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Publisher's Summary

For many parents of troubled teenagers, a therapeutic program that takes the child from the home for a period of time offers some respite from the daily tumult of acting out, lies, and tension that has left the family under siege. However, just as the teenager is embarking on a journey of self-discovery, skill-development, and emotional maturation, so parents too need to use this time to recognize that their own patterns may have contributed to their family's downward spiral. This is The Parallel Process. Using case studies garnered from her many years as an adolescent and family therapist, Krissy Pozatek shows parents of preteens, adolescents, and young adults how they can help their children by attuning to emotions, setting limits, not rushing to their rescue, and allowing them to take responsibility for their actions, while recognizing their own patterns of emotional withdrawal, workaholism, and of surrendering their lives and personalities to parenting. The Parallel Process is an essential primer for all parents, whether of troubled teens or not, who are seeking to help the family stay and grow together as they negotiate the potentially difficult teenage years.

PLEASE NOTE: When you purchase this title, the accompanying reference material will be available in your Library section along with the audio.

©2011 Krissy Pozatek (P)2017 Lantern Books

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Good for parents that have not done much personal

This is a good book. I struggled a bit with it because I have done a lot of work on myself (therapy, etc.). I don't in any way shun accountabity for my contributions to our family system, but the families chosen as examples were not relatable for me. We did lots of attunement and boundary setting/holding. We tried to hold him accountable while having empathy. We've all had good therapists for awhile - and yet we still ended up 8n a place where sendingour son to wilderness therapy was the best option. I will continue doing all I can to discover and change my negative behaviors, and I think this book is generally worthwhile, but it will not likely be a revelation for those that have experience in therapy and personal growth.

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This should be required reading for all new parents. Scratch that. All parents. Especially parents with teens. Let me be blunt, you or your teens life may hang in the balance if you don't read this book. nough said.

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Great content but terrible narration!

Such an important book full of insights and methods for working with struggling teens. Unfortunately the narration is abysmal. I really have a hard time listening to the robotic voice of the narrator. It detracts from such valuable content.

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surprisingly eye opening

My husband has a PsyD in child Psychology and I have an BS in child development and have been raising our 6 kids with pretty good success, until... our youngest has so many different diagnoses and struggles with mental, hormonal/chemical and physical challenges. He has struggled with suicidal thoughts since he was about 6 years old. He knows he is different and over the years he has become reactionary and angry. 90% of the time he is delightful 10% of the time he is catastrophic in his thinking. It is hard to tell which is manipulation and bad habits vs. actual limits of his capabilities.
After a suicide attempt, we enrolled him in a wilderness therapy program and they suggested this book.
I thought with our years of schooling and training that I would not be as enlightened as I actually was. This book is very concise and clear. The author was able to put theories into real life situations and that was very helpful. I have a lot to work on and I have some hope for a better direction.

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OK for an assigned reading book

A self-development book to aide me and my husband through the process of sending our son to a Wilderness School. It's got good insights, though as with all books that rely upon anectodes to convey advice, the stories don't actually match us and we have to work at translating the advice to ourselves. Also since I don't love self-help books, and I really do not enjoy lengthy, drawn out forwards, preludes, acknowledgements etc. etc., this book is not my favorite. But it does have some nuggets of wisdom which I have appreciated. I understand why the wilderness school made this assigned reading.

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THIS BOOK KILLED MY RELATIONSHIP WITH MY SON.

we did what the book said, and our child began to hate us. He ended up killing himself. do not do this to your child.

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Eye Opening

Helped me to understand how treatment
programs work in my child's life. Gave
me tools to help me relate effectively with
my son in his time in a therapeutic boarding
school. Also helped me learn how to
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Insightful

The book is amazing. Makes you see things clearly and gives suggestions on how to make communication better.

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Great for parents with kids in Wilderness therapy.

This book was an eye opener to a whole new way to communicate with my child and ways to help make the process work. Stay strong it is a rough road but our kids are worth it.

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Very enlightening and empowering

Greatte narration
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