In this episode, Asher and Dusty explore the complexities of frustration tolerance and emotional regulation, particularly as they relate to living with ADHD. They discuss how frustration often arises from a misalignment between expectations and reality, especially when tasks take longer or prove more difficult than anticipated. Dusty shares personal experiences, including being "trapped" in Costco, to illustrate how emotional dysregulation can derail plans despite careful preparation. Both hosts emphasize the importance of managing expectations by either frontloading disappointment or detaching from specific outcomes to reduce the emotional impact of setbacks.

The conversation also delves into practical strategies for coping with frustration, such as pausing, disrupting negative thought patterns, and pivoting to self-soothing activities. They highlight the value of breaking down tasks into manageable steps, using written lists to counteract working memory challenges, and recognizing when to step away from a task to regain emotional control. Ultimately, the episode offers a nuanced view of how ADHD affects planning and emotional responses, encouraging listeners to develop patience, realistic expectations, and resilience in their daily lives.

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This episode explores the core idea that ADHD brains are wired for context rather than linear order. Ash and Dusty explain how people with ADHD often struggle with outlines, step-by-step plans, and standalone documentation, because their meaning-making is dialogic and contextual. They describe common challenges—difficulty starting projects from an outline, trouble following instructions without the chance to ask clarifying questions, and cycles of avoidance or acting from desperation when outside pressures drive behavior. Practical examples include classroom learning, workplace documentation, and personal projects where contextual cues or real-time conversation make the difference between understanding and confusion.

The hosts also highlight the strengths that come from contextual thinking: creative problem-solving, rapid performance in crises, and the ability to bridge different perspectives. They show how coaching can help by surfacing hidden contexts—values, cultural expectations, and assumptions—that drive unhelpful patterns, so clients can choose actions aligned with what actually matters to them. The episode closes with a reminder that “simple” ideas aren’t always accessible without the right context, and that recognizing how ADHD thinkers search for meaning is key to better learning, productivity, and self-understanding.

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Asher and Dusty explore how ADHD-related experiences—repeated negative feedback, rejection sensitivity, and a focus on weaknesses—undermine self-esteem and self-worth. They explain how people with ADHD often dismiss abilities that come easily, assume others are more capable, and measure themselves by low moments rather than by peaks of high performance. The hosts emphasize the importance of recognizing ADHD patterns (peaks and valleys), valuing strengths that feel “too easy,” and reframing accomplishments so people see their role in their own story instead of attributing successes to luck.

Those with ADHD also connect self-worth to relationships and boundaries: chronic people-pleasing and fear of rejection invite boundary-pushing others and can erode self-respect. Practical approaches offered include perspective work (imagining how you treat friends with flaws), inventorying where life already feels easy, and choosing relationships that match realistic expectations (e.g., not expecting people to be “on demand”). Together these shifts—understanding ADHD, celebrating strengths, setting limits, and changing perspectives—help rebuild healthier self-esteem and sustainable boundaries.

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