The Human Magnet Syndrome

Why We Love People Who Hurt Us

By: Ross Rosenberg M.Ed. LCPC CADC

Narrated by: Todd Reinhardt

Length: 6 hrs and 53 mins

Publisher's summary

Since the dawn of civilization, men and women have been magnetically and irresistibly drawn together into romantic relationships, not so much by what they see, feel and think, but more by invisible forces. When individuals with healthy emotional backgrounds meet, the irresistible love force creates a sustainable, reciprocal and stable relationship. Codependents and emotional manipulators are similarly enveloped in a seductive dreamlike state; however, it will later unfold into a painful seesaw of love, pain, hope and disappointment. The soul mate of the codependent's dreams will become the emotional manipulator of their nightmares. Listeners of the Human Magnet Syndrome will better understand why they, despite their dreams for true love, find themselves hopelessly and painfully in love with partners who hurt them. This audiobook will guide and inspire both the layman and the professional.

©2013 CMI Education Institute (P)2013 Ross Rosenberg

Everyone should listen to this book!

Would you recommend this audiobook to a friend? If so, why?

I recommend everyone listen to this book. It not only explains personality traits and why one is attracted to another but also explains the generation before and then the effect a personality trait has on their own children. I understood a lot of what I was doing to my own children, thinking I was being a good mom, but enabling them to become either narcissistic or codependent. It was a life changer. I'm listening to it a third time and each time I learn more and more about my actions and how it may effect my children. Please read!

Really helped me understand codependency

Would you consider the audio edition of The Human Magnet Syndrome to be better than the print version?

I'm not sure - haven't read it in print but I do feel I would've had a harder time feeling as engaged had I read the print version

What was one of the most memorable moments of The Human Magnet Syndrome?

I remember realizing that the selfish nature of the alcoholic I was involved with was described to a T, meaning that it wasn't just me being critical of them or imagining how badly I was treated which helped me feel that the end of the relationship was truly for the best

Which character – as performed by Todd Reinhardt – was your favorite?

N/A

Did you have an extreme reaction to this book? Did it make you laugh or cry?

A couple of lines made me cry when I realized the person I had invested so heavily in was and never will be capable of returning my affections and that I was giving WAY more than was deserved

Any additional comments?

I think this is really helpful resource for anyone struggling with codependency (both platonic and romantic) and needing some logic as a guide. I think breaking it down into psychological contexts can help define and give structure to what otherwise feels like the losing side of emotional warfare.

Narration on this version is SO MUCH BETTER !!!

I initially bought the newer version of this book but the narrator's used car salesman type theatrical voice was so off putting and annoying tha after about a minute I knew I had to return it. I instead bought this version of the book. Even though its older, the narration is so much better and I was able to get through the book, which is really very good!

Makes a common problem between people seem hopeless

Not a great book. When you have to tell someone that something is a certain way it most often is not. In this book the author says that he is not bias. But he is...and it is fairly obvious. He was harmed by what he calls an emotional manipulator. And the tone throughout the book is that the victim can be helped but the perp absolutely cannot. It encourages the separation of the attracted couples without further consideration as the situation is hopeless. If you want a book that will help you decide to leave someone with a personality disorder this one will help you with that. If you are looking for a book to help you in your relationship take the information here with a grain of salt.

On the other side of the Coin this book allows me to see my therapists true view of situation like the content matter. It is disappointing that this book is probably mostly read by therapist or people with severe issues. The content often tries to guide therapists or reduce their confidence to be a viable helper. It uses propaganda that would often make a therapist shy away from helping what the author has termed an emotional manipulator.

Good content, but writing needs work

I really liked the concepts in this book, but I found some parts tedious. The author has a tendency to over explain himself and the process he's using to describe and define behaviors.

While it's described as being for professionals and clients, it's definitely much more geared for therapists.

If you're looking for an understanding of how and why someone (or you) gets hooked on people who hurt you in the same ways, you'll get that here. What you won't get is direction on what to do about it.

Entertaining truth

I used to have problems with narcissists... no more! Read this book and you'll know much of what you need. For more knowledge turn to 2 timothy 3 in the bible.

Dissapointed

Human magnet concept well explained, but I think it could have been done in 5 chapters. I was expecting a lot more on practical advice and tools - even if those were to be applied repetatively over many years. I felt left having more insiht into the mechanisms involved but with no tools to change these patterns.

hated this book with a passion.

author characterises Codependents as weak, submissive and helpless while promoting his disproven theory.

damaging read, he quoted a lot of outdated data.

Claudia Riecken

Surprisingly complete and insightful, the best cover on the survivors needed endeavor to change inside, after not only getting rid of abusers, but indeed, of the abused inside of us. Attract love. Self love and be brave. Thank you Ross!

A MUST listen!

One of the best out there! It's a scary realization but this book was very helpful and informative. Highly recommended.