The Rules

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3.6 out of 5 stars (295 ratings)

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Publisher's Summary

For women too busy to read a book, much less meet a man, the audio version of the smash best seller The Rules is a perfect solution. Authors Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider created an international sensation with their candid, time-tested guide to attracting, meeting, and capturing the heart of Mr. Right, and they discuss their manual with great fun and spontaneity. Fein and Schneider outline 35 easy steps that really work, as millions of satisfied readers can attest. The Rules has been profiled and debated all over the media, from The Oprah Winfrey Show to Time Magazine, and here's your chance to listen, learn, and let The Rules work for you!
©1997 Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider, All Rights Reserved, Abridgment Approved by the Authors (P)16 9; 1997 Time Warner AudioBooks; 1997 Time Warner AudioBooks (Packaging Elements Only), A Division of Time Warner Trade Publishing

Critic Reviews

  • Winner of Publishers Weekly Listen Up Award: Best Audio of 1997, Self-Help.

"A must read!" (People Magazine)

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I'll give it a try

I wasn't able to thoroughly enjoy this book because of its horrible audio. I don't know what the problem is, it's just very hard to listen to. The principles contained in this book seem to make sense, and I've been doing the exact opposite for a long while. I will give these suggestions a try. My aim is not to get married like they (overly) stress the end result should be. I just want someone agreeable to share my life with, and that may not include marriage... I think that was just way overemphasized in this book. I do like very much that they say that I should have boundaries. God knows that I've been trying to please everyone my entire life and it has only brought me sadness... I will try to live by the rules for a while and see what happens. If it weren't for the crappy audio on this book, I would've given it 5 stars.

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Quality of audio is shocking!

The quality of the audio version is disgusting. It’s a copy of a tape recording! Shocking.

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very poor quality recording

is there a way to get a refund? I couldn't even understand the recording. ugh.

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The Rules (For dating)

This is a well structured approach to dos and don't of dating the men in our modern society. It uses common sense and sound advice. I tested the approaches, they work and there are very few advices the authors provide that I would ever disagree with.

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A good place to start

I first heard about this book from a friend who knew a friend who got her boyfriend by following the rules.

While I can't say I have shared in this success, I do think there are some good principles listed in here. Definitely a good place to start, build upon and tweak for what seems to work and not work.

I know a lot of critics of The Rules think that it is too dramatic, too harsh and paints an unflattering picture of men and women...

BUT as a 21 year old college student who is: trusting of all, forgives and overlooks faults easily, can be naive as a child, and has been told that one of my hobbies is BEING NICE (not to be immodest)... this book was very helpful in changing my attitude toward guys.

The authors advocate following the rules to a T to ensure results. I don't.. maybe why I am single?? Just kidding. And truly I don't believe that any one method or way can or will work for everyone. And that may be another problem critics have with this book: It promotes itself as a cure-all for any situation, and I just don't think that is realistic.

However what this book helped me with was admitting that I had not previously been giving myself the respect I deserved, being too lenient with guys and just giving too much of myself in general.

So although they propose you listen to this as many times as needed until you memorize all the rules... I just listened once, took the big picture... and consciously try to apply the logic in their message to my daily male interactions.

Plus if nothing else, I can honestly say that I respect myself so much more now, and I am happy that I was able to read this while I am still young. Many of my friends throw themselves at guys and constantly clear their schedules "just in case." I used to be the same way, but now I just laugh.

While I am single, I must say that while all of my friends are constantly going out and many even turning to online dating... I am getting asked out left and right! Professors, pharmacists, class mates and beyond.

I can't say everyone will have this same success, and I am definitely not saying it is all because of the rules... but I do think it helped me to at least initially re-think some of my perspective.

As a last side note, I think this book is coupled great with Mars and Venus On A Date (same author as Men are from mars women are from Venus).

While The Rules will tell you what to do and not to do... I think getting the underlying deeper psychology and psychological differences between the races from Mars and Venus on a date will help further communication, understanding and behavior toward the male race.

One critique of this book is that it gives guys too much credit. Too much credit in assuming that they are all casanovas who KNOW to ask us out several days in advance, and KNOW that we don't want to be asked out via text message. Some guys are just clueless and don't know these things. While the book does offer tips for suggesting these things... I really do think that some guys may try their best and still not meet up to the Rules requirements.

Happy Dating!

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Audio quality is horrible

The audio quality is so bad it sounds like someone took an old tape and recorded the audio from it. It’s not worth the money just because of the audio quality. Go buy yourself the actual book. It’s so bad I hope audible returns my money.

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Bad recording

Great book, however the recording is terrible. Certain parts of the actual book are skipped in the audible version. They should consider recording the book over again without skipping any parts and with a decent audio sound.

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Very dated

The audio is terrible and the information is very dated. I wouldn’t recommend for anyone dating in 2020.

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hard to listen to because of the old audio

the volume was too low because the audio is very old. It should be updated.

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Horrible but good

Horrible audio but good tips. Definitely worth $5! Even some things a 60-year old didn't know.

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  • lawrie minty
  • 04-22-18

So badly recorded :(

I've read this book dozens of times, as it is fantastic. i thought an audio version would be useful so I could hear it whilst I'm busy and really get the rules into my head. it sounds like the writers have sat at home with a tape recorder though, I Think it must of been recorded in the early 90's, as that's when this was written. it is hard to listen to, also muffled at points so I had to rewind and listen in through the static. really disappointing and not a delight to clean the house, do makeup too like other audios are

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  • Fatou
  • 12-23-12

Insightful, Inspiring and True

The rules showed me that I had been far too nice in all my relationships and so had to toughen up! I really enjoyed the narration by the writers themselves, Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider. They knew there material so well, and this showed - really well read.



I would recommend this audio book to anyone, who wants to turn their relationship around.

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  • Ms Lucy-Anne W
  • 03-24-18

Sound Quality horrendous

Sound Quality is so bad I've just called for a refund and it has been given. Sounds like it's been recorded via being played on a tape machine... distortion, hissy back ground noise. it's a shame as this book has been so highly recommended and I'm excited to listen to it in sure it's great but can't possibly listen to this poor recording.

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  • Alessandra
  • 12-17-17

The sound

It didn’t sounds good, the sound quality it’s awful, it’s noisy and not clear, bad

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  • LittleForestOwl
  • 09-17-15

Good advice

I found the book to have good advice, as I have been doing everything the book advices not to do. Hopefully it works. The only thing I'm not happy with advice wise, is the whole biting your tongue thing once you're married. Recording wise, it's narrated well, but the sound, sounds like it was recorded over the phone and long distance. It's very tinny! Overall, I would recommend this book

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  • Anonymous User
  • 04-25-19

Q: What do you get when you follow the rules?

A: A beta or low SMV male. Some good points in here about loving yourself, having your own life and not being so nagging/demanding but most of these rules are not good and will only work on weak men. I'm scared to listen to your second edition. Audio is very bad quality worst I've heard on any audio book.

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