The Shelf Life of a Secret

De: Wanda Means

Narrado por: Wanda Means

Are you tired of the never ending shit show? If so, you're not alone. It's not you. It's your brain. All those stress hormones you were inadvertently given as a child forever altered the emotional part of your brain and left its traumatic imprint on your soul. When you least expect it, you are either paralyzed with fear or stuck in an uncontrollable blind rage. But what do you do about it?

The Shelf Life of a Secret is NOT a self-help book, and I'm not a therapist. This is a candid, raw, and brutally honest memoir written for all of us. It spans 40 years of trying to make sense of an abusive past, trying to find a sense of normalcy, and trying to navigate the tricky waters of relationships, marriage, divorce, and parenting. Secrets should absolutely have a shelf life; otherwise, you may find yourself at the bottom of yet another bottle or perhaps six feet under.

Why does a seemingly successful divorced mother of four have a ticking time bomb for a brain just waiting to sabotage everything in her life? What role does your childhood have in your everyday decisions?

Why all the suicidal thoughts? Why all the addictions? Why does the wounded child unexpectedly appear needing to be loved? Are sex and intimacy the same? What is a love addict? Why are these childhood traumatic experiences still in my head? Why won't they go away? When will I be normal? When will my brain calm the f--k down?

Why am I so uncomfortable being vulnerable? How much longer do I have to fight the painful core issues of abandonment, abuse and neglect? Why do Facebook posts of my father raising his other family still sting? Why did my mother stay married to the man who sexually assaulted me and then tell me, "You are ruining this family. Jesus has forgiven him and so have I"? So many unanswered questions. I finally realized I'm just messed up, but aren't we all? At least a little? What do we do now and how do we quiet down our brains and find some sort of peace? Thank you for listening.

©2018 Wanda Means (P)2021 Wanda Means

Great Memoir !

I rarely listen in full for memoirs, but Wanda Means did a great and published such an awesome memoir. It's a squeezed experience of 40 years of parenting, relationships, marriage, divorce. This memoir is life guidance for everyone to avoid the common mistake that most people commit in life. I highly recommend this long and useful listen to everyone. This will save you time and money throughout your life

Amazing book. You will be spellbound from the first chapter

When I first started listening to this book, I had no idea if it would make me cry or depressed because I knew it was about sexual abuse. In reality, The book made me laugh, and cry. Wanda has an amazing way of telling a very sad story and adding some humor to it. It’s unbelievable what she has lived through and how she has succeeded in life despite the difficult situation she was put in. I highly recommend this book to everyone. Whether you have survive sexual abuse or not, you should listen to this book because he would be surprised at how many children are being abused right now. Wanda does such a good job of educating as well as telling you how she was able to survive, and actually thrive after her horrible childhood