The Gaslight Effect

You're Not Crazy, They're Gaslighting You - How to Stop Emotional Abuse, Manipulation, and Break Free from the Narcissist or Psychopath

By: Dr. Theresa J. Covert

Narrated by: Monica Wolfkill VO

Length: 10 hrs

Publisher's Summary

Still struggling from the effects of an abusive relationship?

Many people do, and sadly, there is very little information available to be found online, in the written research, or with counsellors and therapists that can help. The "gaslight effect" is not officially recognized, nor is it widely even known.

Even when it is accepted, recognized, and known, not many people seem to know what to do about it to heal it. The fact is, being in a relationship with a narcissist over a long period of time has long-lasting traumatic effects that can be extremely catastrophic to the person suffering them.

Gaslighting is "crazy-making". It makes you think that you’re actually going crazy.

Gaslighting is a way of hiding the abuse.

Gaslighting is lying with a goal.

The motive behind gaslighting is to make you think you’re crazy or that your memory doesn’t work right. So, you can’t trust yourself and your perceptions of reality. This means, you’ll defer to the abuser for an account of what’s real, so slowly, over time, the abuser becomes the authority over your life.

Gaslighting takes place in relationships, like one-on-one relationships, friendships, in family, and at work. You’ll see gaslighting on the news, and you’ll hear gaslighting coming from politicians, corporate shills, cult leaders, advertising commercials, etc.

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Happy with it

An amazing and necessary book for anyone who has ever found themself on the receiving end of this pernicious kind of emotional abuse. It's been a godsend for me, even though my gaslighting relationship is over.

Love the author!

it's unfortunate when the gaslighter is smart enough to ONLY gaslight you on things that ONLY you and the gaslighter were there for. so that you don't have fact checking options. gaslighters often refuse to communicate through texts or messengers so that you literally can't go back and have proof of something they said that can be used against them. if they are a skilled gaslighter like the ones I've had in my life, they will do this. if you have someone like this in your life, GET AWAY if you can!!!!!

Amazing book

My narcissist mom was awesome at gas lighting. When I learned this was a thing I was like I knew I wasn’t crazy. I was so mad.

Good for students

Thank you for this audiobook. This is really mind opening. Those things should be taught at schools, universities and at a corporate level.

10/10

This book was a quick read that was packed with very useful and insightful information and I'd highly recommend it for anyone in this type of toxic relationship. As you may note - NPD and other personality trait disorders found on the DSM manual can be found in anyone of any race, creed, religion, or economic status. It can be found in any type of relationship and need not be solely romantic based. This is a great book to keep on file for those of us who council others in this area of expertise and for anyone who has had the misfortune of having to endure such abuse. Remember abuse comes in many forms and need not be solely physical based

Highly Recommend!

This is honestly one of the best books about gaslighting i´ve read, it´s so on point and easy and clearly explained and even though i´ve read so much about this topic and emotional abuse in general in my life somehow this book had an eye opening effect on me once more

Awesome book

This is an informative audiobook detailing what gaslighting is, and how it can happen in various areas of your life--including ways that you perhaps didn't recognize as gaslighting. If you've ever had the misfortune of dealing with this sort of toxic behavior, I think you'll find this book to be helpful in learning how to cope and heal from it.

Great book

I truly believe everyone should listen this audiobook. Knowledge is power. Our school system has let us down so much in learning about relationships , which is something that EVERYONE mostly has in their lifetime. It truly baffles me that so many people I have met have never even heard of the term, and I’m glad we finally have a scientific term for these behaviours.This book also had a lot of support links so you could get help with many of the issues talked about in this book.I recommend for people to put this book on their tbr list

For beginners

I wish I would have found this years ago. This is a good resource for recognizing and recovering form gaslighting. The order the chapters flows somewhat awkwardly, probably because most people only read the chapters that pertain to their own experiences instead of the book in it’s entirety. Well worth listening.

Recommend this one

I thought Dr. Theresa wrote an excellent book that is very useful to anyone who has ever been around a gaslighter, and doesn't make it too intellectual, just gets straight to the point. This is a much-needed book. I thought it could do with an additional chapter about people who read this book and find themselves almost surrounded by gaslighters, because it seems there is a certain type of person that might be especially prone to their tactics. Highly recommended for anyone who has ever been around manipulative people and feels like they don't know what to do or is still processing it

I’m married to one.

I’m married to one... then I woke up and started calling bs .... he still tries occasionally but I immediately remind him why it won’t work.

Must read for everyone!

I couldn't stop listening until I finished the whole book. It was recommended to me, and boy it opened my eyes to the root of problematic patterns and high anxiety in people been gaslighted from narcissistic individuals.
The book explains the different scenarios with the emphasis of self care and love than focusing on the shame and guilt. It also provides tips how to deal with these scenarios, recovery and then healing.
Gas lighting is more common than we realise and it is a good book that raise awareness with simplicity and professionally.

A must have!!!😀😀

I've lived with a sociopath for over 30 years and until I watched this I'd never heard of gaslighting but boy he does this to me all the time. Amazing.Thank you.

Great one.

Someone I know gaslights everyone who opposes him, and he also lectures me about the "evil" people I'm around. I told him that he should go easy on tthe spray tan, but he lies and says he just has jaundice which I remember he dosent.

Life Changing

Why do people do this to people? I’ve experienced it for years, kind of have to walk away from those types of people they don’t change

Excellent

My mother purposefully triggers panic attacks and says things to make me cry so that she can gaslight me on arguments we've had. She gets me somewhere nobody is watching (or someone of a low enough social power they can't help) and calls me names and treats me badly. Now, I record things on my phone so that she can't lie about what happened.

Great book to answer beginning questions.

One helpful clue: if a person is complaining about either men in general or women in general, the problem may not entirely be with the other person.

LOVE IT!

Both of my parents are abusive narcissists. Their favorite phrases are "that never happened", "you don't know what you are talking about", "I never said that".

Must buy!

I was gaslighted in every romantic relationship I’ve had with a man. I’m finally making a fresh start to understand myself so my next one will be healthy for me and him

This book is perfect

My ex-boyfriend did this to me and I'm not sure he even realized he was doing it. I've always wondered whether he was a sociopath and a narcissist.