchanges with extreme accuracy and sometimes diving headlong into pure speculation, Pittard takes stock not only of her own past and future but also of the larger, more universal experiences they connect with—from the depths of female rage to the heartbreaking ways we inevitably outgrow certain people.

Clever and bold and radically honest to an unthinkable degree, We Are Too Many examines the ugly, unfiltered parts of the female experience, as well as the many (happier) possibilities in starting any life over after a major personal catastrophe.

She’s processing a divorce. Sometimes messily.

This book is a good representation of processing a relationship that was doomed to fail. Is it bitter? A little, but it’s a realistic reckoning. She doesn’t portray herself in the most flattering light, so it comes across as honest in tenor. I’m not sure why she’s harsher on her friend than the ex, who really seems like he looks to others for validation and wants credibility by proximity, but who hasn’t really earned the admiration he seeks. Maybe it’s self-protective to not bash the person she chose at one point. That’s my guess. Someone who has been betrayed should find this cathartic, or at least relatable.

This book was depressing

It doesn’t really seem like Hannah learned anything at the end when she talks about how she’d still be best friends with Patrick if he had only cheated on her with someone besides Trish. Ma’am why? There is not one sentence of remembered or imagined conversation between the two of you that makes him seem anything other than a petty insufferable man child who used women as caregivers and atms .But she’d still give generously of herself to a guy who used her for over a decade for some reason. Truly the most likable, rational and real character in this book is the one everyone stays away from: Holly. Rip holly, she called em like she see’d em (and she was right)

The truth and humor

Whoa. WOW. I am agog. Almost speechless. So much familiar territory (Chicago, C’ville, Ky, the miles and loops of eating disorder promises made and unmade) and such intense frankness in covering ground that terrifies me to even imagine (husband cheating on me with our bf). (Yes, I copied and pasted this from my IG exhortation to GET THIS BOOK)

brave & wonderful

I listened to the audiobook after hearing the author interviewed on Brad Listi's "otherppl" podcast. What an incredible story, and so well told. The interview was fascinating, too. Can't wait for the sequel!

Honest and easy

I really liked this book and I went to UK and once lived on Aurora Ave off Richmond Rd! Loved the Lex references.