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The Sacred Search

What If It's Not about Who You Marry, But Why?
Narrated by: Dean Gallagher
Length: 6 hrs and 56 mins
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Publisher's Summary

What if being in love isn't a good enough reason to get married? What if dating isn't about finding "the one," but about serving the one who loves you most? Don't get married until you listen to this audiobook.

In The Sacred Search, Gary Thomas challenges you to think beyond finding a "soul mate" and to look for a "sole mate" - someone who will walk with you on your spiritual journey. After all, if you don't know why to marry, you won't know who to marry. The Sacred Search casts a vision for building a relationship around a shared spiritual mission - and making a marriage with eternity at its heart.

©2013 David C. Cook (P)2013 Oasis Audio

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Good practical book

Book uses great examples and imagery to drive its points. Makes you consider the future when choosing a life partner.

Only problem is if you search for a wife/husband in this manner you can kill any romantic notion.

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I need this book to regain perspective

Just reading this book when the wave of emotions is high allows me to bring things back into pespective. This is an amazing book filled with so much truth that washes over ones soul. instead of being drawn into the tide of emotional attraction it has allowed me to realign my appoach for pursuing a wife in a way that is pure and good. No more this business of running wherever the emotions go, rather i control tings ... Haha at least i hope i do.

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A Great Read for both Singles and Couples

As a single woman who loves the Lord, this book reached me right where I'm at in life. I needed to hear the truth that resides within these pages (or my headphones as the case may be). I received so much revelation about my own values on dating that I need to work through with God before I enter into a dating relationship.

I also see how this book can be great for non-married couples, whether they're dating or engaged. It will challenge your relationship and make you look at one another with new eyes, which is needed before saying wedding vows.

I highly recommend this book, and I pray that it will be as much of a blessing to you as it was to me.

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Thought provoking

This was definitely worth it. A good read for every christian and even more so for single Christians from troubled homes, troubled pasts and troubled marriages/family histories. It's a bold and courageous step in unlearning the toxic behavior.

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Perfect for all singles, no matter the age.

Loved loved loved this book. I just wish I would have read it prior to my first marriage. it is a MUST for all ages, regardless of circumstance, who are looking to get married. I've gifted three copies so far and I'm sure there will be more to come. read it!

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Good and sobering advice

I liked the fact Gary didn't candy coat the reality of marriage and the fact that most people don't choose wisely. Most of the world will tell you you must be in love and how important sex is but marriage is much more than that. It should be based in friendship as well- supporting one another and helping each other fulfill a purposeful mission. Looking for someone of good character was emphasized rather than worldly attributes. This is one of the most realistic and practical Christian books for singles looking to get married out there.

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STOP...This is a Must Read for All Singles

Gary Thomas does a fantastic job in revealing and confronting the truth about relationships. He utilized God’s Perfect Word to discern the truth about relationships, and dispel the lies we tell ourselves as singles.

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Great book

Gary Thomas covers a lot of ground, I learned so much about marriage and a potential spouse, things I never thought about before.
really eye opening to me as a single mid-20's woman.

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Seeking the best partner to honor God with

Wow! An eye opener, Gary narrates superbly, communicating his desire that people would put God first no matter what in the desire to find a marriage partner. He recounts horrifying marriages and uses them as examples to show what can happen to your potential marriage if you act selfishly and choose a husband or wife based on feelings rather than Godly counsel and wisdom. Gary states that sometimes loving a person in the best way can mean ending the relationship even if you both have intense feelings for each other. He also gives examples of wonderful, fulfilling marriages and encourages readers to seek a partner who would help both people in the marriage serve God best. He does not sugar coat this topic; it is a brutal read. This book is intense, valuable, refreshing, and enjoyable - highly recommended to anyone looking for a potential marriage partner and desiring to please God in the process!

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Life changing!!!

This book is amazing! It really opened my eyes to what I should be looking for in my future husband. I truly think every single person can benefit from reading this book!

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  • 05-08-19

Good book, eye opener that makes you really think and consider BUT

Good book, eye opener that makes you really think and consider BUT my only issue with the book is that there was little or no emphasis on interacting with the Holy Spirit for a decision as serious as this, no matter how much diligence we try within our human knowledge as a believer one should also ask the Holy Spirit what He thinks of the person you are about to marry. In the book He talks about seeking other people’s opinion but not the most important opinion a believer could ever ask, the Holy Spirit. The Holy Spirit is God, He sees and knows everything, we should get Him involved. Asides this, it is a good book that will help you.

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  • timi
  • 12-11-18

brings wise considerations on marriage into view

There are a lot of things to consider in wisely closing a life partner, this book explained many things I believe will now shape my view of why and who to marry.

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  • 10-09-18

So Informative

Im not longer anxious about dating. I feel better prepared for marriage honestly. Thank You

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  • rosie
  • 03-13-18

a must listen for those who want to marry

narrator was great.
easy listening
a must listen for all those who want to marry

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  • Ron
  • 10-01-15

Pretty hard hitting...

I enjoyed it for the most part...and precisely because it was rather negative in its outlook and that not uniquely among others I've read. Very powerful truths in there for good measure!

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  • 11-26-16

wise words

All young people should hear these wise words before they commit to a relationship. Thanks Gary

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  • Simon
  • 06-10-16

Fantastic, apart from one line.

Would you listen to The Sacred Search again? Why?

I would listen again. Fantastic, filled with advice.

Any additional comments?

There is one line in the book which speaks of parents who immunised their child and immediately saw autistic traits appear in the boy. Since it is proven that there is no link between vaccines and autism, the writer clearly needs to do a bit more research.