The Velvet Rage

Overcoming the Pain of Growing Up Gay in a Straight Man's World

De: Alan Downs Ph. D

Narrado por: Alan Downs Ph. D

The most important issue in a gay man’s life is not “coming out”, but coming to terms with the invalidating past. Despite the progress made in recent years, many gay men still wonder, “Are we better off?” The byproduct of growing up gay in a straight world continues to be the internalization of shame, rejection, and anger - a toxic cocktail that can lead to drug abuse, promiscuity, alcoholism, depression, and suicide.

Drawing on contemporary psychological research, the author’s own journey, and the stories of many of his friends and clients, Velvet Rage addresses the myth of gay pride and outlines three stages to emotional well-being for gay men. The revised and expanded edition covers issues related to gay marriage, a broader range of examples that extend beyond middle-class gay men in America, and expansion of the original discussion on living authentically as a gay man.

©2005, 2006, 2012 Alan Downs (P)2012 HighBridge Company

Most moving book I have ever read. A+++

Would you consider the audio edition of The Velvet Rage to be better than the print version?

Haven't read the printed version but ordered it so I could highlight specific portions. Having both wouldn't be a bad idea.

What did you like best about this story?

How closely it related to me.

Was this a book you wanted to listen to all in one sitting?

YES!!! Although I didn't have the time to I listened as much as possible.

Much Needed Reset

This book provided a catalyst for me to move on in my life and the courage to seek help to do so.

Highly relatable… even for a lesbian :)

Whether you’re a gay man or not… shame is universal… I think most of us will bump into it over the course of our lives….Loved all the instructions/suggestions for overcoming it. Really enjoyed listening to this book

Massive.

Massive insight into gay culture and self enlightenment. a must for every gay man seeking release from shame and resentment.

I need to listen to this again and again

This book is timeless. Need to read once a year for a reality check. I hope the author writes another book.