The Emotionally Absent Mother

A Guide to Self-Healing and Getting the Love You Missed

By: Jasmin Lee Cori MS LPC

Narrated by: Emily Durante

Length: 6 hrs and 40 mins

Publisher's summary

Was your mother too busy, too tired, or too checked out to provide you with the nurturing you needed as a child? Men and women who were "undermothered" as children often struggle with intimate relationships, in part because of their unmet need for maternal care.

The Emotionally Absent Mother will help you understand what was missing from your childhood, how this relates to your mother's own history, and how you can fill the "mother gap" by:

• Examining the past with compassion for yourself and your mother
• Finding the child inside of you and learning to mother yourself
• Opening to the archetype of the good mother
• Allowing friends and loved ones to provide support, guidance, and other elements of good mothering that you missed

Psychotherapist Jasmin Lee Cori traces perceived personal "defects" back to mothering deficits, relieving self-blame. And by teaching today's undermothered adults to cultivate the mothering they missed, she helps them secure happier futures - for themselves and their children.

©2010 Jasmin Lee Cori (P)2015 Tantor

Critic reviews

"This book is a revelation to those of us whose mothering was short of what we needed." (Connie Dawson, PhD, coauthor of Growing Up Again: Parenting Ourselves, Parenting Our Children)

Great book!

A must read for anyone who has had a preoccupied mother. This book allows for true healing to take place.

Excellent book

Excellent book, it was very insightful and painfully helpful for me. I'll have to buy the paper back and go through it again.

Transformative and healing

I listened to this book over the course of a couple of months while journaling what it brought up for me. This book was the basis for my transformative healing. The first half of the book validated everything I had experienced but had spent years thinking I was making up. And then the second half gently led me forward, teaching me how to heal,take care of myself and so much more . By the end if the book I was truly a different person. It was incredible. I am so grateful for this book. Listening to the audible version was also very relaxing. I could take it all in while lying with my eyes closed.

Great book 4 healing

I think this book has some depth in healing and separating today verses yesterday and how to move past the absent mother.

Was painful to go through but healing to release

one word: healing

If you could sum up The Emotionally Absent Mother in three words, what would they be?

helped me heal

What did you like best about this story?

I liked that this is not a blame game for mothers. It's about making us understand why mothers did what they did. That helped me so much to see my mother differently and it helped me to stop blaming her, she was a victim of life circumstances herself. This book is amazing. In just these hours it took me to listen to it I made more progress than in 40 years of my life.

Have you listened to any of Emily Durante’s other performances before? How does this one compare?

no

Did you have an extreme reaction to this book? Did it make you laugh or cry?

no, but it opened my heart

Any additional comments?

I think this book replaces lifetime of therapy

Eye Opening

I found this book to be very helpful and eye opening. It gave me much needed insight

This book will save you years of therapy

I have been in and out of therapy for 25 years and have never come across such a powerful self help resource as this book. It is clear, concise, and every word has impact. I cannot express my gratitude for how this book is helping me understand my mother, myself, my relationships, and my fellow human beings. Thank you Jasmin Lee Cori for helping the under mothered of this world.

Poignant & Helpful...

Not coming from an overt abusive mother I couldn't pin point why I feel so distant & hurt at times in my relationship w/ her. But The author here gives specific behaviors of how mothers & daughters 'connect' or don't and how the 'psychological patterns' of the mother effect the connectedness to the Dtr. The focus is on the Dtrs healing which Provides hope. The so thot discusses 10 characteristics of a 'good mother' and encourages reflection to whether you got that or not. Not leaving you hanging if you didn't get that good love from your mother, she goes on to encourage healing. She provides specific things, that as an adult, U can put into action- which I have found effective. Although not having a good mother, is no place anyone wants to find themselves…the book to me was informative and helpful.

good book

really enjoyed this book, very insightful and healing I would recommend this book to friends

Recommend

Easy to listen to, very hands on in my opinion, I recommend also trying the exercises (at home or other private place)